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Mandatory Read & Sign-In: from Site Coordinator
December 7, 2004
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Hey Everybody.

Are we all in here? I’d like everyone to just hit the reply button to acknowledge they’ve read this post. Kinda like a ‘mandatory’ memo distribution.

1. I didn’t think I’d find myself ever quite saying it this way, but, can we please approach people with our frustrations/disagreements with a little more softness? Call it manners, kindness or just old fashioned “asking for clarification/explanation” before jumping to conclusions/drawing generalizations. I’ve seen people being blasted, snapped at, even politely asked to keep their comments/business off these discussion boards. If you read something that is so horrible to read, or so insulting that you feel elevated to threaten, use verbal strong arming, shaming, judging, one-liners, what have you – I ask that you please notify me. I can be notified using the two links on the main threads page. But even better than notifying me, please ask the poster for clarification. 99% of the time, there is a misunderstanding going on, and many times by both parties.

I’ve seen many such unwarranted posts from several people to other people here recently – there are more examples than I’d like to list. I ask that we change those kinds of responses into more thoughtful, respectful, kind, and inquisitive posts that ask for clarification before jumping to conclusions.

2. As a general and final notice: Please, no more than 1 nickname in thread titles. Future naming of thread titles with more than 1 nickname in the title, will be renamed without prior notice.

3. If I may offer some generalized advice? (does not apply to all situations), if you need general & immediate support (you’re hurting badly, anxious, lonely), it’s almost always here, in the form of everyone. Usually, someone is on to give immediate comfort or advice when it’s needed.

But, if what you need is personal, and specific “urgent advice”, it’s my experience, that you should WAIT a day, two, usually a week before reacting to these seemingly “urgent” situations. There’s no need to make such an urgent plea. Why? Because most of these situations are extremely emotionally charged, and 9x out of 10, we react/respond way too soon - just in the hopes of relieving these emotions. When we do this, no matter how much immediate advice others give us, we are still most likely to react in irrational, unproductive or damaging ways. Emotional reactions are not well-thought-out reactions. It’s best, to wait. Be good and calm first… Just general advice.

Please sign-in, thanks. Site Coordinator

December 7, 2004
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December 7, 2004
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thanks sc!! camer..........

December 7, 2004
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December 7, 2004
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Thanks

December 7, 2004
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X..........AJSinPROV

December 7, 2004
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Thanks CS

December 7, 2004
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Sorry SC, believe it or not I don't have dyslexia.

December 7, 2004
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noted

December 7, 2004
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woohoo

December 7, 2004
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yo

December 7, 2004
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gotcha.

December 7, 2004
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December 7, 2004
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OK

December 7, 2004
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Okay.

December 7, 2004
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December 7, 2004
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OKIE DOKIE

December 7, 2004
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yep

December 7, 2004
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yes

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I hear you! Tx

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