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Suicidal tendenencies
January 9, 2003
11:09 am
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My wife is a alcoholic and drug addict and within the last three months she has tried to commit suicide. I am away on a business trip and spoke today with her. We live at her mother´s place because I am on a business trip and will be back within a couple of days. Ispoke with her today and sehe told me that last night she had a terrible fight with her mother and attempted to commit suicide, after which her mother told her to get out of the house. I am not there and she has no place to go and Iam crazy worried about thesituation. It´s obvious that my codependency is major and am tired of it. At this point Idon´t know what todo!. Any suggestions?

January 9, 2003
11:52 am
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First of all let me speak in terms of help for your wife. I volunteer in our areas EMS and lost my big (half)brother to suicide nearly four years ago -- so I know of what I speak. It is imperative that first of all you get your wife professional help ASAP!!
You say you are out of town so this is what you do. Call the local sheriff's department. Tell them your name and situation and your wife's address. Ask them to do a welfare check. They will go to the address and check on your wife. Also tell them you are afraid she may hurt herself, and they will transport her (even if it's against her will) to appropriate facilities. In our county it's a local hospital who has a floor devoted to mental health. There is a period of mandatory stay when the police bring you in. I know because I have assisted the police, I was the female who rode along with a suicidal lady and an officer who is a friend of mine. The husband called in in that case and altho the wife denied it, she was firmly and gently ignored for her own good.

And DON'T think it won't happen, it is sometimes hard to think of doing the above scenario, I know. You may feel as though you are betraying your wife. What you are doing is very probably saving her life. If she is playing with you, fine. You can't afford to take that chance. I missed the signs with my brother and I miss him every day of my life. You don't want that over your head! It can and will happen to your family. It happened to mine.

Please get back to me and let me know what you find out. Please listen to me here and do this!! I will say a quick prayer for the two of you.

January 10, 2003
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I don't want to see anyone lose a loved one this way, and I don't know what you've been through with her and for how long. But my soon to be ex-husband had repeatedly kept my life and my kids in turmoil with his addiction, and used this threat and some attempts repeatedly. At this point, I've moved out, moved on, and can't stop him from that anymore than I could stop him from the drugs/alcohol. If this is his choice in life, it is. This sounds cruel, and I understand six foot, but the biggest part of my codependency work was realizing I cannot change or control someone else, only myself. I really feel for you, and please understand I'm not saying do nothing, it's a tough road. Good Luck

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