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April 16, 2009
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(((Cookie)))

Good to see you.

Hang in there babe.

Tree- WOW! That is absolutely mind-blowing. However, free's personal info is up and that really stinks!

Oooh Jeeeze...

April 16, 2009
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(((Free,Tree,Isis,Kroika
(((Safe place girl)))

April 16, 2009
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Thanks Isis. Good to see you too. I am going to hang in there, no matter what. I have a lot going on, but, I am going to see the other side.

So many things have gotten better, I will fight to see the rest of them get better as well.

I carry on this journey to a better place. I believe it exists. I have hope.

And Kroika, thanks a million. This skoolgirl is continuing on. I am doing very well still. I am going to continue the Social Work piece, despite my thoughts at one point on not. A friend of mine really made some things very clear to me in regards to that random emotional choice that I made. (I learned to stop making choices in emotional moments)

Love you girls...

((((kroika and Isis))))

April 16, 2009
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((((((((((miTch))))))))))
I love ya, my friend!!

April 16, 2009
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((((((((((BEV)))))))))) Perky is sendin ya love and support!!

April 16, 2009
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(((Bevdee))) oh bev!
I knew I could feel your presence!

April 16, 2009
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I find all of this pretty creepy. One certainly has a choice not to read certain posts, but it's unfortunate for this site and the SC that people don't follow the rules of the site regarding one and only one name. If someone is banned, that's the way it goes.

Just because someone CAN get around being banned and return, does that mean one SHOULD? I understand why the SC is frustrated. Do some people NOT have to follow the rules? Why is that? It seems unhealthy and contradictory to me for someone to deem herself/himself exempt from the rules and then post about how others have wronged them.

We've ALL been through shit, hell and back. That doesn't give anyone the right to not have to follow the rules. Grow up.

The rules don't apply to some because they still have friends here? So? If we're fired from a job, we don't keep showing up because we still have friends here. Seems some people simply DO what they want to do because they can get away with it.

It's an honor system. But I suppose someone who doesn't have much respect for herself/himself wouldn't think it terribly wrong to "sneak back". The SC has tried to create something good and true, but people speak to her as if she owes them this site and owes them second and third and fourth chances and forgiveness and unlimited amounts of patience. Why??? No one expects after all the time, money, and effort she has put into this site, that she might simply get fed up sometimes with some of the crap that goes on? Amazing she hasn't gotten very emotional many times before.

Sheesh.

Mary

April 16, 2009
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If we're fired from a job, we don't keep showing up because we still have friends THERE, I meant.

April 16, 2009
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By the way, I did not know that all I had to do was to refresh.......wow, that is sooooo much easier.....thanks for the info........

April 16, 2009
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((((Friendma)))) Making me smile as always!! I sure have missed ya.

((((Marypoppins)))) I appreciate and respect your opinion, I do. I am not going to dispute it, or anything else.

April 16, 2009
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Ok... I have a confession to make... before I knew the guidelines were inflexible... I emailed the SC because instead of my name invoking "Miss R. Ella" Or "Miserella" as in misery, people kept thinking it reminded them of cheese. Even though I am Italian, that just wasn't cool...

Hey, I wanted a PRETTY name. But my request was declined. So here I am. Cheesy name and all. Oh well.

-ella

April 17, 2009
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Hi.....

I'd like to comment on the SC's e-mail to Tree, Free or whoeverthefuck. First, I'd like to say...WOW....SC's got balls. I like that. And good for her for sticking up for herself.
Second, it appears that what she wrote privately supports everything she has said publically. Not that I doubted her anyway. But even if there were more than one SC on this site.....what difference does it make? Does it change what the purpose of this site is? Does it make this site any less helpful? I don't get it...what is the point of all of that conspiracy nonsense anyway? What is the fucking point? WHAT IS THE POOOOINNNNT?????

And finally, those of you who have been antagonizing the SC are now surely going to come out of the woodwork just as Tree has done, to try to shame the SC with your "see, she's the one that's crazy" shit but the fact of the matter is.....just like an abusive mate.....you all drove her to blow her stack. In all of my years of coming here I have NEVER seen her react like that. I have always seen her react calmly and diplomatically and I have seen her try to help people put things into perspective and to redirect the focus back to themselves.

So there you go....you were able to needle her enough and poke her and push her until she attacked back. Congratulations.

Watching it reminded me of my relationship with my ex. The one that I came here because of. The way he would push every button I had to the point that I would explode. And they he would point and say....."see, you're the one with the problem."

At least that what it looks like from where I sit.

Again, I say....Congratulations.

You can all be very proud of yourselves.

April 17, 2009
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And Mich....I just want you to know I wasn't calling you stupid. I didn't see the point in what you were doing and that is what I thought was stupid.

I happen to know you are very bright and in my opinion, too good to resort to game playing.

((((Mich))))

April 17, 2009
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And to you Friendma...... I hear ya! Isn't that refresh thing so much easier????

April 17, 2009
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(((Ella)))).....LoL

April 17, 2009
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All that has been proven here today is that the site coordinator here is human. Really pathetic to post personal correspondence and someone's personal information up here. Honestly, if I were the admin, I'd look into an order of protection. That's the truth.

April 17, 2009
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((((Lolli)))

I couldn't have said it better myself! LADY YOU ROCK! šŸ™‚

April 17, 2009
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((((Precious)))))

Thank you šŸ™‚

April 17, 2009
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I'm sorry for those of you who read that. It was a personal correspondence. With some of your permissions, can I delete it? I mean, I don't want to delete it, and then get a broom bashing for trying to "hide something". Personal information does NOT belong up here.

If your "baby" that you loved were being attacked, you might do as I did, to protect it. Guess we don't know what we'll do til we're pushed to a wall.

I've learned again here that I love this place. And I try, though failingly sometimes to protect it. Free apparently wants to destroy me, and in the process, let the site be destroyed for people who need it in the future. I suppose I could just shut this place down and everyone can go to the Yahoo messenger boards, but I won't until all of you think I should.

And for those of you angry and upset with me for "asking bevdee, guest, and free, and mich for that matter" to go.. I'm really sorry. There were reasons, and each person (except bevdee) I talked to about the problem privately in email. But bevdee knew she was crossing the line, and she even wrote that she was crossing the line. I think she actually WANTED ME to tell her to go. I don't know why, but I do think she did. I have only ever "popped my top" so to speak, with Free because she seems to want to make everything so very personal as an attack against me.

Mich, you can stay, like I said, I can't stop you. There must be a reason you won't take my advice that I gave you a while ago, so maybe someday it'll come to a head for you. Because this place is NOT GOOD for you either. We've talked about that, remember? A few times in the past, and I won't explain why, but your behavior of being here too much is one of the symptoms of the problem. If you'd like to stay, and start using your old nickname, come let me know. I mean, you haven't done anything really "to me" here šŸ™‚ I'd say now that I've probably done more "to you", so I'm sorry for that. But I stick by my advice, that I think you're better off not being here.

I usually don't encounter so many multiple problems coming to a head at once when I come up here. It started with GG, which I knew was getting to that point, and then the folks that think I'm some kind of "banning monster" all came out of the woodwork. I'm not a banning monster! I don't ever want to ask anyone to leave. It's horrible, it's not fun. It's also time consuming and draining on me. Why would I want that? For anyone who thinks differently, well, all I can say is that I sincerely ask that you trust & believe my word. I can't prove it.

Let there be peace restored!

SC

April 17, 2009
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SC,

I would most certainly delet my personal info from these threads. That is private between you and the poster. It wasn't meant for anyone else but the two people involved. In doing so I do not believe that you were/are trying to hide anyhting.

The way I look at this is when you are in group counseling when one member or several become disruptive to the group and when the behavior becomes counter productive and after much time and care as been given to rectify the situation to no avail then that person or persons are asked to leave. I really do not see that this site is any different. Also, when you are with a group of friends or even family when people are disruptive and causing trouble to try to work them to correct the situation but eventually it gets to the point the best thing to do is separate yourself from that person or situation.

Yes some people may NEED a place such as this but when they are truly disrupting the spirit and environment that is entended then sadly may be the best solution for them and the others involved is to go. Again after time and consultation as been given with no change then they have to go.

I mean think about it. I am really not surprised by some posters reactions. Some if not many of us are used to putting up with and accepting of a lot of dsyfuctional behavior. Many of us are used to banging our heads against a wall in hopes of seeing change and improvement. When in reallity, sad as it can be, the best solution, the healthy solution, and perhaps the only solution is to part ways.

Again SC I truly appreciate all the time, effort, and energy that you put into your baby. I know that I have met some pretty amazing women and men here. I have learned much in my short time here and look forward to learning more in the years to come.

(((SC)))

PreciousG

April 17, 2009
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SC,
I have no issue with you deleting that post and in fact, think you should. I wouldn't feel bad about it though....you're not the one that put someone's personal info out there. If anything negative comes of it, she has no one to blame but herself.

FYI...it's been copied and pasted to the "is this site anonymous" thread as well in case you didn't already know.

Take care and keep up the good work!

April 17, 2009
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SC, You don't need anybody's permission to delete anything. Trust yourself and take care of yourself!

April 17, 2009
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I think all of these threads have outlived there usefulness. Keeping them up will just perpetuate the dysfuntion.

The SC decision to send a private email was appropriate. Trees decision to post it on this site was not. Since Tree is the one who posted it, Tree is responsible for its content.

In my opion what Tree is doing is Cyberstalking. There was a very famous case where a woman went to prison for doing this to a teen who wound up commiting suicide.

Tree- I am glad you posted this. Because it is proof that the person who sent it to you asked you to leave & does not want you in her life or at her place of business. In my opinion if you keep harassing her and stalking her..... your a smart woman figure it out.

April 17, 2009
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SC: I say "Delete it!!". Good grief, how many times have we been told not to put personal emails on here? So, another rule broken. Delete!

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April 17, 2009
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Shoot, when I left yesterday, it sort of felt like things were winding down a bit - then bam.

SC - I say delete the entire post. It doesn't serve a purpose other than to attract more drama. We've all done some mud-slinging in the past few days - hopefully it will all die down and we can move on.
And as far as the personal info? If she didn't want it out there, then she could have kept it to herself. Not your problem.

Have a good day all - shaney

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