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Victim Mentality
January 23, 2014
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Society is full of people who, because of their own limiting beliefs, have settled into becoming victims of their circumstances. They feel powerless to make changes in their lives because they think that the elements of their lives are out of their control. All too often they're quick to ask, "Why do bad things keep happening to me?

People who always seem to have an excuse for the things in their life that aren't working. And much of what is in their lives isn't working as well as it could be. They have poor health or bad relationships; they have dead-end jobs or chronic financial problems.

They have a hard time taking responsibility for themselves, their actions, mistakes, and even their own decisions. In short, being a victim requires a giving up of most, if not all, personal responsibility.When we allow ourselves to be victims, we are letting the people and circumstances in our lives dictate how we will feel, and ultimately, who we will be. Nobody – no matter how hard they try – can ever make someone else feel something that they don't want to feel. Think about that for a moment.

January 23, 2014
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You Are Not the Cause of Your Partner’s Anger or Abuse.

Anger and abuse in relationships are about blame: "I feel bad, and it's your fault." Even when resentful, angry, or emotionally abusive people recognize their behavior, they are likely to blame it on their partners: "You push my buttons," or, "I might have overreacted, but I'm human, and look what you did!"

January 23, 2014
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A professional victim is someone who (usually falsely) claims victimization any time things don't go their way. Everywhere this person goes, they believe someone is taking advantages of them. This person has many many stories of The Man keeping them down, numerous abuse incidents throughout their childhood and adolescence and adulthood. This person will regale you with stories of their failures as a result of someone other than themselves. It's never their fault, in whole or in part. Life just isn't fair for these people.

The professional victim cannot take responsibility for his or her own shortcomings and life failures, so they claim to be a victim of circumstance and/or other people.

January 23, 2014
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Do you know someone that refuses to take responsibility for her own actions, especially the hurtful ones? Do you frequently feel forced into a role of contrition in which you have to make up for some transgression or that you “owe” him or her?

If so, you may be involved with a person who is a professional victim. Don’t be fooled, s/he is no victim. Victim-hood is a powerful role, albeit an illegitimate one, in which an individual gains power over others through guilt, obligation and shame. In fact, individuals who play the victim are usually the aggressors in relationships. Playing the “victim” is a control device by which they hold others emotionally hostage.

Professional victims are often stealth bullies. If you know a professional victim, being caught in their never ending blame game will eventually exhaust you and induce a sense of learned helplessness.

The following characteristics are signs that you’re involved with a professional victim:

1) She never acknowledges when she hurts others. She has exclusive rights to the role of “injured party.” When you call her on her behavior, she provides ample excuses for why she’s not accountable. These excuses assign blame for her actions to someone else, usually the person she’s wronged. It’s always your fault or someone else’s fault, but never, ever is it her fault.

2) The victim must be victimized. If you’re not an abusive person, s/he’ll pull it out of you in order to play the victim script in her head. For example, she needles and needles and needles one of your sore spots until you can’t take it any more and snap at her in defense.

Presto! She just got you to “victimize” her—never mind the previous 2 hours in which she psychologically tormented and bullied you into it. She needs to play innocent victim to someone’s bad guy. It’s the foundation of her identity.

This is a very primitive defense mechanism called projective identification, which, if you’re on the receiving end, is truly awful in that it makes you feel like the crazy person. It’s a self-fulfilling prophesy whereby she believes you’re a “bad guy” and she’s a “victim.” She then behaves or interacts with you in such a way that you change your behavior in response to her actions and become the “bad guy.” A telltale sign is that you feel like you’re being coerced into being someone that you’re not. It’s highly, highly emotionally abusive and if this is occurring in your relationship, I encourage you to end the relationship before you sink to her level and do something you regret.

3) She blames others and circumstances for her own shortcomings or failures. The professional victim lives in “Never-Never Take Personal Responsibility Land,” which is bordered to the North by “The Land of If Only.” This allows her to blame her parents, siblings, co-workers, bosses, professors and you for her life, career and relationships not being as she thinks they should be.

She’d be running the business if only her boss recognized her talents. She’d have graduated from design school and been wildly successful if her professor hadn’t looked at her cross-eyed.

March 19, 2014
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I think abuse or any kind of physical abuse is showing that person who is doing this is in the worst situation or he/she will be mentally disturbed then only they will do this kind of thing..

May 28, 2014
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It is ascribing non-existent negative intentions to other people and that is not good for mind because all time it is think negative and it effect on directly on our health and we are under depression. so negative, with a general tendency to focus on bad rather than good aspects of a situation.

October 29, 2014
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