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Confused about Love
March 2, 2011
12:21 pm
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Slient Jaguar
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Hello everyone:

 

I am learning how to deal with new things on this website. I have not made any threads for a long time until now. I need some feedback since that I am confused. Here is the story:

 

I met someone at work that we both came from the same state where we grew up. We found a connection to each other, but he was hurting by a bad relationship with someone else. His ex-girlfriend controlled him over 9 years. I understood him what he went through. I was in a similar situation like him that we both are survivors. We got comfortable by each other and went on a few dates. We made love on the third time that when everything got messed up. He made love to me on this night and hurried to left. He said he has some issues with his clients and needed to use a computer at his home. I offered him to use my laptop, so he said no. He wanted to go. I begged him him to stay with me, but he freaked out and left. I was hurt afterward. After a few days, he told me he will make it up to me. I said okay but never heard anything from him. He added me on his Facebook, but did not show any interested in making convos with me for the past two years. I did not have any plans for the past two years and changed my job in another town (two hours away from this work where I met him). I did not see anyone for the past two years, but he have been seeing some people lately.

 

Last weekend, he texted me out of blue. I was surprised about that. He told me how he felt about us. He said he got scared and confused, so that is why he left me on this night after made love. He wanted to know how I felt about him. I told him I was not sure what I am feeling now and already made my plans to relocate for a new career. I have been here and did not see anything happens to me, so that is why I decided to go ahead and made my plans that I will relocate in two months.

 

I am confused now. I wonder if I am doing the right thing to go ahead with my own plans (changing my career and relocation). I am concerned how I will feel if I meet someone who is better than him after relocation. How I can deal with my old feelings with him? We both have many mutual friends. He did not realize how good I am until now and wants to start over. I already explained him that I need to stick with my plans because if I drop my plans then everything will not work out for us in the end. I would get disappointed that I would not get the same opportunity. Should I keep in touch with him after being relocated? Keep him on my Facebook? What I need to do?

March 11, 2011
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What do you want to do?

March 13, 2011
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I do not know what to do about my situation. I feel like both of us are in a complex situation. He has serious trust issues. I already made my plans since last January to be enrolled to get a higher degree that I will have to relocate in May. He asked me at a last minute notice that he wants to start over. I tried to contact him recently through text messages to clear up on some things, but he avoided to respond me. I am confused why he wants to start again with me when he is in another relationship (long-distance). He keep looking at my Facebook everyday. I see him online to feel relieved, then when he is not online. I would feel miss him. It is becoming unhealthy between us. I feel like we would have a hard time to live without each other. I sent him a text message to ask some questions to clear up. He seems he is still mad at me that I want to relocate for my school. Is it unhealthy for us? Should I let him go and block him from my Facebook to make everything easier for me?

June 29, 2012
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There have been some good threads on other topics in this forum. I would check out more of the family and love sections talking about marriage and self-esteem.

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