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Afghan Sisters.....Starting a NEW year TOGETHER.....
January 4, 2007
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Hello ladies just wanted to stop in and wish you all a happy and prosperous NEW YEAR. Im slow I know. Did everyone eat thier black-eyed peas?

Take Care 🙂 Thumkin

January 4, 2007
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HI thumkin.....good to see you. I too wish you a Happy New Year. You deserve it. Love to you...Mich

Do I have any sisters? Or are you ALL hiding under the afghan? Seriously, come out, come out...wherever you are.....

Love to you...

Mich

January 4, 2007
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((thumkin)) Thank you for the wishes and no I did not eat my blackeyed peas or cabbage(hate cabbage).

Mich, I am here, don't know where anyone else is...had a tough day,,,but survived...this whole surgery has thrown me for a loop...so not me....trying to stay positive...trying...

Love,..............gg

January 4, 2007
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glad you are ok gg. Things will get better.
holding you close...(((GG)))

Mich

January 4, 2007
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(((mich)))) thank you....

January 4, 2007
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Hi everyone...

I have been busy today with taking care of my sweet boy Jake.. He slept until 1:30 in the afternoon.. His fever finally broke this afternoon.. but his stomach is still upset. He managed to eat some rice tonight.. Poor thing has not eaten solid food since Monday!

GG-- I am holding you.. Please don't forget that..

Mich-- hope all is well with you and my nieces and nephews.. Hope they are all healthy.. It is so draining when the kids are sick..
love to you my sister.

Cyndra-- hi sister.. Hope that you are continuing with your love affair with yourself.. I hope that you are getting FIB out of the head..

Thumkin-- Happy New Year to you...!!
Thanks for posting.. It was good to see your name again..

love to all..
PONDSCUM FREE NEED

January 5, 2007
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Hey Scumfree need! I am so glad Jake is finally better...I know it has been a rough week for you....Did you ever make it to work or did slugshit pitch in and help? Sure could use subway for lunch today, but not if he is not ready to eat...

Mich: Thanks for ALWAYS offering to hold me close...even in cyberspace, the thought is so special...

Cyn: hey, haven't heard from you but hope you are well...holding you close in my heart

LL: don't know where you are, but not forgetting you!!!

And to everyone else, so many sisters, cousins (hey kroika!), and friends, thank you for all your kindness, and hope your new year is starting well...

Love, gg

January 5, 2007
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Hi GG~ Thanks for thinking of me!! How're you feeling? I know that leg is troublesome to say the least.

I've been busy with work. We have a new administration so that means all of us peons running around to accommodate the new chief. UGH!!!

Subway does sound wonderful, but I think I'm going to a restaurant with some of my co-workers who want to go out for lunch.

Need~ The love affair continues!!! LOL I have been able to keep FIB out of my head for the most part. He isn't worth dwelling on at all. I'm glad Jake's fever broke. Now if only the poor baby can eat something more substantial than rice. ((((Jake)))) even if he doesn't know me.

Mich~ Thank you so much for encouraging me to write that letter. It did help heal a part of me that was still hurting and refusing to let go. You know that feeling I see. I did read your letter to your FIL. I think you need to tell him, but that just my humble opinion.

Friendma~ I hope all is well with you. I hope your new year is starting out well.

LL~ the silent sister. I hope all is well with you too. I know you have your hands full with so much including recovery. Just remember to take time out to nurture your soul.

Okay, I'm going back to work. I love you all very much!!

Cyn

January 5, 2007
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Hey All Sweet Sisters~

As promised yesterday, here is our afternoon cocoa mugs with the fudge brownies I made yesterday for my friend's birthday.

Please help yourself to a mug of hot cocoa and to a serving of fudge as much as you want. I made a generous batch. So don't be shy to eat to your heart's contents.

Thrilled to know that things are settling down with you all. I told you b4 after the rain comes the sunshine. Funny coz today we've had a rainy day AND yesterday we've had a real sunny day. ROFLLLLLLLLLLLLL

January 5, 2007
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Hey Ras, thanks I really could use that snack now after p.t....and funny thing here,,,,poured yesterday, rained all day,,,today sunny and 70 degrees!!

Hear that mich? 70 degrees, warm, sunny south...how I like it!!!

January 5, 2007
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gg, hear this....SO WHAT. :o)

I love you.

Hey girls...I am doing ok. Not great, not horrible. I went to see Jim this morning...talked some about the goings on, here and in my real life. I left out a FEW major details in the real life part....BUT, I will get there..I think. It is just going to take time.

Cyn, I talked to Jim about that today....funny thing there...Jim thinks that I should send the letter too. I don't know that I will, but time will tell. He did give me a few other ideas on how to handle the situation, so we will see.

LL, seriously...you were around for a few days and then gone again. What is up with that? Stop in and say hi if you get the time. Just know that I love you and I am thinking of you. I miss you more than I can possibly put into words.

Need, I am glad that Jake is feeling a little better. I hope he continues to progress. I miss you. I hope that all is well with you. It is almost your birthday...smile...

All the rest that pop in, Ras, Thumkin...and all the rest...I love you all. I hope that all is well with all of you. You are all in my thoughts.

Love

Mich

January 5, 2007
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Oh Mich honey - I forgot to tell you that - I know you are a woman with a golden heart despite your agonies, problems and being a mom of 4 kids...oh how much I admire that. I only have 1 kitty and sometimes she drives me nuts! I remember interacting with you on many threads where you were at your end wits and feeling somehow suicidal and I offered you help.

But I would highly recommend you as loving sister and cyberfriend who cares about your well-being to stay away from Lolli - she is nothing but a fool & a troublemaker. On a number of many occasions that took place here, she caused problems several times and as you can see, she still does! Don't even bother to ask for her opinions, you would only be chided, rebuked or ignored!

The same advice I would extend to the other loving Sisters here. Stay away from this gal - she is Nothing but trouble!!!

Sometimes its hard to discern the nature of people here on the cyberworld. But a wise person is able to discern and to heed the advice!

Sending all the sweet sisters~ vibes of love and cheers!!!

January 5, 2007
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Nice post Ras....Can we say PROJECTION?

Still think I'm wrong girls?

She's all yours! LOL

January 5, 2007
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No Lolli, I think she pointed out the obvious...that's all. That is ok. We can all speak freely, and be heard. We know who you are, but it was ok for her to tell us her opinion as well. It isn't as if it differed from ours.

Mich

(((Lolli)))

And as I told you on "your" thread....we'll take her.

January 5, 2007
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Ras, it is my belief based on the above post, that you have sunk to an all-time low. I have always respected you as a poster, but THAT is absolutely uncalled for. No matter WHO it was intended for. It is offensive to me, and it has absolutely nothing to do with me whatsoever.

I would hope you will re-read your post and see it for what it is! Don't know what else to say...that left me speechless.

Plz~

January 5, 2007
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Ras: I have been staying out of this but I agree with Plz. I've never seen you behave like this.

Those comments are way beyond the intent of this site and perhaps you should rethink them?

SD

January 5, 2007
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Yeeeeouchhh!!

Hi Plz and SD!

January 5, 2007
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Good Evening Sisters~

Oh my, have I stopped in at a bad time here? ah, maybe I will come back at a better time…or maybe I’m just dreaming here (yes still a lack of sleep) and having a flashback of not my better times on AAC …guess either way since I’m around these parts I’ll post…

Ok do I start with you all or what’s been going on with me? Since I am still, and will always be the big sister - I’ll go first : )

*Been working, sleeping, attending Coda meetings, just feeling awesome & soooo positive and continuing right on with my journey and then its just more of that….wash, rinse, repeat. *Yes, the exH still walks among my home- now the latest plan of attack (suggested by a co-worker) is to call his probation officer and let’em know he is not wanted here and that he won’t leave. I like the idea although I’m not sure what his probation officer can do. But anything is worth a try because apparently what I have been trying with the …“Hey, could you please go…Hey, you need to leave my home…HEY you are not wanted here….GO…Hey, listen buddy if I have to I’ll get the police involved …!” has not worked. Got to be honest girls after getting all pumped up last night thinking just maybe this nightmare is going to finally come to an end---it truly scares me to think of the host of other issues I may end up dealing with in the head… these last 3 yrs he has f*cked with my head more then throughout the entire marriage. Don’t know - guess I will cross that bridge if I ever get there. *And that is about it other then Mr Potato head finally broke his weeks, his months of silence. Not sure why, though when I asked he said to help me quit looking pathetic (my words - not his, to give him credit). Nothing of significance to report on that other than it has left me feeling a little numb and confused- still believe it would be easier if he would just shut any door I could find opening to him. Us codependents apparently have a tough time letting go and moving on : ) and sometimes we need a push-like perhaps “being hit in the face hard”. That one usually wakes my ass up!

Need~ Happy Birthday to you a little early!! Hope Jake is feeling better now and I am SO happy to hear you still are being a pondscum free kinda woman : ) As I have said before I’m not the one to follow the lead on how to succeed in maintaining NC. Wished I could have had a success story on that part of my journey but all has its reasoning for happening and for me, guess I just needed a few more life lessons. Can't get enough of them.

Cyndra~ I don’t see an update from you other than you sound busy at work…what’s been happening with FIB (wasn’t that for f*cking idiot boyfriend?!)

GG~ I’ll have to make it over to read the thread about church experiences…sounds interesting. Sorry to hear about the need for the 2nd surgery and hope that you heal up and get back up on your feet soon.

Michy~ So your still doing those jello shots, huh?! Sounds like their holiday tradition type of thing….What the heck are they anyways?! I see you are managing the home front ---and that’s all I’ll say on that – “love ya sweet thing!” ; ) and oh NO about the FIL thing - did you send the letter? And what if anything has Jay done about it. And Jim…how’s Jim (!)…glad to hear that he is still an active part of you healing…

(((Friendma))) hope all is going well for you.

As always, good to see you ((Lolli)), and you too (((MamaC))) {the kinda mama’s we need more of!}, and Ras don’t sure what is happening, not sure I really want to as its not sounding too good, too healthy, or too positive at the moment but do know as Mich has said,“We’ll take her!” Anyone and everyone has always been welcomed under the veil of the mighty afghan!! (((Ras)))

Alrighty… need to catch Walter, the lil’ terd, as he’s been raising hell here and then I am off to shower and head out to work!!

LOVE YOU ALL LL

January 6, 2007
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LL-- It was good to see you post again.. I know that you have been busy with work and Walter.. How is the puppy? My Mandy has been quite a stir around here lately.. But then again she is a terrier!!

Girls-- thanks for asking about Jake. I kept him out of school again today.. even though his fever broke. He was able to eat more food and keep it down but he was so tired that I kept him home another day. Turns out that he had a substitute teacher today..

When their father came to pick the boys up for the weekend, he did not even ask me how Jake felt or even if he went to school today. He stood at the curb.. I called him and gave him the update and also informed him that Matt had homework to do this weekend. He is a SLUGSHIT.. My friend that has been staying with me witnessed it herself...

I have some information about THE STUDMAN-- remember me telling you all about my BOY TOY??? Well a friend of mine found him on another web site and she told him that she knew someone that knows him and gave him only a hint -- PARKING LOT!!!!

Well, guess what.... He Remembered my name!! and he said that if it was not me then he did not have a clue!!

That 4 hour marathon was over 2 and a half years ago.. Guess I did make an impression with the BOY TOY after all..

Pondscum called me three times today but I did not answer.. I do not feel like talking to him at all...

I am having a good time with my friends. Tonight after the boys went with their father, my best friend, her two kids and her twin sister went out to dinner with me.. We had a great time..

I am making a new and happier life for myself..

GG-- hope all is well with you and your recovery from surgery.. I love you and I miss talking with you..

Mich-- thanks again for thinking of your little nephew Jake.. I am glad that you were able to talk with Jim.
I love you.. and thanks for reminding me about my birthday.. I am turning 37.. How time flies..

Cyndra-- glad to hear that you are getting FIB out of your head.. You go girl!! I am in the same boat as you!! Guess what I found at Target that I think I am going to buy for Sloppy Joe's Restaurant?? An ATM machine; THey can deposit real money and take out money from their account which even gives the balance. Unfortunately without Chef Jake Sloppy Joe's has not been in business lately.. THey could have made some money on delivery but they could NOT charge anyone because they felt bad having different prices for all of their Aunties.. so the Family delivery rate is FREE..
THey will have to send out some birthday cake when we celebrate on Sunday with my friends...

Ras-- It was good to see your post. I hope that you and Lala are fine. I am always thinking about you, girl and I love and care about you...

Love to all

NEED

January 6, 2007
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LL-- thanks for the early birthday wishes.. Tomorrow is going to be a good day for me because I will be surrounded by lots of friends.. the boys will be returning home tomorrow night just in time for birthday cake!!

I will check back later after work.. Then I will be bowling tonight. I am bowling against my best friend. We will have a good time.. and yes, sisters, no drinking for me.. that is a promise..

love and hugs to all,

Pondscum Free NEED

January 6, 2007
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LL,

First, let me say this....LMAO.

Second, I am glad to hear that you are starting to think about getting th exh out again. That would be SO good for you. I am sorry to hear about Mr. Potato head. LL, don't let yourself get hurt again. LET HIM GO. You deserve so much better. I don't want to see you hurt again. You are a MUCH better person than that. You deserve to be genuinely loved and cared about. You have a heart of Gold. Don't let it get hurt by him again...PLEASE.

Jell-O shots, are a thing of the past. I can't do anymore..makes me sick. And I don't like how often I was doing them, or how often...I am done for a while I think.

NO, I didn't send the letter to FIL. Though Jim thinks that I really should. We will see. He also gave me some ideas of things to say should it happen again. Jim was MAD. (As he has been a friend of FIL's for YEARS) We will see. Jay had NO comments to make....another point in time of feeling NO validation.

Miss you so much. I hope that you continue to grow in your emotional health...know that we are here...anytime that you want to or need to talk...Regardless to the beliefs of some, there has been GREAT and wonderful things happen, healing and growth under the "veil of the mighty afghan." Glad to see that it has made such an impact on so many.

I love you LL. It was nice to hear from you. I would love to tell you that you had been having a bad dream but I am afraid that would not be the case. It is the same nightmare that you had six weeks ago, and 5 months ago, and wherever in between there you might have seen the same BS taking place. So you could show up daily...it wouldn't really matter. Just proves that the people here are human too. We all have things in common, real pain, and hurts....but we are still all human..and we CAN'T agree all of the time....here or in the real world.

I LOVE YOU LL..and I miss you terribly.

Mich

((((((((((lovinglife)))))))))))

January 6, 2007
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SD & Plz~

Did you know that Lolli called me that I was "Out of my mind" on Robert's thread? I didn't see any of you jumping in all of a sudden telling her off or that she was being rude of misbehaving????

When this is told to a decent, wise and respectful person like me, it hurts a lot. But since I know about Lolli and what kind of person she is, it didn't hurt me. In fact, fools always twist the truth around and that's something expected from them.

At least what I mentioned about Lolli is very true!!! If you were both wise people SD & PLZ - you wouldn't be upset coz that is the truth about Lolli.

When Lolli told me that "I was out of mind" on the other thread, did any of you or even any others here come to my defence???

Why????

I have been helping here a numerous number of people, volunteering my time, knowledge, wisdom, resources...to help out folks here despite my pain, agonies and the healing process I am going thru.

What about her other thread "Lolli's update" did any of you, SD or PLZ, jump in there to see the amount of Gossips & Plots from her and her followers against me? Did any of you butt in to defend me and stop her wicked ill-speaking about me as an innocent decent person who helped so many others here???

Only and only MICH. She was the only person who came to my aid and spoke the truth and defended ME which of course displeased Lolli since she does not like to hear the truth.

Did any of you or others come over to my aid when Lolli attacked me as a decent person??? In fact, given the history as troublemaker, Lolli attempted to attack me many times, but thru God's grace, I was able to keep my distance from her and that made her as a wicked person hate me even more and want to harm me whenever possible.

A wise person loves the truth!!! If any one you is not pleased of what I mentioned about Lolli, then I would assume that you are both either "like her" or "naive" as I used to be before when I came 1st here to this site.

As a spiritual person, Yes, I LOVE LOLLI and I still do as a Christian, BUT the Bible teaches us to stay away from fools coz they cause nothing but trouble & misery.

Believe me darlings: SD& PLZ & Others, it is NOT my intention to speak ill of any one. But, MICH was the ONLY one who came to my help and defence on this forum. I found out that I only have ONE single true friend on this forum. A true friend comes to the help of his friend when his friend is attacked.

Sd: I can't believe you're displeased over this. You and I were always good friends.

Love, Ras~

January 6, 2007
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Ras: You have blown this way out of proportion and perpetuated it- in my opinion. I am not going to try and defend myself against your statement that I am unwise, a fool, blah, blah blah. I am not going to participate in this any further. Ras, I think there are some problems in how you react to people and misterpret their intentions as well as what they say if it conflicts with your opinion. I have not participated in any threads of yours in a very long time for this reason. I gave up. As I am doing now.

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January 6, 2007
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Ras~ I am sorry you are feeling the way you are. I like and respect you alot. However, the comments you have made about Lolli, SD, and Plz are out of line.

No matter how you may feel about them namecalling is not acceptable. It goes against the rules and purpose of this site.

Please stop engaging all this energy in negative emotion. Nothing good can come of it. So, I'm asking you to please stop.

Thank you.

Love,
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January 6, 2007
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(((MICH)))) & (((Afghan Sisters))) You are my ONLY TRUE friends here on this site! After 2 years of being here and helping so many people, I found out that only (((MICH))) was a brave, courageous woman of principles who stood by my side, spoke the truth about me and defended me!

Sigh...tomorrow is Need's birthday. (((Need))) I wish you the Happiest Most Blessed Birhtday!!!! I know you are a very good friend too and (((GG))) as well. You both had your own trials lately, just like me, and I was keeping you both in my prayers.

(((LL))) Nice to see you again, I did not speak with you for a long time.

I leave you with this prayer which I love to read and it gives me so much comfort. I hope it will give you the same comfort it gives to me:

~ I believe in the sun even when it is not shining.

~ I believe in love even when not feeling it.

~I believe in God even when He is silent.

~Have a GREAT Evening ALL! Ras~

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