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November 7, 2009
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This is my 1st time here. I got out of bed-couldn't sleep..searched co-dependency,and came here. Why now,all of a sudden? Divorced 4 years. Can't maintain friendships.Don't want to live like this rest of my life. worried about 20 something sons (especially younger one, having as hard a time finding himself as i did in MY 20's, and I worry that's MY legacy to him.) Tried therapy (counselor was ready to retire..ha! did I help her make up her mind?She'd done all she could do for me-I saw her patient mask slip, and there I am again, failed at attempts to please: not clever, engaging, SICK enough, I'm smart enough to fix myself, right? (uh, no:obviously not.) working retail, and season of hell rapidly approaching.Go back on antidepressants? hard to work up enthusiasm for much of anything. I know what I SHOULD do (exercise,etc,etc) but just no energy for that.I know so many others are worse off- feel guilty for whining!

November 8, 2009
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Welcome. Life is overwhelming for a lot of us right now. Join us on the journey,

Bitsy

November 8, 2009
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Is there a CODA group near you to join? I read here and go to a meeting 1x week. Tremendous help.

November 8, 2009
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Tears in my eyes:thanks for replying. before I posted, I read what others were writing, and was so...reassured.I could see that (and I KNOW) others struggle, and I see possible progress, which is heartening. In isolation,of course,hard to have any perspective. I work in retail-"fast,fun and friendly!"--when work's over I'm in my car driving like a bat outta hell back to my sanctuary, and if I have a day off I'm SO relieved to be home! Go in, close door, greet faithful pets, and rarely venture out. Today is so nice, I'm gonna go for a 1/2 hr. bike ride-recently had my 30 yr. old bike overhauled:I MEAN to do better ,get some fresh air and exercise.--How does one locate a group for meetings?(just online, like i found this? Any hints or clues appreciated.) And thanks again.....

November 8, 2009
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Just "google" CODA meetings. That's how I found my group.

Today is a great day here as well. I need to get out and DO something!

November 8, 2009
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Check out Celebrate Recovery

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November 8, 2009
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I found one meeting, an hour away- could be doable, once a week, but it's "closed meeting". Does that mean no one new is allowed? I looked at a CoDA website, and printed some stuff..I'm a bit leery of going out to meet...um, strangers...wish I could rely on their kindness, but once bit, y'know...

November 9, 2009
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Closed means that it's just for co-dependents. Usually one meeting a month is "open" where family members can attend.

I encourage you to go and check it out. Yes, they are strangers, but through the sharing, they quickly become more.

November 15, 2009
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FK,

I found a great Al-Anon meeting. They're so welcoming. I haven't shared yet but just listening to their sharing has helped me immensely. It's peaceful just walking into the room and letting the burdens roll off.

November 18, 2009
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I am in the point in my life where I am ready to do some work on my issues. Codependency, and issues about being an adult child of substance abusers.

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