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Mike this is for you
December 5, 2008
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Wow. I had a post all ready and I saw that message from the Site Coordinator on the Other Thread. Delete!!! I don't know anyone here, I want to talk to Mike and others too, so I'll try to start this thread.

I need to say this to Pilottress or anyone else that thinks I'm trying to pick someone up in a support forum. I'm not. I don't need to do that here. Not getting men is NOT my problem.

I'm sorry if the way I talk upsets anyone!!. I didn't realize that being friendly was frowned on here. It's the way I talk and the way I am. I'm sorry, but I don't think that telling someone what I think are their good points is flirtatious and I don't think focusing on positive is either. I thought THAT was supportive. BTW- I wonder what Mike looks like, too, I was going to wait to ask. Or anyone for that matter. I wish I could see what everyone looks like.

I so appreciate those who posted about what they saw on the Other Thread. I'm glad you had the balls to say what you did. Wow that was intense, wasn't it? My god.

Ok, Mike!! Back to you. There's something you need to know about me. I'm SO not young. I am SO getting up there! I'm 36. I don't know about good looking, you silly. The reason I know there is hope is because you came here looking for someone to talk to. You have hope in your heart too. I can tell cause you want to talk whether you will admit that or not. But to have hope, you'll have to have the courage to change and sometimes its easier to stay stuck in depression, you know? I did for a long time after I left my abusive ex husband. My heart ached for you to hear about your son's tragic death, the argument and how that makes you feel. I wish I could give you a big hug. If you ever want to talk more about your feelings, I will listen to you. (((Mike)))

I hope you are able to have a good weekend. I might be back on tomorrow cause I'm working tomorrow morning. If not then have a nice weekend. Take care of yourself, ok?

Harle

December 5, 2008
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harelequin....just let the thread die, this one too...can't you see that too many 'people" are coming in and its not being anonymous anymore....this site getting out of control, there is no more support, too much bashing....let it go....can't you see the SC wanted the other "my wife is cheating" thread to die, and you think starting this one is going to make it better?? let it go....cuz now, all the other :people: who know free, and Mike or what not can chime in....let it go............please!!! enough is enough, this site is getting too out of control!!!

December 5, 2008
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Camer, I'm sorry. I thought the Site Coordinator said for those of you who know each other to leave. I don't know anyone outside this site. I don't know Mike outside the site. The Site Coordinator said to let the my wife the cheater thread die.

Mike says he's not her husband. He has said that over and over. Two other people have posted that Free has made this kind of mistake before. Is it fair to this man that she is paranoid because she told her husband and I guess now half the town about this site? Why would anyone do that?

Is it fair to any of us that she has so obviously posted under all these names and made it so uncomfortable to all of us that want to talk, support, learn, change? It truly doesn't seem fair that one person can infect a forum this way. Again, I'm sorry if I did the wrong thing.

December 5, 2008
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(((harelequin)))I guess cuz too many invaders have already broken the thread...i just dont' want to see any of us caring people, break the rules....it seems like, somehow, someway, something happened, one person got in, maybe Mike, who knows, but someone who knows someday, and it got out of control. I feel bad for Mike, maybe he does need help, maybe too many people who think they "think" its Mike is ganging up on him....it just seems like everything is way out of control.

I by no means am telling you not to post, i just think that if "mike" is really ((free's)) hubby, then he should back off, and all the freinds who are trying to get in on bashing too....its all too close too home.

So, take no offensive ((harelquin))) I too, like a safe anonymous place to post, just like the rest of us.

(((camer))))

December 5, 2008
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this is off....be on this forum for years....not just since last year..we can email each other Now? that Nappy is long gone....
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((((((((((((((((((Camer)))))))))))))))))) I understand, Horsehag

December 7, 2008
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(((LV86)))
i love LV87 & LV88

December 7, 2008
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I dont know anyone here either. But the more I say it. the worse it seems to make these friends.

I want to thank the people who have been encuraging to me. Tez, Marypoppins Kroika Free2choose, Camer Horsefly Lollipop3 Shaney & the people from thread on the Support sectin of this site. I havent responded to everything everyone said. but Im thinking about all of it & apreciate it. I wish I did know some of you. Harle you have been so nice to me. Thank you. Im not used to a woman being nice to me. not for a long time. Its all been negative for so long.

I wanted to tell you that I went all week without drinking. but Friday night I went to the beach to talk to my son like you said. he always loved it there. cos he loved the water. There wasnt anyone around so I did it like you said. I held my hands out started talking. I told him I was sorry for the argument. that I love him & I know I failed him. In so many ways. I told him I was sorry I divorced his mom and I was such a lousy dad. i told him I miss him. I broke down Harle. I hate that. I dont break down. then I went home and got drunk. Ive hated myself ever since. the hangover I had yesterday was the worst I can remember. but I dont know if its from drinking or breaking down. I dont want to do either any more.

Harle. 36? Yeah you are fairly young sweety. You still have the world at your fingertips. Thanx for writing again. Take care.

December 8, 2008
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December 8, 2008
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Hi Mike. It's good to see you back. I'm sorry you were hurting so bad the other night you drank, but oh please don't beat yourself up too much for it. It's not easy to start expressing emotions after keeping them in for so long. (((Mike))) When you live in abuse and denial of abuse, you get used to living in silence denying your feelings.

The fact that you tried at the beach? The fact that you started is huge. Yayyy Mike!! You go!! Oh my heart goes out to you. I know you're a man and most men don't like to cry, but that is not a sign of weakness, no that's a sign of healing and strength to be able to do it. As for the drinking? Please forgive yourself. You slipped up but that's ok. Start again today.

Don't dwell on what you tried and failed, but what's still possible for you to do. I think one of the Popes said that. It might feel like it right now, but you aren't played out, you know? Your life is still full of possibility. If I wasn't played out after what happened to me, you aren't either. I drank a lot after I left my ex husband and after the divorce. It wasn't easy to stop because drinking numbed my pain. It was the only way I knew to stop the pain. What I learned was that I had to feel the pain in order to move forward. Drinking to numb the pain was only stalling that.

I got up early to check on you, friend. I've had my coffee now I need to get dressed. It looks like we are going to be mucho busy today, but I'll check in from time to time to see if you have been here. I hope you have a great day.

xoxo Harle

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