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Understanding
April 8, 2016
2:45 am
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cfire69
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Hello,
I'm new to all of this so I would ask for you all to please bare with me this is going to be a long one. I am in a marriage that i'm slowly losing faith in day by day. I love my wife and there is no question about it. I tell her every day that she is beautiful. I tell her everyday that I love her and that she is my everything. I guess i've always wanted more in our relationship and feel like deserved it. My wife comes from a family of heartless people. What i mean is that they show no affection towards one another, they are not compassionate towards one another and they always wanted to be right all the time. I've always had these suspisions that she was cheating on me but never had the real evidence so I just tried to believe in my faith that everything would get better. About a month ago she was diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression. I lost my job because I had to tend to all of her needs. Lately it has been a struggle for me dealing with every day activities with the kids and etc... We never are intimate with each other and when I try to be she always pushes me away. I try to romance her in buying her flowers or doing new things like taking her out to dinner and try to talk. Lately we don't talk it's just arguing about her and how she feels. She tries to tell me that its because of her disease but how can i begin to help if i'm the one always getting hurt. She talks down to me all the time and undermines me. She never trusts what I say never values the opinion of her own husband that loves her so much. I guess in retrospect Im tired of feeling like crap all the time. I want to end things but I love her to much. I try to mention counseling and she always give me an excuse so I try talking about my problems to her and that still doesn't work. What do I do ? I want my marriage to last but if I feel like this right now what makes me think it will change down the road? I would appreciate anyones expertise on the issues. Again I'm sorry for it being to long.

July 5, 2016
9:19 pm
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OlgaBloch
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Hi cfire69,
It's a good thing, you love her very much, but everyday telling same thing like you are beautiful or whatever can get irritate to someone. For a trusted and happy relationship, the main thing that is required is good understanding. First of all, understand your problems and then go for marriage counselling. In counselling, a counselor will understand your problems and helps to get back to a trusted relationship.

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