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Step-dad abused me
December 5, 2011
5:53 am
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Megahobolover
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I'm 18 and have been really down, when I came upon this forum and read someone's post about how they had told their mother about their father's abuse, and the mother immediately kicked the dad out. I'll give you some background real quick, my mom divorced my dad when I was about 6 because he went to jail for raping and sexually abusing my older sister for years. Then she got remarried when I was about 7.
     This guy she married sexually abused me for years before I told my mom. I think I was scared I would get in trouble or something, I didn't even tell her first, I actually told my step-sister first, who then convinced me to tell my mom. My mom was really upset, but she didn't exactly do anything to protect me, the most she did was have a "family meeting" just including my step-dad, her, and I. The "family meeting" pretty much consisted of her saying she was upset with her husband and she told him not to do that anymore. I didn't feel like I was her priority. Her husband continued to live with us for several years after that, and the sexual abuse didn't ever stop, it wasn't until I was about 15 that he finally left (he actually turned himself into the police). After he went to jail, me my mom and her other kids had to move in with my mom's grandparents.
     But is it wrong that I feel like my mother should have done more. I feel like she should have protected me somehow. Should have at least kicked him out of the house. I love my mom, but to be honest her personalized ringtone on my cell phone is the Psycho theme. I love my mom, but I never want to share my feelings about what happened before with her, because everytime she tries to talk about it with me, it sounds like she blames me for the whole situation we are in and that it's all my fault that the abuse happened in the first place. She's never exactly used those words, but that's what I feel like when she talks about it, so lately I've just started walking away from her when she starts a discussion on that topic.

May 28, 2012
12:25 am
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Megahobolover,

 

That seems hard for you. Do you have any other relatives aside from your immediate family? It might be best to seek for their support. Your current condition is bad and you need help for that. The trauma and the stress that the abuse have brought may cause you undesirable things in the future. You need some guidance and support from a professional sexual abuse counselor as well you need your relatives and friends to have your back. One thing, whatever is bothering you, it's still best to tell your mom about your traumatic experience. Tell her exactly what your step dad did to you and you need a protection against him. It's very rare for a mother to actually let her child suffer.

 

Be strong and wishing you well.

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