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Afghan sisters........need your help ASAP
December 17, 2006
8:26 pm
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so true Lolli.. I know that he lies and he cannot accept responsibility or accountability for his own actions..

He told me tonight that when a friend called and asked him why did he not return his call, I asked him what did he say... he said that he told him that he was too busy because he could not tell him that he did not feel like it.. He was supposed to go somewhere with his friends today and he totally forgot...

thanks for reading and responding to me..

love,
NEED

December 17, 2006
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I have sent mixed messages to him..

When he needed "time away" and I did
no contact (I even changed my cell phone number), he was right that he did not have a girlfriend.
Now that we have been spending time together we never did clarify that we were back together as boyfriend/ girlfriend and in an exclusive relationship....

December 17, 2006
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Hi need,

Although it may be true that you never "clarified" after the break that you were "exclusive"....that still does not excuse his behavior in my opinion.

He knows what you want and what you are looking for, so using the "we never clarified" is no excuse. He used knowing what you want and need to his advantage to get what he wanted.

Also, if he felt that he was perfectly within his rights to see others....why wasn't he upfront and honest with you about it. I'll tell why...because he knows what you want and what you need and he knows that you would not have agreed to that arrangement.

In the end he may not "technically" be "wrong"....but he was still being dishonest and manipulative and you deserve better than that.

Lolli

December 17, 2006
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Thanks Lolli---

I have known for a while that he had been talking to other women..

In fact, when I started talking to him again after the break, I told him how much it had been affecting me and I did ask him if he was seeing or talking to other women which he denied.

Before I started to see him again, I told him that I was afraid because I did not want to find out later on down the road that he had been talking to other women.. Again he denied it..

Then I told him that if that had happened it could destroy me and I did not want to end up feeling worse than I had felt after his "vacation"...

However, when I looked at his cell phone this morning I did not cry nor did I feel bad..
I just had found out the truth and the truth set me free...

December 17, 2006
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Love to you all..

all of my sisters that love and care about me....

thank you

December 18, 2006
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What lolli said and one more thing:

RUN!!! And don't look back.

free

December 18, 2006
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((((((NEED))))))- Don't know exactly what went down but whatever happend I'm glad that it did (???) Hon you deserve so much more than this man has shown you & given you....

December 18, 2006
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Thanks girls... for your care and support..

I am moving forward with my life...

WITHOUT THIS MAN

December 18, 2006
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thanks big sis LL.. It was nice to hear from you again...

I was not suprised at all that this happened. I had suspected all along that he was talking to other women..

I hope all is well in your life.. I know that you have been busy with work..

((LL))

love,
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