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Changing Nicknames
April 15, 2009
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I have always been mj. You can trust when you see this nick, its still me. We are only allowed one nickname. How can you trust people who continually change their names? I think it is counterproductive to healthy communications. This could be a safe place if everyone follows the guidelines.

April 15, 2009
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It could be a safe place if people weren't making assumptions that every person on here has had more than one nick as well. You are so mistrusting of others, but want others to trust you?? Maybe some have, but not all have. You have no way to prove that you are only mj, and you can't expect the same of others. You are as paranoid as the rest. You are making attempts to start more fights.

You said this could be a safe place if everyone followed the guidelines. Again, you are right. However, accusations of people being someone other than what they say can not be healthy. Kind of sad really. Your insecurity is likely to cause pain to others.

April 15, 2009
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I am baffeled by this as well. I would really like to know what the deal is with the nicknames.

April 15, 2009
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Asking directly is what I am learning to do. Why are you here?

April 15, 2009
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I am here because I came back to heal some wounds. I want to be supported and learn to communicate.

I urge you to look at the guidelines.
For the safety of knowing who we are posting to is important to trust issues.

Have you ever had another Nickname?

April 15, 2009
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My cookie?

April 15, 2009
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mj,

To whom are you speaking when you ask "why are you here and have you ever had another nickname?"

April 15, 2009
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She was asking me, and the answer is yes. If she wants to know what it is, I will share it. What is the worst that is going to happen at this point?? I am going to get banned?? AGAIN?? I got banned with good reason. I have stuck around for months, laid low, and read some.

April 15, 2009
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Please do share cookie.

April 15, 2009
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You know who it is Isis. There isn't a doubt in your mind. Well, there might have been for a minute. But, for the love of everything that grows with the sweet peas, I hope you are certain.

April 15, 2009
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Lol I knew it!

April 15, 2009
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My cookie!

April 15, 2009
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That should prove that Free and I are NOT associated.

How are you?

April 15, 2009
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Tired... School

Sad... Bevdee

Happy... Cookie

Strange... Treetwinks

Wow!

April 15, 2009
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I understand all of that. Honestly, I haven't looked at the site in probably a month. I was just happy to see your name. Hence the hug.

Things are going good for me. I am still going to school. I was inducted into the Phi Theta Kappa last December. I was pretty proud of that.

Still married, and things are going pretty good. Much better than they have ever been. Still some work to do, but I am getting there. (or should I say, we are getting there)

We just bought our first house. Haven't moved yet. Hopefully the first of next month. We are really excited about that.

Other than that, still working on becoming a better person. Still in group therapy...two, actually. Not individual at this point, but other than that, things are going well.

Love ya girl...

April 15, 2009
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((((1clearcookie))))

April 15, 2009
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((((RW)))) How are you?

April 15, 2009
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Look at the thread positive thoughts needed on the support side. I am not well.

April 15, 2009
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You know this really pisses me off. Mich - you have been banned at least three times and yet you keep coming back to the site with other nicknames. No wonder people are paranoid about multiple nicknames and no wonder the SC is so tired of policing this site.

Why do you behave in such a deceptive manner? Your cryptic language in referring to who you are is deceitful and wrong. You were asked to leave the site for some very good reasons. Why do you continue to come to this site in such a dishonest manner?

Have some honor and do the right thing. I understand you need the support but there are many other sources for support. Your misrepresentation of yourself is manipulative and deceitful.

free spirit

April 15, 2009
8:47 pm
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And who might you be, free spirit?

For the record, I am kroika and have never posted under any other nickname at this site. However, I know some of the people who have.

None of the cloak-and-dagger stuff would be necessary if this site had the capacity for people to send private messages to each other, which they would do using their nicknames and therefore maintaining the anonymity of not using email.

Private messaging is very helpful when people are discussing sensitive material and wild donkeys are allowed to roam the site biting and kicking and braying at will.

But, 1clearcookie is right (as expressed on another of the numerous spreads springing up today) people can get around it if they really want to.

Kall me paranoid... but I do think the hit kount is important to somebody. Why else allow so much drama to recur regularly?

April 15, 2009
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oops, that should be "numerous threads springing up today". !

April 15, 2009
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I would suggest suppressing comments on the "hit count" kroika. Just might lead ya to the countryside with bevdee.

peace

April 15, 2009
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HI Kroika,

I am free spirit and I have not posted here for awhile. I did post here regularly but much like yourself, I decided I did not really have the time to invest to be a regular poster. I have read and enjoyed your posts. You brought so much knowledge to the narcissism topic! I used to post on many of the "N" threads and also on the "Darn Dating Thread" several years ago. I learned alot from this site.

Anyway, I watched Scared in Mich and Sweet Peas post and there was alot of drama and breaking the rules by giving out email addresses. Not good.

Have you thought about the possibility that the drama here occurs because people are in recovery, working out issues and not always healthy? I did read the conspiracy theory batted around by you and Bevdee. Let's face it, we all like a good conspiracy theory but this was at the expense of the SC's hurt feelings. And I can understand why she felt betrayed having invested so much work and effort into this site. I feel for her and I know she had hurt feelings by her very strong reaction. So, out of respect for her, I will not discuss this anymore.

Anyway, for a person to return to the site like Mich/Sweet Peas/Cookie in such a fashion is wrong IMHO. Of course a person can get around that if they want. In part, the site relies on good intentions, good choices and character.

Lastly, for Tree Hugs - it is obvious that you have a history here and a grudge against SC. You are very disrespectful to her and hurtful. I was here when Twinks was asked to leave and if you are her, you need to go. You are not objective here and are mean-spirited when you respond and post. There is a subtle flavor of discontent and suppressed rage in some of your posts. Lots of anger there. Have you considered therapy that is more intensive that this site can provide?

I too will miss reading Bevdee - I posted once with her along time ago and felt a deep connection to her. I went through some of the same things with my mother and had no contact with her for a long time. I always hated Bevdee's mother though for the wounds she caused Bevdee and I think she has done an admirable job of putting some perspective to that situation. Maybe Bevdee can work this out privately with SC. I hope so.

Take care everyone,

free spirit

April 15, 2009
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Free sprit- Great post. Very well thought out. Loved it!

April 15, 2009
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1ClearCookie, Tree_hugs_4life, and Sweetpeas are all the same person and I can prove it. SC was right.

4-15-09 on the "I'll Miss Bevdee" thread 1ClearCookie states "There will always be a way to get around being banned".

4-13-09 on the "Thank You Site Coordinator" thread Tree_hugs_4life states "ya cant really ban people. There are many ways around that.

4-15-09 on this thread 1ClearCookie states she was banned from this site and used the nick name "sweetpeas" before.

Yes, Clear cookie, tree hugger, sweetpeas or whoever you are, you are right that there are ways around getting banned and you have proved it. Remember you can fool some of the people some of the time but you cant fool all of the people all of the time. In the end the only person you made a fool out of was yourself.

The foundation of all relationships is trust. You have proved that you cant be trusted.

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