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alone vs. lonely
March 12, 2006
11:57 pm
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Hi guys,
Well - it HAS been awhile............I think at least 4 weeks. I was thinking of you guys though. I have attended 7 sessions of the Divorce Care group and a recent one was on the difference between being alone and being lonely.

Alone was defined as: separate, whole, and unique. It went on to say that people who marry sometimes are not good at being alone and they are looking for somebody else to fill in qualities you should try to develop as an individual. I thought it was provocative.

One individual even went as far as to say: Some people get married to become single! Meaning they aren't whole to begin with -so, marrying somebody won't do it either.

I will respond to you guys again soon - I have missed you and feel like I'm missing out because I won't know what people are talking about for awhile!

Smiles,
Hope

March 13, 2006
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Hope,

Good to see you around again. It's been a while. You dropped off quite suddenly the last time and I wondered if anything had happened to you.

I liked DivorceCare so much I joined two groups. They're better for me than CoDA. We're only on Lessons 2 and 3, though.

Did you finish "I Surrender All"?

Seeker

March 15, 2006
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Hope,

Hope you and your three children are doing well. When you're back on the threads for a while, let me know. We have things I'd like to catch up on.

Seeker

March 20, 2006
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seeker,
hey - I know I dropped out unexpectedly. Adding that additional night out really threw me for a loop. I also got distracted by a guy who wanted to date me. But, I know that is wrong at this point in my life.

Me and the children are doing well........and yes, not only did I read "I Surrender All", but both my parents also ready it.

Also - I told my stbx that he needs to get back into counseling because he was back on those sex personals again and this time I could tell that he was really escalating. So, I told him to get back into counseling or else I would have it court ordered. He was really angry with me, and I knew he would be, but he has an appointment Tuesday.

He now is retracting that he is a sex addict and that he just told me that last summer to appease me. LOL right!

That is so cool you are doing 2 Divorcecare groups. I am going to keep going after the final session and also possibly invite additional women who might benefit from it that I know.

Wow - I am blabbing way too much here!

I'll see ya on some other posts.......tonight I gotta log off soon, but maybe I can play tag with you on Tuesday?

Smiles,
Hope

March 21, 2006
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Hi Hope,

This has to be a quick post. I'm tutoring my student tonight and may not be able to get on the site tonight. If I don't, it's not for lack of desire. I'll be on tomorrow early morning if not tonight.

Take care!

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March 22, 2006
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Seeker,
I need a rain check..........my daughter was up a lot last night sick. Check ya Friday sometime. I don't have the energy to give caring feedback tonight. My 2 yr old niece was diagnosed with leukemia last Monday as well. Prayers for her appreciated.

Smiles,

Hope

March 22, 2006
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Hope,

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter, and your niece. My prayers will be with you. Don't worry about posting me; I know you have your hands full, and I'm sorry to hear your stbxh is giving you grief still. I see he's changed his mind and has decided to fight the divorce.

Take care, and remember how much God loves you and is happy with you for your faith in him and your courage in changing your life around.

Wishing you the best,
Seeker

March 23, 2006
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Hope,

Just to let you know I'll be praying for you today. I hope your daughter is doing better and that your niece will go into remission. Take care of yourself through all this, okay?

Smiles back at you,
Seeker

March 23, 2006
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Hope,

I know I'm posting you a lot lately; I apologize for not waiting till you get back, but there's a website I wanted you to know about:

Boundless.org

This is a Christian site that talks about issues such as dating for Christians. There was an article about why some guys choose to not date because it too often leads to sex. I've haven't looked at the site in depth, but it sure looks good. I thought you might like it.

Good for you for holding out for your ideal to not date. I have no doubt this won't be the first time you'll have to turn somebody down.

I had no idea you could mandate anything for your stbx in your divorce settlement. I thought once you were done with each other, you're done. I guess it's part of the custody arrangements.

By the way, it's nice to see I'm not the only one capable of blabbing!

Later, Seeker

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