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Is my sister telling the truth that our uncle molested her?
October 20, 2012
11:24 am
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First of all, sorry for the long post. I tried my best to shorten it up. Secondly, thank you for having the time to read this. 

My sister is 12 years old. We live in a separate house because our parents are divorced. She stays with my mom, who works at night, my uncle and her 3 year old child Diane, and my brother, aged 18. So yesterday, my sister sent a text to my father saying that she is so scared but he must not panic. Seeing it as an emergency, my father rushed into their house to ask what the problem is. When we got there, we asked her what's wrong. She just said that our uncle scared her last night and that she just wants to go home with us. My father said no because they have school tomorrow. My father left and I stayed with my sister. I was kind of irritated because she always does that. She always texts our dad that something happened, something is an emergency, and that she needs to see him at once. She always exaggerate things. I believe that she does that because she thinks that no one would give her attention if she does not exaggerate her stories. Anyway, back to the story. I talked to her. I asked her why she was sobbing. At first she won't tell me anything but when we got out of for a walk, she told me that our uncle tried to touch her private parts last night. I was so shocked that I kept on asking her to repeat the whole story. As a sister, my first reaction was to get mad.I really wanted to punch my uncle in the face. I talked to my brother and told him everything. He got so angry as well. We kept on thinking that this must be true because it is too much for a 12 year old to lie about. I mean, where would she get that story and why would she even lie about it. We told our mom everything. All she said was that she was thinking. She wants to believe my sister badly but she keeps on saying that he knows his brother too well and he wouldn't do that. She even confronted our uncle but he denied it. He was firm that he did not do anything. I got angry at my mom for not believing in my sister. Then she talked to me. This was what she said. 

She is not saying that she does not believe our sister nor does she say that our sister is lying. All she's saying is that our sister keeps on exaggerating thing. Our sister is angry at our uncle and his child. She is angry at our uncle because he always tells on my sister to our mom. Every time she does something wrong, my uncle immediately tells our mom. Therefore, she gets in a lot of trouble most of the time because of our uncle. Secondly, she hates our cousin because ever since they moved to another house, which was 6 months ago, all our attention went to our cousin because she's the youngest and we're all fond of kids. Our sister got used to being the baby before but since our parent divorced and they moved out, no one's been giving attention to her. Then my mom reminded me the numerous times my sister lied and how firm she was when she tells a lie. This made me think. Could my sister be lying or is she really telling the truth? Is it just a way to seek attention from us? All she keeps on saying to us now is that she want our mom to kick our uncle and his child out. Repeatedly. She does not want to live in my father's house. She just wants to get our uncle out of here. Is there any way that we can confirm if she is telling the truth or not? Please help me. I don't want that our uncle get kicked out of the house because of some lie. He has a child and they really have nowhere else to go. They have no money and my mom is the only ones helping them. As of now, I'm still on my sister's side. I really want to help her out. Thank you so much. 

**My uncle and I are really close. Even my brother. He's like a best friend to us. So I really don't want him to get evicted if this is all just a lie. And I worry about our cousin.

October 23, 2012
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Hey this is Oneday.  I don't have an answer for this one.  Could someone else make a suggestion?  Sorry to hear about the situation.  The only possible thing I would do is to ask your sister if your Uncle did more than just touch her.  Then you could take her to the hosptial and they could see if their was evidence by doing an internal examination.  It does not sound like she was rapped.  This is a very troubling problem.  Could the Admin or someone else answer please?

October 23, 2012
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It might be best to submit your sister for a counseling so she can cope up. She's still young so I guess she's experiencing behavioral problems on her own that you might not know. The only way for you to know if she's really molested or not is to get a professional help. Also, is there a way for you to reunite as siblings? I mean make her live with you for a while cause it might help her share her feelings and open up her bad/good experiences.

 

If it's possible to talk to your uncle about this matter then go ahead. You would know and feel if something wrong is going on by the way he'll respond to the situation.

October 24, 2012
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Thank you Shinning light.  It seems like people's problems are more complex than I can understand.

 

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July 11, 2013
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Very difficult to escalate who is lieing & who is not, since your sister got a tedency to seek everyone's attention, she may be doing this willfully to give a bad name to your uncle & make him leave the place with his daughter. Why you or your big brother keep an eye to both of them to know what exactly is happening at their end. Side by side make your uncle comfortable & ask him with good gesture that is there any truth to what your sister has been saying, if he really loves you guys then may be he'll tell you the truth, else know exactly what to be done.

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