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Marriage is great....with a twist, what to do......
October 15, 2014
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This week my wife and I had a talk. We have been together since high school, married for almost 10 years been together for 20. We have 2 beautiful girls, 7 and 3. My wife is a stay at home mom and I work. We have a great plan in place. Everything is great……but, I have been noticing that lately (maybe even longer) that she wasn’t always happy or something was off.  I would always ask what’s wrong and she would say nothing. So last week we had a small argument and I brought up the fact that she seems off. Again, everything is great we have sex 2 x a week and all I have to do is ask and we do it., but there is a little lack in affection on her side. She never really comes to me for affection or kisses, which I can live with. So, she was upset and basically told me that she doesn’t have that feeling for affection or it’s not there, basically we are roommates with benefits.  I took that really hard and didn’t know what to do. I thought about it and it’s not that as big of a deal as I thought. I thought she doesn’t love me anymore , not attracted to me.but she does love me. I feel like she is a sexual ( not interested in physical contact) and again I can live with that as everything is great. I love being around her we get along we have fun together its great.

Here’s the twist. She said that she is unhappy because she thinks that I deserve better and she feels cant give me the affection I want/need ( side note: I am very attracted to my wife and love her so much. she has an amazing body and she knows how I feel about her) I forgot to mention that she has been the only women I have ever been with. So she says basically that I have a “hall pass” and can have sex with anyone I want because she feels bad. so I’m not sure what to do. I mean as a guy this should be a dream come true right? I’m confused but I do think about only having been with one person my whole life………….I don’t know if that just the little devil on my shoulder. I feel like I am leaving parts out and maybe I am, this is just a bit of a shock after 20 years. We will never get divorced and are both happy with each other and will be together until the end.

Any comments or questions are welcome. What do I do? do I go for it?  i guess i need to just get others feedback. i really dont have anyone that i can tell or at least want to tell.

PS. She has felt this way for a long time and she finally got this off her chest and I think/hope this will make her happier.

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