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Married woman sends inappropriate emails to my husband
July 14, 2013
5:14 pm
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A so called "friend" sent serveral emails to my husband that have links to sex stories found on REDDIT.  This woman has been trying to get closer to both my husband and myself recenly.  She is constantly texting silly things to him, like pictures that have strange for funny sayings on them.  They have been playing an online word game together for several months now and I know all aobut it. This is fine, but when you want to share stories with a married man that are sexually explicit and the personal message in the emails was "read this and thought it was hot.  Not sure if your into this sort of thing because you haven't responded to my first two emails"  this is socially innappropriate.   I read 2 stories, one was about a married woman who sudduced a friend of her husbands and then he found out that the husband was home the whole time and was watching.  The other story was about 2 women who were always attracted to each other but were straight and decided to experient with each other sexually.  This just seemed strange to me. The worst part of this whole thing is that my husband read the stories and responded to her!  The emails were not anything explicit but he said that he had read all the stories and he shared his favorite one with her and then she responded back in agreement they they both liked the same one.  I confrunted my husband and told him that it had to stop.  I told him that I needed proof that he contacted her and handles it.  He agreed, but when it came time he never shared what he said or how he contacted her.  He told me that I would have to trust him!  This did not make me happy. The next evening I was in the same social circle with this woman and she had clearly gottent his message.  The next day she sent and email to my husband and it said "I'd like to help out however I can to clear the air with your wife.  My husband is well aware of my friendship with you, even up to the point of the links that upset (me)the other day.  I don't know what you and (me) have established as boundaries that work for your relationship, but I can say that my husband and I are very secure in our marriage.  He has
female friends with whom he is close and I know only superficially... his business trips sometimes include trips to strip clubs with the male
coworkers... and I have faith in him that he is not crossing any lines.  Likewise, he is still telling me he trusts me (and you) enough to know
that our friendship has not crossed a line that jeopardizes his trust in me.I was just getting to know (me) better in the past
couple of months and have enjoyed socializing with her and having our kids play together, and I would really like for that to continue.  We are both willing to speak to (me), whether together or separately, if it will help. ???? I think my husband threw me under the bus and I feel betrayed by him, what do I do?

July 14, 2013
6:02 pm
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Personally,

I have been in a remotely similar situation very long ago & the "friend" was much more attractive to my husband than I was at the time.  It brought me down to levels I can't even begin to explain.  He kept insisting that nothing was going on, but deep down I knew there had to be more.  She had a husband who earnestly loved her, but he was a different type than my husband and I think she longed to be with someone like my ex husband.  I see this only looking backwards in time, but honestly so many things were wrong with our marriage because of his lack of sincerity towards trying to be a husband at all, that whether she was in the picture emotionally & or physically would not have made a difference.  You cannot really know the truth perhaps right now, but usually it comes out in the end.

 

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