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Emotional Attacked is painful than breaking up.
September 18, 2012
12:10 am
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msangel
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I've been with this guy for over 2 years now.i still remember how good and kind he is to me and my family.He told me that he has a brother that had psychological problem for years.He has to  put up with that ever since he was young. I was kinda nervous to get with him in first but overall he seem to be a kind and nice person, intelligent ,has a career ,wants to have family. We got together In 2010 of may. I still remember the first year how he treated me so nice,made me happy,kind to my family and respect my parents and all.

 

The first time he wanted ti break up is 1year and 2months. I still remember, he got home from work that night,he looks so depressed,doesn't want to talk to me.I asked him what wrong. All he said is nothing wrong nothing wrong then suddenly,he so frustrated and yelled at me angrily. He said he not happy and want to be alone. I feel that this problem may came from his mom and his psychal brother effected him badly. his brains feeling so angry for no reason but wants to explose. He seem too angry and if I try to talks he will yell louder and louder so I remain silenced.He then packed his clothes went to the beaches and came back few hours later. He apologized and I asked him the next day what was that for?he did not answered me but I awarded of it. We moved on happily and moved out in small apt.I cooked dinner,make him coffee,and pack lunch for him just for a simple reason that I Want him to feel that he has everything. We both put in total $5000 for all the suppliants we need for our apt. 3months later,he acted the same way that he was before.He came home from work,ignored me, eat inside his room,silent treatment. I watched Tv and ignored him too.He then came to me said He is not happy and i asked to talk it out.He starting to yell and i warned him no need to yell,we are not argueing and i didnt do you wrong or cheat on u.He said I have no potiential and I said ok then I got it now.You want to break up right?he said ok ok. I was soon hurt, My heart was pounding and feeling like I just got stabbed by someone, my heart beat so fast,my mind stopped thinking and I could not speak.I asked myself, what did I do wrong, I just feel like this guy is Emotional Attacked me  Or play with my heart and I don't know what to do and what to said. I asked him what did I do wrong? Then he said I didn't do anything wrong, he said"it's not you it's me,"From that moment I feel so hurt and I asked him just make decision to make him feel happy, then he said 'Break up' and I said Ok I will pack my belonging tomorrow.One hour later,he cried and asked me to forgive him.I did it again and I told myself if he ever acts like this again I will leave him insolent treatment.

Finally,It has been 2years and 3months,I decided to leave him without he knowing because he acting the same.He thought that i will get back with him and forgive him like begore.in this relationship,I've learned nothing but wasted my 2years for nothing.He  knows my identity,he knows my social,birthday,acct info.he throw my clothes outside and I have to go pick it up with my good friends.He did not wants to return my $2500.It been 3months that I'm alone and still scare to confront  him that he emotionally attacked me and I'm hurt.I don't know why I'm so nervous and scare to see him.When I see him,I think too much bad stuff about him and I can't speak when I see him. I lost everything and I'm scare of him.Please someone give me a answer what did I do wrong and why he keep trying to break up with often and on other hand he wants to marry me and have family ...I wish he just kindly and said break up with me instead of attacked my emotional 3 times.

September 18, 2012
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msangel,

 

So sorry for what you've been through but I guess what you did about leaving him is right. He has been abusing you emotionally and mentally so it might be best to just stay away from him. Try to consult a counselor that can help you overcome the stress and anxieties you've been experiencing lately. As much as possible seek the support of your family and friends and always be surrounded by them so that it'll be easier for you to move on and recover.

 

Hope that helps. Take care.

September 18, 2012
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By leaving this man you have freed yourself from his violent outbursts.  He needs to deal with his anger & you need to find yourself a place where you can just have serenity.  For whatever reason, the two of you together did not work out.  Just try to live your life & be yourself.  Hopefully he will seek out help for whatever is bothering him & you will meet someone more stable if you want to.  Otherwise, just live your life and forgive yourself because from what you have written, you did nothing wrong in the relationship.  Take care of yourself.

 

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September 18, 2012
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I sincerely thank you all for replied to my post.I knew that leaving him is a best thing to do but am I so scare of him.i scare he will go crazy and harm my family, I scare he will put sand in my gas tank make my car explode as he mentioned to do on other oeople car,and if I keep thinking I will have anxiety attack.  I feel so weak now and I don't have the joy that I used to have when im out with my friends. What have he done to me?what is the good advise to recover myself? I am so weak and I'm lost. how much time do I give myself to recover?

September 18, 2012
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You can either take the advise from a legal counsel and tell them that you need protection since you have received dangerous threats from him or you can take the option of migrating somewhere that you think you and your family are safe. Don't be afraid to tell your family and friends about the details of your experience so they would know what to do in order to protect you from that guy and they can help you recover along the way. You don't need to rush things. You'll get through this soon. Time is all you need.

February 10, 2013
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I am so sorry to know your situation these are the issue one can face often but you should not be feared because of him You can talk with him and if he do not like talking then you can talk with his family friends, relatives. I mean to say the one who can control him. If you are not getting any help with that then definitely you should take legal action against hi which will be difficult for you after thinking about his love but then also you need to take atleast some steps.

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