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Internet Chat addicted Wife
August 27, 2014
8:16 pm
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Here is a problem:

I been married my wife for past 8 years but from the time our daughter was born (2010) - she has been addicted to internet chat so much so that she does not even bathe for days or cares about anything else (she was sleeping till 7pm in the evening for consecutive 3 days while our daughter had a fever of 39.5). She does not work and sits at home - and chats on paltalk 24x7. She does not do any household work like cooking for our daughter or anything else. I have tried talking to her multiple times - but she responses back with sheer anger and threats. She does even mind hitting me if I push her hard. I have spoken to her folks and in retaliation - she called up my home and told lies to my parents (like I drink a lot, I watch porn etc). Essentially - she just does not care about the relationship or her daughter or anything else - all she wants is to be not disturbed in her chatting activities.

 

Every day I have to wake up at 6am - cook breakfast, fill her snack-box, lunch-box for my 3.5 year old daugher, wake up my daughter - brush her, bathe her, feed her milk/breakfast, dress her up, drop her to school, then I go to office. While on the way back from office - I have to pick my daughter up, play with her in the park, feed her dinner, bathe her, and make her go to sleep. In all of this - my wife will be sleeping throughout the day time to wake up at 7-8pm in the evening to chat for the whole night with her chat friends. On weekends - I have to do all the above + clean the home + wash the clothes - while my wife continues to sleep. She does not even take care of her personal hygine and does not take bath for days - the entire house stinks because of it. 

 

I am not sure what to do - I am very close to hiring a divorce lawyer since nothing is working. My only issue is my daughter. Knowing that generally the court will rule the daughter to be with her mom and knowing that my wife is incapable of taking care of my daughter - I am bit worried.

 

Any advice will be really helpful.

August 28, 2014
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Thank you for posting.  I am sorry for your troubles.  It sounds like your wife has become addicted to the online world.  I know many people caught up with this addiction.  The technology of the internet is great, but like many other things it has to be balanced in one's life & many people are avoiding the entire real world & spend way too much time online avoiding their real lives & neglecting themselves and others in their own family.  Your wife probably is not even aware of what she is doing & if she is, then that makes it even more of an issue.  I do not know what to advise you to do except to take care of your child & yourself & pray that she comes to realize that her time on the internet is something she needs to restrict & balance with the rest of her life.  There is nothing wrong with playng games, finding out new things, or chatting online.  It's only a real issue when you stop doing all the other daily things that make a life & stop taking care of yourself & your loved one's that it becomes a problem.  Your wife is avoiding her life.  I hope things change for your family.

 

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August 28, 2014
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Thank you for your reply. Appreciate the help and support. I am seriously thinking of divorce as some thing has to change - time does not seem to be solving anything for me but its making it even worse. I am just worried about the custody of my daughter since it would be difficult to prove what my wife is doing in the court right

August 29, 2014
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I understand that what is going on with your wife is a tremendous burden on you & your daughter & that your wife's compulsion/addiction has had an effect on the entire family.  I would also be worried to leave a 4? yr. old with a Mother who sleeps all day, never bathes & I wonder what would happen if you reached out for help professionally for yourself & your daughter now, before you decided upon the divorce?  Then again, if your wife is being physically abusive and verbally abusive to you, imagine what kind of a childhood your daughter might have if the courts ruled in your wife's favour?  I can tell you that even joint custody does not mean that your daughter will not suffer.  I think you should ask for someone else's support here online or speak to someone legally.  The fact that you are not happy in your marriage is understandable considering your wife's behaviour.  The part that hurts the most is the future of your child no matter what decisions are made:(

 

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