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No longer lovers
November 12, 2014
9:41 am
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highsierra
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Hello all,

Ok, I'm 47, she's 37. She works and goes to school. I'm in sales, and half the time i'm out of town and the other I work from home.

We've been married for 10 year, been together for 13. Like your normal situation we were great lovers, and for the last 4/5 she's lost interest. We've seen counseling a number of times and we/she have tried to work this out, and it starts off good but she looses interest again. She's had some sexual abuce when she was younger and I understand (I think) that sometimes it difficult for her, and that's ok. She doesn't like to be touched sexually, so I can't go there, and she doesn't like foreplay. Lately we've made Wednesday our "hump" or cuddle day to spend time together, but that's even faided out. We do cuddle and kiss, tell each other we love each other. I'm an amateur cheif so I make great meals, I clean the house, make money, pay the bills. I just don't get it.

 

I'm tired of making the move, so I wait, and wait untill eaither I take care of myself or give in and make the move and tell her I want to make love. Sometimes we even plan a day to make love, and nothing happens. It could easyly go a month or more if I don't try. Counseling doesn't seem to work. I really don't want to be in a marriage where we aren't lovers, and I'm tired of being the only one who tries to be lovers in this relationship.

 

I've thought about leaving the relationship.

 

HELP!

November 16, 2014
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Not all relationships are based in sexual chemistry and consistent sexual energy, but my opinion is that marriage is one.  From what you describe, your wife used to enjoy a healthy amount of lovemaking with you initially.  Has anything significant changed with you or with her?  Is it possible that while she still loves you, she has lost sexual feelings for you?  Personally, I find that very difficult to understand unless she was not really interested at the start.  Are you treating her right?  Are you paying attention to her needs in and out of bed?  Sounds like it from your post.  Is there any way you can confront her gently about the lack of sexual intimacy in your marriage?  Would she speak to you honestly?  Sorry for all the questions, but this issue is rather significant.  If this continues it could ruin your marriage & I am almost sure that both of you have invested much emotional energy to make it last right?  It should not always be you who initiates & if she doesn't like foreplay or to be touched sexually, then she should get some help with a sexual therapist.  Foreplay and touching is what makes the lovemaking between two people who love one another all the difference than quick, empty sex.

I feel bad for you & I hope somehow things get better.  You deserve to be wanted & loved and she deserves to understand that sex in a marriage can be amazing if you truly love & respect one another.

Marriage as all other relationships are much work if are done in earnest♥

 

One Day

November 18, 2014
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Am married with Max for six  years, he divorced with me after we had
our last child, I did everything possible to bring him back but all
was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for
him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I
explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should
contact a Prophet can help me pray for my marriage, I had no choice
than to try it, I went online to search via google, i meant Prophet
Osemudiamen and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that
everything will be okay before 48 hours, that my ex will return to me
before two days, He prayed for and surprisingly in the second day
while I was in the kitchen. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I
answered the call and  he said that he was so sorry for everything
that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so
much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living
together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I
know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such
person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful Prophet
who helped me with my own problem. Anybody could need the help of the
him, his email: [email protected] you can email him if you
need his assistance in your relationship or anything

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