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Incest Survivor Groups Hard to Find
March 20, 2011
12:10 pm
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I am an incest survivor.  My mother told me that she was instructed by a counselor "Never to speak of it in the family again".  T never was allowed to speak of it period.  Even my counselor now just wants me to get past it.  If you've never gotten to speak your truth about it, how can you move on? Is there a way to heal and keep it bottled inside for the remainder of my life?  Are there support groups out there that will help with this sort of thing? 

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May 10, 2011
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I am not a counselor/therapist, but I see NO way of healing without talking about it.   I was in insurance-covered therapy and group therapy for years (thank God).    But -- groups are really difficult to come by.    I just recently sent away for the meeting group directory of Survivors of Incest Anonymous.   It is based on the Twelve Steps program, but realated to incest survivors.    I am in Ohio and there are only 3 meetings; none are even close to where I live.    I am STILL looking, however.    Because I NEED a support group at this point in my recovery and life.    GOOD LUCK TO YOU!   

July 13, 2013
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You know i say fuck the world before it fucks you. Do you know what i did when my sisters baby dad raped me when i was 15 started smoking weed and drinking and fucking it helps. I love sex I'm horny as type. Couldn't wait to turn 18 matter fact by the time i turned 18 i had over 12 partners and over 50 sexual encounters some i remember some i don't. I tried relationships but the men they don't understand my they understand my good head i give and how mesmerizing it is the way i move my hips while I'm fucking them it's amazing now how good i am at it but sex is sex they end up deserting me after so i don't mind. I wanted love so bad though i thought that one day if i closed my legs someone out there would love me and he did he loved me for a split second ha we were both going to church, no sex just me and himgetting to know one another before we knew one anothers body parts. I thought it was real until i told people how long we've known eachother then people said ha it's not going to happen you only selling yourself a dream.family members said this to me,i loved him i wanted that love to be real, for a moment it was to me at least until one day he didn't love me any more the engagement was off. I had done nothing but give my all yes him and i almost had a sexual encounter but we both wanted it not just me, apparently he wanted it more then i did because he got to bust a nut while i gave him had and then bounce right after i was judged and scrutinized by his holier then thou step mother and just stripped back into the picture Dad. I was humiliated and mocked by our separation aster that i said i will try to love again but this time if i am left or hurt i will love no more this time i sabbataged myself and now I'm alone i Blame myself i can't Blame him i constantly thought he was with someone or doing something he want suppose to or would leave me for some one prettier than me so i broke up with him a couple days later i want him back he not having it he says he wants to stay friends because what i was causing was stressful and not healthy for any relationship. So now I'm devastated i knew the answer but didn't want to hear out i caused this but why?? I don't want to be alone i love him his sex was phenomenal i will never find that but he was emotionally detached not like the others i couldn't rap him around my finger like the others. I actually cared about him. Do what do i do now?? Move on noI'm turf of picking up the pieces and moving on and on and on and on and finding the next one doesn't love me. I should just die DIE DIE DIE DIE AAAH I HATE thinking because death seems like my final solution !

July 13, 2013
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Dear Cha,

I would strongly suggest you try to see a therapist to discuss your past & your present & try to see what kind of a future you might be able to make for yourself regarding sexual/love relationships.  I feel you need some professional advice in dealing with your situation.

 

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July 13, 2013
11:29 pm
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I know I've tried don't make enough to see a therapist so i try and manage my own thoughts just enough to keep me going each week. Like i said sex and drugs help calm those suicidal thoughts with a couple deep breaths and i imagine me just okay and happy and loved by a guy a really handsome one i fall asleep or i masturbate. Oh i didn't mention at night my brain never shuts off soooo i masturbate about 80 percent of the time to fall asleep. Or take deep breaths and tell myself you at okay its okay and i keep a soft pillow by and i cuddle it to comfort me and then i fall asleep its the only way i ever sleep unless i have a guy to hold me or significant other.

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