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Sexually abused
August 7, 2011
1:30 pm
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I was sexually abused by my father at the age of 16 when he took me away to my Grandma's house to help me study for my upcoming exams. He abused me for the whole week that we were away but never again after that. When I tried to talk to him about it because I was so confused he just told me that he was "simply playing with me" and that it wasn't anything to be worried about. I am now 18 and haven't spoken to anyone about it, but I walk around with this indescribable pain everyday. I have contemplated telling my mum but I don't want to hurt her because I know how much she loves him. He always tells me that I mean the world to him and how he would give his life for me, but I don't understand why he would want to hurt me if this is the case. I don't want to tear my family apart by letting out this secret, but I feel if I keep this all inside I may go crazy. I just need someone to talk to and need to know whether it is worth me telling my mum.

August 8, 2011
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r1,

 

You have been sexually abused by your father so you should tell you mom the truth even if it may cause pain to her. What you've been through was not easy and you need help for that. It's just simply as giving justice to what your father did to you. Haven't you realized that? The moment he abused you was the exact time he broke your family and most of all broke you mother's trust. You need to tell her everything as soon as possible. She's your mother right? you came from her flesh and blood so if anyone who should know first then that shoud be your mom. More than anything and anyone else, your mother is the one who'll understand you most and will feel more pain about what happened to you. Stay strong.

 

Wishing you well.

August 9, 2011
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Shining light,
Thank you so much for your post, I really appreciate it. Everything that you said is true. I'm just so scared...But I'm going to let her know as soon as I can bring myself to do it. Thanks again.

August 9, 2011
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Shining Light, I told my mum yesterday after reading your post. It was hard but she completely understood me. She was so upset that I hadn't told her sooner and that she wasn't there to protect me. She told my dad to leave. He cried for the whole time he was packing. I feel so relieved that I finally told and I urge anyone going through the same situation to tell as soon as possible. I couldn't have done it without your encouragement so thank you.

August 10, 2011
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r1,

 

So glad you finally told your mother. You actually did the right thing. What is more important now is that the one who abused you already left and that your mom is supporting and protecting you in any way she can. By all means, continue to live a normal life with your mom and move on from what happened in the past. That's right, continue to encourage yourself on the things you wanted in your life. Wishing you well. Smile

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