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Sunny speaking out to workinonit,smiles, Iam, camer, cristine and anyone else!!
October 19, 2004
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Hey, what happened to the threads from before yesterday night?

October 19, 2004
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HI Cristine, looks like there may have been problems on the other thread like this one...i guess we will just keep this thread running now.....hope all is well with you, and hopefully thoughts of your ex bf are not driving you nuts!! you deserve so much better!!!

love, camer

October 19, 2004
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Oh, Camer... they ARE driving me nuts... and today, I feel very sad. Don't know why, just sad. I'm sitting here at my desk, attempting not to cry... and not doing a very good job at it.

October 19, 2004
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Camer... and I need to quit looking at his damn calendar at work. His x wife works here too (I got her a job here, that is how 'comfortable' I was with her and she's actually not that bad a person), and when I see joint meetings on their calendars, it makes me want to puke.

It pisses me off so bad that last year at this time we were taking a relationship communication course through a church, and this year, he tells me that my feelings don't matter. All he learned through that course was... well, he learned nothing. Wasted 8 weeks of my life that I can't get back on ther course with him, and 3 1/2 years on him total. I wish I'd never dated him. NOTHING good came out of this, nothing. I wish I could just beat the snot out of him and get those years back, with the knowledge I have now. Why do growing pains have to hurt so freakin' bad? This sucks... and I KNOW he's not sitting at work thinking of what a jerk he was and how he treated me and that he let something wonderful just slip through his fingers without a fight. I KNOW he's not. But, he's so wishy washy, he WILL think about it sometime, and call... and then, THEN, I'll feel stronger because I'll hang up on him and feel like I was the one rejecting him. I feel like he never really loved me.. like I wasted all my love on someone who gave me nothing in return but heartache. God, he stressed me out so badly over the past year that from July of last year to March of this year, I gained 52 POUNDS!

UGH... I've got to start focussing on something else today, or I'll end up just bawling all day, not getting a damn thing done, and go home and eat the 1/2 gallon of ice cream in my fridge.

GEESH, I'm so miserable today, it's almost like I'm still with him! HAHAHA Not funny...

October 19, 2004
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You said you loved me….

White trash, negative attitude, your feelings don’t matter
Spoiled little brat, snotty, dirty, slob
Your sister is an alcoholic, I can’t be with you
I want to live my life without you in it for a while
My family doesn’t accept you, but they’ll be nice to you
You aren’t family

You said you wanted to marry me, grow old with me…

I don’t feel connected to you
Are you going to wear that?
Since I’ve been running, I noticed you don’t take care of yourself
You know what MY needs are
I need an attractive mate
I got distracted

You said you didn’t want to live your life without me in it….

No one could ever accuse YOU of being sweet
You aren’t that feminine
My family says you aren’t good enough for me
You are one of those people that others just don’t ‘click’ with
I just don’t know if I love you anymore
I don’t feel complete without her, she’s pretty and skinnier than you

You said we have so much in common, that being with me was the most intimate relationship you’ve ever had….

Don’t flatter yourself, you aren’t that great a catch anyway
Your weight used to bother me, now I just don’t care
You are cynical
Anyone with common sense would know not to do that
You talk too much, I’ve heard this all before
I’ve been thinking about dating other people
I can see myself getting married again one day, just not to you

You said life was too short not to be with the person that made you happy, that you didn’t care what anyone else said….

What about what YOU said?

October 19, 2004
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(((Cristine))))) first off huge hugs for you, and keep venting away, and don't cry, he is not worth the tears,
and don't cry cuz you may think you wasted years and time...it was a learning experience and will help you get stronger in relationships down the road.

Gosh, he is such a jerk, with his family and the way they treat you, he just degrades you and makes you feel less than, he should love you for who you are on the inside and out, not just make you feel awful, he says no kind words to you, and Cristine, you deserve so much better, you really do....!!! beleive in you and yourself, you have made it this far, and yes times may be tough, but try to fill your mind up with YOU and all the good things about you!! you are worth it!!

hugs from Camer

October 19, 2004
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Camer.... I sent the above to my friend Leslie, and she said I should send it to him... she knows him too, had lunch with him last week... and he actually ASKED HER if she thought that we could be together in the future. She said I should send it, and I told her I wasn't sending him a damn thing. I know that this will pass, and tomorrow will be better than today... but today, I'm allowing myself to be pissed and hurt and angry. Tomorrow I will be fine.

October 19, 2004
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(((cristine)))) you go girl!! yes its sooo good to feel your feelings, even if you are pissed or angry, you need to feel this, otherwise it would be so easy to "take him back", but i think in time you will do much better, the more you tell me about him, the more I get disgusted in the way that he could ever possibly treat you...he sounds like a very non caring selfish person.

I wish you peace and happiness....
camer

October 19, 2004
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Cristine, ((((HUGS FOR MY FRIEND)))))

I am so sorry the shit is hittin the fan for you honey. Stay strong and cry your eyes out if you need to, go wash your face and be done.

Have you checked out anything on narcissism? He sounds very narcissistic to me. I have been checking it oput cause of my ex husband and you are listing lots of similarities. Just a suggestion.

You deserve better and more and do me a favor....DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS EVER AGAIN!!!!

Gotta run, work is calling.

October 19, 2004
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(((((((Cristine))))))))

We are here for you!!!! And you know we love you! Kick that sorry SOB to the curb!

Sunny

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((((((((Cristine)))))))))

Sweetie gosh you are doing it. Wow all these feelings I think they are the reason you tried to stay friends with him to avoid them because until you made the decision not to be friends you weren't feeling this. I am not trying to be mean. I am just letting you know I notice so you are aware of it. Knowledge is power. Wow when you get through this feelings you are going to be so much stronger. And yes you are right when he does call you will be stronger and won't accept what he is willing to give you. You are worth so much more. I am so proud of you for reconizing that and taking care of you... YOu go girl. Wow sounds like you are on the right path. Ask anyone here you will feel more empowered as time passes and you won't hurt forever but if you stay with him forever you will. Does that make sense? I belive that initally the pain of breaking up is much more overwhelming than the day to day pain of staying in a relationship. But breaking up is temporary where if we stay in a relationship we are just dying a slow miserable death. I am so glad you are not settling for that.

((((((HUGS))))))))

October 19, 2004
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ok chickies, we have these 2 threads going and I am going nuts checking them both out!!!! how bout if we just post on "one" of these threads and let the other one diminish!!! whadda ya say!!

I say **boston is winning** big time now!!! woooooooooo hooooooooooooo

I say I am tired, cuz I work for the newspaper company, and news like the
Sox and Yankees are HUGE, to say the least, and yes, working late hours again!!! poor me!!!

So Iam, where are you, ok, crawl out from under the covers and start admitting "whos your daddy???"

Cristine, my thoughts and prayers are with you hon, don't let HIM get the best of you, he is a jerk!!

Workin, baby, whats going on, hanging with the chicks this weekend, how about Eric, have you talked with him yet??

**smiles** my sweetie, how are you??? guess what??? I miss you!!!

Sunny, the sweet ever so sexy sunny, how the heck are you doing???? Root for the Sox and I'll pick you up at the airport any day any time!!!

going to bed real soon, big news in the papers tomorrow!!! boston beats Yankees.......(gosh, i hope i don't put a hex on myself)))

I love you all!!! (((lotsa hugs and support))))

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October 20, 2004
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me again!!! wake on up!!! ok Iam get yourself from under those covers cuz
"I am your daddy!!!!".....woo hoo, need I say more!!!

Top of the morn'ng to ya'll, got to bed late last nite. Things are going
grrrrrrrreeeeeaaat with me and Paul, setting some boundaries for myself,
just not seeing him this week, but will on Friday, I am so tired and burnt out from staying up late and working late, that I just need some
"me" time and relaxation time...and HE is so cool about it all, not pressure of "I need to see you"..things are good!.

Ok Smiles, Sunny, Iam (hiding), Cristine...and my bow wow friend Dawg (come on back now!) how the heck
are you guys doing??? and remember, lets try to keep just this "one" thread going instead of the other one that's kinda sorta like this...hope I am not being too demanding, if I am, give me an internet dope slap!!

Gotta fly off to work, papers are selling like wildfire....need I say more, except GO SOX!!!

(((lotsa group hugs, love and peace)))) the camer

October 20, 2004
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Morning Dear Ones!!!

The Camer as usual giving Sunny her wakeup call! Thx sweetie Woooo Hoooo!! What a game that was!!! # 19 # 19!!! My man!!!! (Although I'm not crazy about those ears) LOL... Police out in riot gear, I thought that one cop was going to stroke out did you see how red his face was? Once I put the hex on those skank yanks camer, that was it!! Expect another win tonight and we are on our way to the series!!! Yeehaw!!! Have a great day ((((((Camer))))))
OK..Are we going to keep this thread or the other? I can post there now so it's up to you all! Cristine, I know you are going thru alot right now, just know we are here and we love you ok? workin, yo gal wuz up? Planned out your weekend yet? I know you won't be sittin at home like ol Sunny, lol Don't ya'll feel sorry for me? smiles sweetheart it was great to see you here last night! I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you get that job! Sending lots of prayers your way and thanks ever so much for the smooches! Ok Miss Iam....Like the camer said, enuff warm blankey time! How are you feeling sweetie? I'm sure exhausted from work, the aftermath of the accident and staying up late watching the yanks...Know we love you and hope to see you soon!! Sending healing thoughts your way!
Well, I am supposed to work today for a bit but my ass is dragging cuz THAT DOG...yes Gizmo is waking me up 2-3 times per night and I'm seriously considering trading him to the gypsies!!! Told him that this AM and he just looked at me like yea...right!!! Got news for him! He is getting a bath and a trim today so he had best get ready the lil cuss! He does so hate a bath....Its cool and foggy here today hope the sun comes out. I made a huge pot of chili last night and filled up es hubby really FULL he is driving me nuts!!! Anyhoo.....I'll be here on and off

Have a great day!!!!!
Hugs, Love, and friendship!!!

((((((((((((((((GROUP)))))))))))))))))

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October 20, 2004
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HI Sunny, lets keep this thread going since its at the top of the list now....awwww poor lil' Gizmo, my Munki and Dakota send her puppy kisses!!! (my 2 wild & crazy doggies)

Wow, Sunny, you seem brite and chipper today, omg, the Sox un freaking believable, can't wait for tonite!!!

Want to keep this thread running....sending my ((((group hugs, and lotsa love to ya'll))))

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LOL! Ok tell your babies HE The Giz says thankyouverymuch Bow Wow!!! OK we will keep this thread then! Yea I'm bright and chipper for alot of reasons! Case looking to go my way despite what "that person" thinks or does and ya know what? I'm actually getting over him and ready to move on now....To coin a phrase "TRUE COLORS SHOWING" I now realize that person was poison to me and really showed it . All he wanted was a Mama for his kid and I am sure is on the internet dating sites trying to pick up another sucker to massage his overblown ego. Soon as this is over with, I'm getting it all out right here so get ready ladies cuz there will be an explosion! I've had to hold mt thoughts and my tongue way toooooo long!Nuff said. Go Sox!!!!!!

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Thanks everyone for your support. I'm feeling much better today. See, my mantra is "This too shall pass..." So, I just feel what I'm feeling, knowing it will pass eventually.

And, even on this gloomy, miserable, rainy day, I am still smiling! :o)

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((((((Cristine))))))

YEAH! You go girl! Cuz we know what a smart, sweet, kind, loving and beautiful woman you are!!! So glad to hear you are feeling better!!!

Love,
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Cristine, you go girl!! i am sooo glad you are feeling ok today, and yes, feelings do pass, so feel what is needed and go on with you day (((hugs sent to you for your strength))) And ((Sunny))) my GIRL dogs send your BOY dog puppy tail waggin' and some puppy licks!!! and I hope HE is feeling better

...and yes girl, I am so glad that things are getting so much better for you and "HE" will soon enough be out of the picture, it always seems that the mama's boys have there issues too!

**smiles, hon, where are you**

Iam, i know, you don't want to face us!!! I know, its hard to believe but
what can I say, "yankees suck!"

Workin, whatcha doing g'friend???

Ok Dawg, come on back now!!!!

(((sending lotsa hugs, support, strength and good thoughts to everyone))))

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LOL! camer you kill me! Yea bad boys and mamas boys..The apple does not fall far from the tree, same song, blah!!!!! Gizmo thanks Dakota and Munki for sharing and he wags his tail back! Grr..Of course the lil cuss is snoozing now while I am STILL bleary eyed...Such is life!!
YO! Dawg!! Give us a holler!! Woof!!!

Sunny

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Can someone tell me something?
After my exwife said she is having a hard time controling my son, and wanted him to come and stay with me possible for good, would change her mind today and said that I can't be trusted and he should stay with her for good, that he should be with his mother. I have had a bad temper inthe past but i have been working on controling it...

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Hi Dawg,

How long have you had him? What is his age, and do you have a girlfriend? Sorry I had to ask that one but a couple guys here do so I couldn't remember if you do or not?

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Hi Dawg!!! glad you came barking up our thread. glad to have you here.

Now for your ex-gf...sounds like she is going thru her "ups and downs" of what she wants to do. She definitely
has some different thoughts running thru her mind. Does your ex have any type of mood swings regularly?? And Dawg, for you to work on your anger is a good thing, keep at it!!!

Come on back to this thread ok!

hugs from Camer

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Hey everyone, here I am !!!

Baseball again huh? At least the Phillies players have some hotties, otherwise they're worthless!!

Dawg, good to see you ! You ex sounds like she freaked out over smething she wishes you would take care of. Weak moment you know? Then, she comes to her calm senses and says, what was I thinking? The only problem is, sounds like she has her own irrational anger issues. What do you think?

Camer honey, how are you? How is Paul?

Sunny, smiles, and Iam you guys are the greatest. Sunny, I love your question by the way. Got me a thinkin!

Ok, Eric. HHmmmmmm Where to begin?

Last week I met Phil. Seems nice give my number ( no more of that BTW) He calls next day and night. I call back and say I don't have the kind of free time a bachelor with No children has. Blah blah, but I'm really not that attracted to him either. So, I say I am unavailable til this week and have plans with my friends.....leaves me a message Friday, Saturday and this one was great!(not)" I must have been dreaming but I met this beautiful girl named Lori and... (I couldn't listen to the rest) My sons friend says to me, are you attracted to him and I go ...no. It occurs to me, if he was someone I was attracted to I would have liked the message but not only that how the hell do you know about attraction when he didn't even give it a chance? He called again Monday noon time. I call back Mon night and tell him I am not ready for dating and I won't be meeting him this week. Jeesh. What an ordeal. I really agonized over having to tell him anything!!! No more giving my # I will get theirs from now on. My choice!!

Anywho, in the mean time, Eric has beem giving me the space I need and so I called him. He knows how I feel about his alleged extracuricular activities and never says anything or does this when with me. ( we've only been together twice) He asked me to go to the movies last week and was very cool when I said I had plans with my friends. He waited til I called hiom and..get this...didn't call me right away. He's always polite and considerate so I figured I'd see him again. As long as he isn't always calling me and wanting to do things all the time. Not ready for that and..I hate to sat this but it probably wouldn't be him though he's fun to hang with.

So, it continues. I think the Phil thing made me appreciate Eric a bit more. I may have to tell Eric how much I apprecite him giving me space.

Wow, sorry, this was a long update I feel like Cristine!! How are you anyway sweetie? I am so sorry that a**hole is not completely out of your life but just get through the grieving and you'll be ok. No more jerks for you!!!

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My ex wife and her family has depression, she don't take hormones,
and yes I do have a gf. She is the only one that I have in my life, besides my mom and dad.

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