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The Problem is money.
July 21, 2014
1:44 pm
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spanielc
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When we got married two years ago, we agreed that I would go
back to school to finish my degree so that I could get the job I wanted, if I
wanted a job. We also agreed that I could be a stay at home mom while our
children were young and not in school. Right after we got married and I started
school we decided we wanted to have a baby, and that it would not conflict with
my schooling. So we did. Our son in 16 months old and I have a year and a half
until I finish school. Though now my husband is seemingly taking back
everything he said.

He hates his job, and seems to simply hate life in general
because we don’t have a lot of money, even though we went through pre-marital
counseling and he knew that we would be broke while I was in school. He resents
me every day for not working and when I ask him what I can do to help he says “get
a freaking job!” even though he knows I can’t because I am a full time student
and a mom. Surely he knows that quitting school to get a minimum wage job so he
can buy an expensive sports car, live in a big house and party every night is
not a very good idea :/ Even if I wasn’t in school we agreed that I could be a
stay at home mom because paying for someone else to raise our kids is not what
we want!!!

I just don’t know what to do!!! He is always so depressed,
and hates that we don’t have any money. He says that being a student and a mom
aren’t hard work and don’t count as jobs.

He wants to divorce me so he can live the bachelor life and
have lots of money, I feel like money is the only thing he cares about. He
doesn’t seem to get any joy out of anything else, not food, family, sex,
exercise nothing! Not unless it’s expensive. He is always grumpy and whiney and
all I want to do is make him happy, but not if it means doing something stupid
like quitting school when I am almost done. I love him and just don’t know what
to do.

July 22, 2014
5:10 am
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All I can tell you is that raising your child & getting an education will always be more important than money in my world.  It seems your husband cannot understand the actual work involved in raising a child, running a house & trying your best to improve your knowledge.  I don't think he appreciates you for the gem that I feel that you are.  I will never understand people that put money above love and who value fancy new things over precious new babies & what sounds like gold for a wife.  Whatever you do next is entirely up to you, but I would strongly urge you to stay with your original plans for yourself & your child because I see a very bright future for you.  Your husband does not deserve you.

 

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September 10, 2014
4:34 am
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In these situations, You have to give more support for your husband.  First of all, You say how the life is important. Then better tp consult counseling centers and you may have more chance to come out these problems.

 

 


Family and marriage counseling

October 1, 2014
1:13 am
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Raising a child is a precious thing to do, also studying. I hope he would realize that. To bo blinded with material things makes me really sad. Stay strong and determined to finish your study. Be Possitive! It will get better soon, just hang in there.

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