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Afghan Sisters.....Starting a NEW year TOGETHER.....
January 1, 2007
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Happy New Year to all my sisters...

I LOVE YOU ALL. Thank you for all of your love, support, and thanks for being you....

January 1, 2007
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Happy New Year 2007 to all of my sisters...

Thank you all for being in my life

and I do love and care about you all!!

Thank you for giving me all of your love, care,
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Here is to a New Year to all
of us

~LOVE~
NEED

January 1, 2007
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HAPPY NEW YEAR SISTERS

January 1, 2007
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Happy New Year Mama...Good to see you...HOW ARE YOU?

Well girls...me, the holidays, and jell-o shots...a BAD combination....one I should probably give up...I am pretty sick this morning....!!

I have my dads family Christmas today...not looking forward to that..AT ALL. Being COMPLETELY hung over probably will NOT help the situation out much but...oh well.

Anyway girls. I hope you all have a BEAUTIFUL New Years Day....know that I am thinking of all of you. I love you all.

Mich

(((Mama)))

(((GG)))(((LL)))(((Cyn)))(((Need)))

And where is Friendma? (((Friendma)))

January 1, 2007
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Yea I made it through 2006!!!! Yea WE ALL made it through 2006!!!

Onward into 2007 sisters....

~ * ~ *Happy New Years Day* ~ * ~

and Oh GG & Cyndra... New Years Day is always January 1st just like the last day of December is always December 31st!!!

Have a Great Day Michy : ) give those precious nieces & nephews of mine a hug & kiss from me …

January 1, 2007
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Happy New Year to my sisters.....
Let's take those positives of 2006 and carry them into our new 2007!!!

Love to you all here!!!

January 1, 2007
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LovingLife...ENOUGH of the smart ass remarks ok....your TEACHER set the date....NOT US. Leave it in the last thread... :o)

I love you sweet thing...

Mich

Your nieces and nephews will enjoy the day...it is me that I am worried about...they are too young to see the truth for what it is...THANK GOD.

January 1, 2007
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Happy New Year!!

Mich-- sorry to hear that you are not feeling the greatest this morning..

I am not drinking anymore because I am taking the Paxil..

((GG)) ((MICH)) ((LL)) ((CYNDRA))

((FRIENDMA))--where are you?

Good to hear from you Mama!!

January 1, 2007
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Sisters, you know I have too much free time now, but I want you to read what i posted...now keep in mind my issues, so it is on more than one post , like 3 for sure, ....libs...about church experiences...when you have time....

January 1, 2007
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ah Michy.... hey I love you too : )

(((((((((Mich)))))))))

January 1, 2007
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Happy New Year Sisters!!!

GG, I'll go and look at what you wrote.

January 1, 2007
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GG~ I looked at the thread you and Bev have.

Spirituality is a very personal thing. I don't think you need to have a formal belief system to be spiritual or have a strong faith. You can develop your own.

Her interpretations of the omipotent God are interesting. I'd have to re-read before commenting. I've grown up in several difficult cultures so the traditional Christian belief isn't something I follow. I have trouble with the guilt that is heaped out in a lot of churches today.

My great-great-grandmother is Jewish so between that and the Catholics I've got a conner market on guilt. But I grew up in Hawaii where there are Christians, but there are those who still believe in the ancient gods and goddesses. It made me research and question several things.

I began to realize that many of the things we practice don't have much to do with what's actually written in the Bible rather than people taking portions of holy writings and using them for other purposes.

I see my God in everything from sunsets to dolphins playing. I see Him in nature and science. To me there is little difference between the Golden Rule and Karma.

I'll read her post that Loralei liked so much. I probably won't agree with her, but that won't be anything new.

Love,
Cyndra

January 1, 2007
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cyn: I believe in God and a Holy Spirit...I have just gotten away from it and want to get back to it...I just don't seem to know how or have some issue now...Or am I making excuses...I am so confused...and yes, it is so personal...normally, I keep thoughts like that to myself....but these are not normal times....

Love, gg

January 1, 2007
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Hi GG,

I posted on the thread you and Bev have.

January 1, 2007
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Thank you cyn....I think I am really losing focus...

January 2, 2007
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okay, it is three o'clock in the a.m. and having major anxiety...it has been a long time since one of these nights...First had a upsetting phone call from a friend, then my girls got into this verbal fight at one in the morning and that is unusual, and then finally nervousness i guess towards the second surgery which is now tomorrow...

So I am here just talking this out to myself knowing all is fast asleep or maybe working...how to declutter this mind?

January 2, 2007
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Good Morning Girls...

How are ya? I am ok. I slept 9 hours last night....well needed.

So I survived my dads Christmas...I think that I will attempt to not have to do that next year. It is too painful to me.

GG, I am sorry that you have to go through another surgery. I will be around today if you need to talk. I am holding you close sweetheart.

Cyn, how are you? I am hoping that you are doing ok. How are you feeling since you wrote the letter to FIB? Do you think that helped you at all?

LL, how are YOU? It has been nice to see you around so much lately. It makes it almost like old times.... :o) That is something that I miss. And just so that you are aware...I know that you love me...and I love you too....

Need, what is up girlfriend? How are my little nephews? They still playing "subway." Tell them aunt Mandy id hungry. Funny how things work, but I saw plastic subway food at WalMart the other day and the first thing that I thought of was your boys. How sweet they are.

Friendma....where have you gone? How are you? And how is your daughter? I hope that she is finally feeling better.

Ok girls, I am gonna get out of here for a little bit...just hanging out cleaning this morning...will be in and out.

Love to you all. Much Love. Miss you all.

Mich

((((((SISTERS))))))

January 2, 2007
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Good morning mich! Sorry about your dad's Christmas...You sound like you have had a busy holiday...Just remember we cannot change people only ourselves....I keep saying that a lot to myself....

With so little sleep, I feel like I have a hangover, yet, no alcohol...

I am trying to think of something positive now or look at the positive today, but I am struggling here...oh well, that's life...

I hope all my sisters are having a good start in the New Year whether it be at work, home, or whereever they are....Love you...........gg

January 2, 2007
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Happy New Year girls!

gg- another surgery? (((gg))) Try to relax cutie-pie, it will be OK- you will get through this.

(((Mich))) Been thinking of you honey.

January 2, 2007
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Good morning everyone!!

GG, I am sorry that you have to have more surgery. I'll be sending out positive thoughts to you!!

Mich, sorry it wasn't so good at your dad's. Sometimes staying away from family is the best thing to do. If you get together for the kids, then do it some place fun for them. Forgo the whole "traditional" thing.

I did feel better after writing the letter. Still don't know if I'll send it, but it did act as an escape valve for all that negativity, you know.

LL, I hope you have a good holiday season. I hope the home front is good.

Need, how was your New Years? How is your friend? Is she still in a lot pain?

Friendma, I hope you enjoyed your family as usual.

Love to all.

Cyndra

January 2, 2007
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Isis, I am doing ok...how are you?

Cyn, I think that I want to start new traditions..and....I think that I am going to write a letter to my dad. Hmmm, take my own advice? That would be a novel idea, huh? I have about had it with not feeling validated by my family, for my feelings on the goings on in my life...maybe I will write two letters and fill you on a new situation that I am dealing with...we will see....at least the one letter...one step at a time...too much will put me into over drive, I think. Oh, shit...I was hoping that the stress would ease after the holidays....and we still have one more Christmas this next Saturday....ughhh. Oh well.

Anyway...I love you and I will chat with you soon.

(((Cyn))), just because I felt like it, (((GG))) because I know you need it, (((ll))), because I miss you so much, (((Need))) because you are so sweet, and I look up to you and how good you are with your kids...and hello....(((Friendma))) where have you been hiding, I miss you too....

(((Isis)))thanks for caring enough to pop in....

(((mich)))...just cause I need one....

January 2, 2007
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Ok, this one had to come first....The emotion with this one...is WAY more prominent than the other...

So here goes....

Dear FIL,

Here is the thing…I love you more than I can even put into words. You are a VERY important person to me, in my life. You have been there, you have supported me, you have loved me and you have cared about me…I appreciate all of that. I hope that you understand how much that all means to me…..There are not enough words out there for me to tell you.

However, there are also not enough words to describe how much you hurt me the other night. I know that it may seem innocent to you. I have tried to tell myself that this is really a non-issue. I have tried to tell myself that it is because we were all drinking, I have tried to tell myself that I am making this a problem, when there is no need to do so. The truth is, I would be neglecting my feelings to let this go. New Years Eve…you hurt me a LOT. You left me feeling insecure, scared, vulnerable, and ashamed.

New Years Eve was NOT the first time that this has been an issue either. That is part of what concerns me. Now, while sitting there, playing cards you were staring. When your g/f asked you what is was that you were staring at, you said….MY BREASTS. Now, I was surprised by your response, to a point that I said absolutely nothing. Not because I didn’t have feelings about it….I was too taken back. I was TRULY baffled that there was not a comment to be made at all by my husband either….YOUR SON. And again, quite hurt. But, it was dropped. Ok, so then we are standing outside….smoking. It was cold. I made a comment about my ears being cold…I was cold. However, your very next comment was, if you keep it between you and I, I have things that would work to warm you up. I truly felt violated by this comment. TRULY. There have been several comments to this nature over the last few months. I have tried to tell myself that it is because you were drinking, or whatever. The truth is, you haven’t been drinking EVERY time that this happens. Truly, even if you had…it doesn’t matter…it makes me VERY uncomfortable. I am married to your son, who I am VERY happy with. You are in a relationship with someone that I care VERY much about. When you talk to me that way, I feel dirty, violated, and everything else that is NOT a good feeling. It hurts me. My body is NOT an object, I am a human with feelings. I want the respect that I deserve, as a person, a woman, and as your SONS wife. I want you to love me and care about me. I know that you do. But, I don’t want to hurt like this ANY MORE…..You can’t keep doing this to me.

Again, I love you and I care about you. I needed you to know how I feel right now. I need for this to stop. It hurts me, and I don’t want to hurt anymore.

I do love you, and I hope that you can believe that.

Mandy

January 2, 2007
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Hey Mandy,

I think that your FIL should receive the letter. It will let him know he didn't just hurt your feeling with these comments, he stomped on them. Add to that he disrespected you, his son, and his girlfriend. I think that he needs to know how offensive his remarks were.

I think you need to think about a consequence if he blows it off. Maybe he can't come over the house. Or he can only come when you aren't there and has to leave the VERY moment you get home. Think about it, okay?

January 2, 2007
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Thanks Cyn...I will think about it...hurts so bad right now. I don't know what to do....The pain is so real...yet, I feel so unjustified for my feelings....can't even explain. Honestly, almost as mad at h as I am at his dad. Ughhhh...

Anyway, thanks for responding....I love you. Just hurting over this....wasn't going to talk about it here, but I knew that I needed my sisters.....

Love you...

Mich

(((Cyn)))

(((Mich)))...just cause I needed another one....

January 2, 2007
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((((((Mich)))))))))I am so sorry this happened to you by someone you cared about and also sorry it was ignored by your husband...

Because this was not a one time occurrence, I believe this issue must be addressed somehow...I know that is up to you though...You are not alone, remember that!!!

I love you...hugs and holding your sister..................gg

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