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An observation about humility & forgiveness
March 18, 2009
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I experienced something both rather surprising and profound recently.

See, a couple of nights ago I realized that I was being an insensitive jerk to my fiance and sincerely apologized and asked him for his forgiveness?

It wasn't lip service at all, as when I asked for him to forgive me....I was kind of sitting at the edge of my seat as he could have said yes or no - but he said that he did.

(Grant it, I didn't cheat on him or do anything illegal - just being extremely inconsiderate.)

What an incredible surprise!!!!!

I never would have thought in a million years that asking for forgiveness from a real place of humility....and getting it could unburden me to this incredible degree!!!!

I think that I have forgot all about this for many years.

Does anyone else remember a time when you were a kid and you did something wrong or hurtful to another kid and were made to "go over there and tell little Johnny so and so that you are sorry!"

How just that little interaction made me feel so much better as well as to the kid I apologized to.

I forgot all about this until recently.

It made me feel real and human and perfectly....imperfect.


I have since realized that the act of asking for forgiveness (something that my father should ask me for) would make him feel better as well - only this is his option not to choose to swallow his own pride and I have no control over that.

Asking for forgiveness and receiving it has made me realize that sometimes I hurt and sometimes I exude hurt on someone else.

The human condition.

I know this sounds really simple, but maybe somewhere along the way in this generation, we forget those little, important lessons, you know?

Asking someone for forgiveness and receiving it brings closure all the way around and allows me to get back to a normal, clear-headed, do-over frame of mind, heart and soul.

(Makes me wonder...do parents even tell their kids anymore to 'go over there and say you are sorry?')

(Maybe if they did, there would be no need for TV shows like "The Nanny" or new occupations such as a "Life Coach!"....you know?)

I have noticed my depression improve remarkedly....almost overnight since doing this and even googled: 'humility antithesis depression' and came up with this interesting link on humility:


Grant it, it speaks of humility as it pertains to the business world/leaders, but I thought that it brought up some interesting points insomuch as recognizing your own limitations.

I don't think of humility so much as a 'moral virtue' - per se, or anything that involves religion for that matter, just one that just makes some plain, good old fashioned common sense!!!!!

Feeling pretty grounded and well-rounded today and just thought that I would share this rather surprising insight..........

March 18, 2009
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I make my kids apologize all the time I do think its very important often they dont realize the wrong that they have done until they have to apologize for it.

March 23, 2009
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Good for you RW2.

(Was starting to think that adults/parents who did this was a rare form....rather passe.)

Nice and refreshing to know that this is still being practiced!!!!!

Kudos to you!!!!!!

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