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My wife doesn't like my dad and its becoming an issue
July 9, 2013
7:51 pm
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Recently my wife told me she doesnt like my dad, that he is creepy and that she has no respect for him.  My Dad is certainly not perfect, but he is my dad, Hes one of my best friends, and hes loves our family. hed do anything for us.  She doesnt seem to have any reason specifically.  My Dad knows all this but pretends he doesnt.  We have the families first grandchild, and I hate my Dad having to brave conversation with somone he loves who hates him so he can see his grandchild.  My  Family has been very divided over the years, and because of it its very important to me that we have a civil relationship, and support each other in spite of our faults.  This recently escalated into an argument that makes me very unsure about the security of our relationship.  I know there is no quick awnser, and that people are just mean.  But any advise would be appreciated.  My dad has had a very bad last few years, and hes still shell shocked, after his wife died his world collapsed.  I dont feel like I would be much of a man if I didnt stand behind him, as I would do forany of my family.  

July 10, 2013
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Dear Cnile970:

Your wife in entitled to her opinion and that is all she is entitled to when it comes to your Dad.  She should keep her mouth shut around him & show you and your Father some respect regardless of why & how she feels towards him.  If you have a child who is the grandchild of your Dad, it is imperitive that you honour your father while he is still living & let the grandchild get to know his grandfather.  Your wife does not need to join along if you decide to go for a visit.  Do not destroy your relationship with your Dad just because your wife dislikes him.  If she cannot cope with seeing him, let her go out on her own or stay home when you decide next time to visit your Dad with or without your son.  Now that your Mother has passed away, your father needs all the support you can give him.

 

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July 10, 2013
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thank you very much, Thats what needs to happen, and I will make it so. I very much appreciate the advice

July 10, 2013
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You are welcome.  Please don't be disrespectful to your wife, just let her know that you wish to have a relationship with your Father & that your child also deserves to have one.

 

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