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Past, Present, Future
December 20, 2005
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Ok, here goes:

List one thing you want for this holiday season (either tangible or intangible).

Then list something you would change over the past year.

Lastly, list something you plan to accomplish in the new year (like some sort of new years resolution.

Sort of like a past, present and future cyber holiday list.

I will go first:

Something I want for the holidays: Dinner on Christmas this my girls. It will not happen...my x will only give them to my from 10-4. I have to go back to court for next year.

Something I would change: I would have worked even harder to cultivate my relationship with my oldest daughter, so that it did not fall apart and get to where it is now.

Well, besides the obvious of trying to steer the ship right with my oldest daughter, I will go back to court and get the holiday schedule adjusted, since she will not work with me. I will buy a house in 2006. I was supposed to do it in 2005, but it will happen. I think that is it really.

How about you?

December 20, 2005
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Great questions overcome. here goes....

My wish for this year.....I hope to get thru the day feeling okay. This is my first Christmas alone, and while I thought it would be awful, Im seeing that I have much to be thankful for. I hope that grateful feeling carries over throughout the whole day, and I dont miss "him".

What would I have changed the past year....

I would have went to counseling a LOT sooner so i could see the role i was playing to create the situation Im in now with the BF.

Accomplishment for next year.....

Hopefully, to continue on the same path Im on right now. Taking responsibility for my awn actions and feelings,staying in counseling, and getting back control over my own life. Most important, stop trying to control "him" with all my reactions to the crap, and just let go and live my own life.

Overcome...i wish you a wonderful holiday with your daughters, and I hope for repair between you and your oldest daughter. I see how much this hurts you and I pray this gets better. Im sure it will. Youre her father, and you love her. In the end, that matters so much more than all the issues surrounding everything.

December 20, 2005
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Best of luck with the above, overcome!

1) Love.

2) I wish I hadn't kept looking in the wrong place (with my ex-bf) and had worked harder to nourish my relationships with family & friends, instead of racing off on wild-goose-chases in vain 🙁

3) I resolve to work on improving the friendships I have, and on enjoying keeping my focus positive and loving. To grow spiritually! Instead of bewailing my frustrations, emptiness & loneliness, to learn to stop moaning & cultivate an ability to LIVE fully & rejoice in good moments and thus be happier and spread a more relaxed, happy attitude.

Brilliant thread idea!

Blessings - Gazelle.

December 20, 2005
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Wellthe thing i would change or take back if i could would be i would not of got married so young.Big mistake.

What I want this year is to be more independent.To take care of my boys, be the best mom i can possibly be spend more time with them. No worries, Ill keep my fingers crossed. lol

What i would like to be able to do by next year is move out of state start some where new, A fresh start if you will. I hope to have my x out of my life by then. Will see.

overcome, I hope you have a nice holiday. Iam worried about you. I hope you are feeling better. If you want to talk you know iam here for you.

December 20, 2005
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Ok OVERCOME YOUR READY????.......

What I want for christmas, is just to make it through peacefully, no fighting, and see my sons eyes light up.. I would have like to have my dauhgter here,but she and my husband dont see eye to eye..

the thing i would have changed..
I would have followed thru with my divorce and not fallen to the guilt placed upon me..

my future..
To be free of this living hell, and stand alone..
peacefully............

thanks friend,And Im sorry and feel your pain..
Love Kasie

December 20, 2005
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Great Thread Overcome!

For this season, I would like to spend time with my kids and my brother, sister and parents and have everyone get along.

Ok for this past year the one thing I would changed is that I would have worked harder on my spiritual relationship.

For 2006 I resolve to focus more on my spirituality and also to develop more real friendships.

Take care! I hope everything works out for you and your girls, their relationship with you is one of the most important in their lives. It shapes how they look at men and how they see themselves. Keep trying you are making a difference by making an effort! Gayle

December 20, 2005
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The Past: I would like to keep reminding myself that it is gone and not worry about it or keep going back to it unless for positive refrence.

The Present: To live, relax and enjoy every bit of it and not to worry about even the next 5 minutes.

The Future: To have my dreams come true according to my HP!

Thanks Overcome to this beautiful thread. And I share Lita of my wish that if you want to speak about what was going on lately here, I am here for you love!

~Ras~

December 20, 2005
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Ditto, RAS! But cheating is not good.

For the past, I wish I could be more grateful for the good things and remember that the bad things that happened wont keep triggering the same defenses and reactions in me.

For the present, I wish I could balance my thinking and my doing in a more positive persistent way.

For the future, to see blossoms of my efforts and the gain in any pain.

December 21, 2005
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past>id like to forget it personally but also would like to reflect on all the good times minus the bad times i faced during my life

present> id like to focus more on my kids and learn how to love myself more and do better finacally and not make the same mistakes twice and also to learn to be a friend a friend would like to have and reach out to more people and help them in some small way

future)it hasnt happend yet so i will let be what is suppose to be and leave it at thats cheers to everyone !

December 27, 2005
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Dear Chloeysmomma,

You are so blessed. There are very people in the world who think like you.

Right from this moment....THINK only positive. Cancel all negative thoughts...Tell yourself that you are an angel. You are extremely special and unique...

Cancel every negative thought and replace that with a positive thought. Tell yourself positive statements....I am very speical...I LOVE myself very much. I am going to do extremely well in every thing....financially....emotionally.... Keep saying these statements many times through out the day....

You are your thoughts....Try to see GOOD in everything in everyone. If someone is mean show sympathy. Think that they are SICK and they need help.
Don't think negative about anyone.

Here are some positive attitudes...

1. Love
Without judgment or evaluation it says, "We may be different but we are also alike. I see myself in you and I see you in myself." Love is expressed through empathy. on a physical level, love is expressed through touch. Keep hugging your children....

2.Understanding
Understanding is to be able to see the world through another person's eyes. To walk in someone's shoes. An understanding attitude says, "Before I judge you, I will take off my shoes and walk in yours for a while."

3.Respect
Respect acknowledges the value and importance of who a person is, as well as their needs. Respect is the attitude that motivates one to truly serve another because he or she deserves it.

4.Appreciation
Appreciation is the natural reaction to being supported. Appreciation inspires us to give back to others with a feeling of fullness and joy.

5. Acceptance
Acceptance is accompanied by a sense of gratitude for what we have received. To accept a person means to validate that they are enough for you. It does not mean that you think they could not improve; it indicates that you are not trying to improve them. Acceptance is the attitude that forgives another's mistakes.

6.Trust
Trust grows in a relationship when each partner recognizes that the other never intends to hurt.

Try these positive attitudes and your life will change forever.....
more tips later.....
love always,
Guide

December 27, 2005
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I just gave a sign to my husband (and me) for
Christmas. It reads:

"Yesterday is the past. Tomorrow is the future. Today is a gift, that's why it's called the present."

It is to remind us to stay in today, and appreciate it and love one another.

LL

December 28, 2005
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Past - it is a rich garden, and can continue to bear fruit, be cultivated, and bear fruit if it is tended to honestly..........weeds and all (and believe me I have got some ornery dandelions in mine).

Present - Continually remind myself to keep it simple...............God has a plan for me. This too shall pass. Notice when I am calm and peaceful and enjoy it.

Future - I love the prayer of St. Francis of Assisi though I don't think I can live up to it. Cool thread - gotta bump it.

Smiles,

hope

December 28, 2005
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You guys have inspired me today, your beautiful.

Thank you, Dalpuz

December 28, 2005
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You guys have inspired me today, your beautiful.

Thank you, Dalpuz

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