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Dysfunctional Family Issues- Need Help
December 9, 2013
7:48 am
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Hello, My siblings and me raised in very dysfunctional family and intially we used to live in joint family system (uncle's and their families). For the last 15 years we are living in a separate house. When we used to live in a joint family system, my mother and father had lot of clashes and torture each other mentally and even physically. As a result, my mom got some mental illness, depression and anxiety and she is on antipsychotics for the last 25 years. So this is obvious, that she could not take care of my siblings and missed all necessary part of growing kids in proper healthy environment. My father was a middle class officer with average salary. He also didnt pay (or didnt know) how to guide and how to teach his kids to survive in the world.


It has been 4 years since my father passed away and now I am considered to be guardian and supporter of my family. We have no social circles, no significant and healthy contacts with any relatives or neighbours.


My mother (55 years old) is on anti-depressant and anti-psychotic medicines for the last 25 years and she seems to be addicted of this and still has her imaginary and false ideas which are much more firm and are deeper penetrated to her mind. Elder Brother (32 years old) is aim less and is trapped at home for the last 20 years. He just eat, sleep and take his antipsychotic pills. He used to have some depression, anxiety and paranoia attacks time to time. He is taking his antipsychotic medicines for the last 10 years. He has no social life, never did any job, and just stay at home. Occasionally he go out to buy some errands etc.


My elder sister (30 years old) has been expereincing hallucinations and is on anti-psychotic pills for the last 8 years. I tried to get her to some school teaching jobs etc, but she could not continue and had to quit after 6 months due to her mental illness\Hallucinations, lack of experience of moving socially etc.


Youngest Brother (24 years older) is also on antipsychotic pills for the last 5 years and has relapses time to time. He was multiple sexually abused around 8 years ago. So due to stresfull environment at home and due this abuse he also inherited this psychosis diseases and acts like paranoids and sometimes bipolar.


Younger brother (27 years old) does not use any antidipressant pills but off course he has also suffered from social anxiety and has lot of vacuums in his personality that he could never find a job inspite of his useless efforts. However, in my absence he take care of grossaries, household items, and securing house. But he also acts like a paranoid sometimes and shows some negative thoughts and beliefs. Looks like he is frustrated and wants escape from all this situation.


Younger sister (26 years older) never used any anypsychotic pills and she manage to cook, clean, and distribute food and pills on time to other member. She does not show any psychosis behaviour, however she also looks like unconfidant and does not know social skills or can not move around. She also wants to get out of the situation but does not see any escape.


Myself ( 28 years old) work as an engineer and I have to stay out sometimes for 1 month, 2 months and come back on break for a week or 2. This is how I am working for the last 3 years after my dad is passed away. I really want to manage my family so that atleast they can take responsiblity of their own lives on individual life. What I see, I need to stop working and try to help them managing themselves within 2 to 3 years. Because by staying out for 1 month or so I can not manage them. I need to wein off their meds and try to tell them alternative techniques to manage them. What I believe is, without with drawing meds they can not move towards life, as I can see my mom, she is on pills for last 25 years and she could never recover but gotten worst due to horrible side effects of meds.


The point is, they all are not abnormal by birth, its circumstances and dysfunctional family system that turuned their personalities in that way. So I believe, with constant efforts and struggles, they can atleast return to some average or below average life to move ahead to spend their lives. They are not in the state in which one can just tell them skills and they start implementing for the sake of their improvements, they need someone's full time supervision to get stablize.


I need someone's story sharing and suggestion on that to take a decision on quietting job and giving full time to my family. Would appreciable yours story and suggesttions.

December 17, 2013
10:28 pm
Dr. Basim Elhabashy
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I think that in order to answer that, you would need to define what
rehabilitation counseling is. Rehabilitation counseling helps people
with disabilities to achieve their goals.

April 28, 2014
9:45 pm
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It is very nice for program for rehabitation and it is eaisly achives this targets and it is good program for all peoples.

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