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January 19, 2011
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I'm hearing horror stories on the Internet about runaway children... my eldest son has just threatened to run away, and I'm at lost at what to do.  I know I can't imprison him... but what exactly do you do if your child does run away???

January 20, 2011
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Most runaways typically come back home on their own accord from 2 days to 2 weeks. They usually stay with friends or relatives who live outside your community. So be sure to check with close friends and relatives to see if he turned up there.

January 20, 2011
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When I was younger, my cousin ran away. It turns out that she was staying with one of her friends. She came home a few days later.

 

My friend's niece also ran away, they put all kinds of signs every where and it turned out that she was staying with her older boyfriend. She refused to come home and that was a mess for her family to deal with. 🙁

January 20, 2011
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Runaways often realize that they cannot make it on their own or are talked into going back home.  But if you cannot find your child with your relative or his friends, then call the local police.

January 21, 2011
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When he does come home, keep your emotions in check.  You may be overcome with relief or anger, but don't lash out at the child.  Instead, tell them that you are upset and make them understand that this is because you worried about them and you love them

January 23, 2011
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More than that, I think you should open a dialogue with the child and listen to what he has to say.  Understanding his concerns, and helping him cope are good assurances that he won't do it again.

January 24, 2011
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When I was 13 I ran away once.  Didn't stay gone long.  Dad found me pretty quick.   I think you should ask your child why they think they would want to run away.   Then discuss the issues that are causing them to feel that way.  In my case it was over a boy that I liked and my parents didn't.  It might also be a good idea to talk to them about what can happen when kids run away.  Pull up some information on the internet and share some real stories.   You will want to have this discussion when you are both calm, not during the heat of an argument.   I wish you well.  

January 24, 2011
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I think that communication is very important, even with children.  Don't see them as too young to understand or to talk to, but make sure that you develop a habit to ask them how they are.  Keep your communication lines open and you won't have to worry about this anymore!

January 24, 2011
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curious64 said:

When I was 13 I ran away once.  Didn't stay gone long.  Dad found me pretty quick.   I think you should ask your child why they think they would want to run away.   Then discuss the issues that are causing them to feel that way.  In my case it was over a boy that I liked and my parents didn't.  It might also be a good idea to talk to them about what can happen when kids run away.  Pull up some information on the internet and share some real stories.   You will want to have this discussion when you are both calm, not during the heat of an argument.   I wish you well.  


I agree with your point very much.  You should be clear to them as to what the consequences of running away are, and how dangerous it is.

January 26, 2011
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If you can open the lines of communication with him before he does something drastic you may be able to get to the root of the problem and head his actions off at the pass. I ran away for one night when I was in high school. I think taking off for a night or two is a common occurrence for a lot of teenagers, but sometimes things do go too far and that's what you need to avoid before it happens, if you can. I hope things work out for you.

January 27, 2011
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How do you know if a child has runaway or is missing? If a child is missing call the police and file a missing a persons report.

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