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Afghan Sisters Refuge
November 23, 2006
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Let me tell you a small secret, that I really am not sure is or ever had been a secret...I DON'T GIVE A DAMN. There are things all over this place that I don't agree with. But, that doesn't make them wrong. Amazing to me, how one can tell someone to go ahead and kill themself..and that is treated as acceptable...yet we can't have what we have always wanted and that is someone to hold us and say goodnight to us. WTF?

November 23, 2006
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Hi guys.

I never read the Afghan thread--it sounded like a knitting circle or something. I had no idea that a thread with such an innocuous sounding title contained the seeds of the destruction of your souls, the end of Democracy as we know it and the corruption of everything we believe to be holy.

That was a joke. See, this is my funny face. Look I'm doing a funny little dance to cheer you up.

Look: Tapetty tappety tap!

Tap tapa tap tap--tap tap!

Shave and a haircut: two bits!

Sometimes chocolate chip cookies can be a really healing thing too.

What I am getting at is:

I gather that you have been given some feedback that didn't sit well with you and that you feel attacked, your feelings are hurt, your angry, and not feeling so good right now.

I've tried to find the posts that have upset you so much, and I really can't find anything vicious or mean or even necessarily attacking.

I don't really feel like reading the whole Afghan thread in order to discern if the feedback you got was valid or invalid, insightful or misguided.

I do respectfully submit that you guys are maybe, just a teensy tiny bit...blowing this out of proportion. Just a little?

You got some feedback. You can take it or leave it.

Maybe you could even learn something from the experience. And maybe, after you integrate for a bit you might find that you have somethings to teach from the experience.

Here is my gift to you:

When all the dust has settled observe: You are all here together, still in one piece, still friends.

And, by instinct or innate wisdom or pure luck you have that found your way over to the incredibly cool Liberation Brew side of the board and reconvened.

Praise the Lord!

It's really cool over here in Libs. This side has everything. We have knitting, sports, cooking, religion, sex, science, advanced particle physics, poetry, music, and of course, the tastiest microbrew on the internet--The infamously bracing, intoxicating and deeeelishous Liberation Brew! (Parental discretion is advised. Please consume responsibly. Not available in stores. Void where prohibited by law.)

And check out the decor! Look at all the homesy decorations, the crazy crap on the walls.

Look, an alligator smoking a cigar!

No expense has been spared--look at all the flippin tiki lights! You like tiki lights, right? Who doesn't?

And you wouldn't believe the stuff we can get away with over here!

This place has everything!

Including you!

I am just suggesting that maybe you take a few (hundred) deep breaths, take a really long hot shower (or if you are like me, a bubble bath with candles and my favorite book. And if you tell anyone I told you that I, WD, take bubble baths I will swear to God that you are lying--that's confidential information. I do have an image to maintain, after all.)

(((Afghan Sisters)))

November 23, 2006
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Worried dad...do to support threads and read the thread "this site has changed so much in a year...."

I can't take it. The pain that I feel right now, is almost unbearable...

November 23, 2006
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gg, where the heck did you go?

I have to pee and go have a cigarette, I will be right back...

November 23, 2006
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gg, I am back are you here?

November 23, 2006
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gg, I am not really sure where you went, but I need to go to bed. I am exhausted....I am not going anywhere until YOU know otherwise. I mean as far as leaving the site. I will be on here in the morning...I love you gg, and I will be holding you through the next two days as I know that they will be very difficult on you. I am sorry about that. I wish that I could be there to keep you feeling safe and protected. Just know that I am with you in thought. I love you and gg, I PROMISE. That promise will last until we meet back here.

November 23, 2006
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yes scared you reached out to me which im thankful for and even though ive never posted on the sister thread i know if i did you wpould welcome me with open arms. i have been reading it most days and all i see is you all growing so much and its a blessing to see. i see a lot of you feeling comforftable enough to opening up to one another, something i find very very hard to do but i see you all doing it and it gives me hope in one day opening up more, i have started so thats a good thing.
i would hate to see anyone of you leaving this site.
hus to you all ((((((((((())))))))))

November 23, 2006
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sorry about the misspelling, im n a lot of pain right now but you will know what i meant to put. (((((((()))))))))

November 23, 2006
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(((Bevdee)))

November 23, 2006
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Hi to the sisters can I just say that I dont know anyone very well I am just finding my way around,I have only been here for three weeks I too have felt supported when I really needed it and left out to in another way but I dont know if that is my insecurities I think you guys have nothing to feel bad about thopugh hope you are all ok.

November 23, 2006
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(((Lolli))) I continue to admire your classiness, and aspire one day to having your kind of wisdom.

(((sleepless))) thank you for articulating some challenging perceptions. I know it took courage to do that.

(((Afghan Sisters))) well, I guess you've now offically had the "AAC baptism by fire". I wrote a fairly long post to Mich in "the kitchen" so won't repeat it here. After a breather for some Thanksgiving festivities, I hope you will all feel the way I did after my baptism by fire here: stronger, healthier, and less reactive to differing opinions.

Learning experiences, eh? Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em.

love to all, kroika

p.s. WD, thank you for the blackmail material and priceless image of you in the bubble bath :o)

November 23, 2006
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mich, SORRY, had no internet, crash....stayed up til 2 a.m. booting, rebooting, connecting, reconnecting,,,,poor timing...I leave around your time 9:00 though my h is never on time, he is such the girl here!

I feel horrible that I couldn't respond....I will check back on and off b4 I go...You made me feel better last night; wasn't so alone...Love, gg

November 23, 2006
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I am here gg. Just know that this weekend, you will be close to me. I know that the next 36 hours will be tough for you. I love you and I am holding you close. I do hope to hear from you later at your moms.

Happy Thanksgiving....I am thankful for you and ALL of my sisters. Love to you all.

Mich

November 23, 2006
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Hi ScaredinMichigan,

Yes, I read the "this site has changed thread." And really, it seems like the strength of your emotional reaction to it is disproportionate to the feedback you got.

Let me see if I can paraphrase that feedback: The Afghan thread seems to be largely the work of a clique of people who like to chit chat and there seems to be some dependency in the group.

Is that it?

November 23, 2006
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mich, are we too sensitive? just wondering from others here are saying...if it wasn't for you, I would just stay on that branch and watch, then fly away when I could...

so glad I heard from you this a.m.; know you are busy getting things together..I will be holding you close the next two days and will try and check in...love and hugs...gg

November 23, 2006
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Good morning sisters,,,hope you are having a nice holiday...LL, know you are working a lot during these days and my thoughts and love are with you...May we have the strength and hope that is needed for our recovery....love, gg

November 23, 2006
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Mich~ Good morning. I'm baking pies right now. You know, sweet potato pies. How's brunch coming? I'm sorry I missed you last night. I was too drained because of the other side. I'm still trying to process it, but right now, with all the other shit that's going on I can't.

GG~ I don't think you've left yet. I am sending you a big ((((HUG))))!!! I love you and I am going to miss you while you are gone.

LL~ How was work? Sorry you weren't here when Mich was here. What are you cooking today?

Need~ I am thinking about it I promise. I'm not sure, that's all I can say. How are those boys of yours? Are they old enough to help with any of the cooking? I'll remember how much their burgers cost!!! I missed talking to you yesterday. I had wanted to continue talking about Fleashit and FIB, but I was just too worn out.

You'll all love this: My biological father called me last night and talked about himself AGAIN!! However the man admitted that the ending of his marriage to my mother was 80% HIS fault!! WHOA!! That was a huge admission from Mr. Nothing-Is-Ever-My-Fault!!!

November 23, 2006
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morning cyn, getting ready to head out and just checked back in; I love sweet potato pie!

Struggling here from yesterday, my daughters of which I am not happy with right now because I am now realizing my codependency with my family, and now to have to spend a holiday where I don't want to be...sorry to sound so negative on a holiday, but right now don't seem to care anymore...sorry, cyn, but I have to get this out before I go, before I go off again on my daughters...

Love you cyn...

November 23, 2006
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good morning...

Mich~ sorry I missed you last night.. I have been so exhausted..I love you and I am thinking about you today and always. How's the cooking?

GG~ I am thinking of you today and I love you... I have you in my prayers...

LL~ How did work go last night??

Cyndra~ I love you Cyn.. I was too exhausted last night to talk... I got 9 hours of sleep.. I don't have to cook today so I am just relaxing. Going over to my parent's house with the boys. My brother (who is not speaking to me) will be there with my niece and nephew..

just know that i love and care about you all......

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

November 23, 2006
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Cyn,

I am having a shitty time with all of this. i still don't feel good either. COUghing my brains out. Oh well. I don't know what to make of all of this. Part of me just really wants out, because I do not feel like I will ever be able to be me here again....I honestly, I feel betrayed.

November 23, 2006
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GG~ Have you ever thought of not going? I finally did that when I was married. I got tired of the bullshit with his mother constantly bashing his father and his new wife. It just got to be too much. Plus I knew they didn't want him to stay married to me. Guess how I got pleasant nugget of information?

Need~ I am so glad you got some rest. I know about not having the energy to stay. I got seven hours and I rather feel like a new person. I'm recovering from cutting myself with a knife. It was accidental. I've not cut myself since I was a teenager pregnant with my son.

HAVE A HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE!!

I love you all.

November 23, 2006
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Cyn, are you still around? I thikn we cross posted before...I love ya gf. I hope your day is good.

November 23, 2006
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Need,

Happy Thanksgiving. I hope you have a blessed day. It is ok that you weren't here last night. Needless to say, I wasn't much fun to talk to. I still am not probably. I hope you have a peaceful day and one that you can enjoy. I am thankful for you. I love you sweet sister.

Mich

November 23, 2006
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MIch--

Happy Thanksgiving..to you and your family.. I am thankful for you and all of my sisters.. I love you too MIch...Still cannot see the strength that you see in me though....

November 23, 2006
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Need~ I have a question. Did you really feel we were telling you we didn't want to talk to you? That's been eating at me ever since Alycia mentioned it. I would feel horrible if that's how you felt. You mean so much to me. I love you as if you were my own sister.

And you are strong because you recognize what's going on with you and you are willing to change. You know it isn't easy and may wish it were easier, but that doesn't prevent you from continuing to try.

Love,
Cyn

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