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How to help someone to get help?
September 1, 2011
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I'm in a relationship with someone whom I think needs counseling, but who refuses to get help. I've tried to bring it up many times, as gently as I can, but she always shuts down and refuses to get help. She knows she has some issues (she doesn't really consider them big problems), but she says she can deal with them on her own, and that she used to be worse. She says she would feel ashamed to talk to anyone about it.


Is there something I can do to get her to change her mind and get help? I know forcing her would be useless, she has to want to get help for it to work, but for me it's very very hard to see her like this and I'm running out of patience. How do you help someone overcome that barrier and take that first step?

September 4, 2011
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You are definitely right, forcing her to get help and treatment would be useless. Maybe she needs more time for her to be able to analyze the level of help that she needs. The best thing that you can do for now is to be with her and make her appreciate more her life. Avoid talking things reminding how sick she is or how she's getting along with things cause it'll surely make her more depressed and other things complicated. By the time she's pshycologically, physically and emotionally ready then maybe you can try first any residential treatment. That way, she will be treated at her own home and acquire the best guidance and recovery she could ever get day by day.


Hoping for the best.



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September 12, 2011
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Hi ShiningLight,


Thanks for your reply. Her issues aren't serious enough (I think) that they would warrant residential treatment, I think probably talking to a psychologist once a week would already help. But, then again, I'm no expert...


My problem is that I can't sit by and do nothing. Everyone says you can't force people to get help, that they have to do it on their own, but if they haven't already why would they? I can't just not say anything as if there is nothing wrong, I will eventually get tired of waiting, give up and move on with my life. I try to broach the subject of counseling sometimes, but it doesn't seem to help. What can I do?

January 29, 2015
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i think so you can need some expert help.

January 31, 2015
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Talk to her first, act as her counselor/adviser, that way she could talk to someone expert.

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