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Problems with a Co-Worker - Unsure what to do
February 23, 2012
8:34 am
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Recently a co-worker had a issue with how I did my job (collating and accounting for vacation, sick & PTO time) she tends to question my accounting frequently.  She talked with a supervisor about it, like I did.  The next day when the supervisor was out of the office she lost control of herself over it.  She got loud, yelling through the office about how inept and unqualified I was to do the job.  She made veiled threats telling me not to get in her face and made a very concerted effort to intimidate me in my office.  She repeated that I was not qualified to do the job, I was childish and constantly writing everything down and she would file a grievance on me.  She was sobbing in tears, yelling and blaming me, she also said that she couldn't control her anger when she got this mad.  Before the episode was finished we called the supervisor at home, and after being unable to reason with the angry co-worker her supervisor directed that she be sent home for the day.


Next day - I started getting a quiet apology from the co-worker and how she prayed about it all -- before I interrupted.  I told her to wait and I didn't want to do this without a witness. (we were alone)  I am not sure what set her off, but I do not want to go through that again.


So - I'm the quiet introvert that gets my job done and tries to please people.  I am concerned that I will be portrayed as the mean nasty one because I am not the good Christian and won't forget about this and turn the other cheek.  I am a little concerned for my safety, and the fact that she could file a grievance.  Her supervisor will not return to the office for a while - and I don't know what to do.  I want to involve department heads in the disscusion, but I don't know if I'm over-reacting -- and how others will percieve my actions.  I feel I should protect my job and my reputation, or is that childish?!?  I'm worried that other co-workers will see me as a B*tch.


None of my other co-workers understand why this happened, I think they were all as stunned as I was.  But does the reason "why" really matter?  No one has ever had an issue like this with me, this is unfamiliar territory.  I am worried about all of it.


Any advice would be welcome.


February 24, 2012
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Good luck with your office problem.  The office can be a very cruel enviornment depending on the people you work with.  I feel very sorry for you.  The only advice I could give you is to try to reach this person another way.  Maybe ask her out for coffee and if she agrees tell her that you do not want there to be this rift between the two of you.  Ask her if she is willing to continue getting to know you better on a personal level and vice versa.  Maybe if both of you feel somewhat less threatned of each other as people, you will be able to treat each other with more kindness inside the office.  It's essential for both of you to not feel uncomfortable going to your job everyday and you really need to trust each other on some level to get the job done.

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Maybe you should try the advice of oneday, it might be best to have a one on one conversation with that person. That way, you'll be able to know why is she having a problem working with you. It may take a lot of courage to do that but it's the only to resolve any conflicts and issues. Before any other issues arise, at least you've tried reaching out to her and she knows that your intentions are good enough and that you are only doing your job.


Hope that helps.

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