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August 27, 2014
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My husband and I have been together 31 years. Married for 25 years. Husband is 14 years older than me was married when we met to step sons mother 2nd wife i am 3rd wife. 1st wife died in car accident mother of three older step children. i have 5 step children 3 of my own but 2 are his. If i am wrong please tell me i do take critisim very well. But here is my some what story. My step son lived with my husband and I for 8 months. i cooked clean and washed clothes for him and he is 33 years old. Well one day my husband and i decided to kick him out because he wasnt paying any rent. Instead he was buying animals ( iguanas mice etc) Tattoos etc. Husband Didnt want to tell him and that i needed to tell him after he left for work. So as soon as he left i went to the basement and told my stepson that he had to find another place to live. my stepson has Epilepsy we pay for his DR appts and pay for his medications. He has lost his drivers for having seizures and gotten tickets for driving on suspended Lisence. This is the 2nd arguement we have over my step son. The first arguement was over my husband and stepson going out of state trip for just them two. well my insticts told me something was not right so i followed them to the stepsons girlfriends house. (FYI husband has been caught cheating over the years) Step son always comes in my house and shows my husband naked pictures of girls who has sent him pictures and will sit there and just laugh in front of me.

 

Now i have a daughter who is not his but has always looked up to him as a dad cause he is the only one she has known. (Biological father never has been in her life). (5 step children believe she has no say in family matters cause she is not his biologically.) She has 3 children and no vehicle.

 

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Husband wanted to loan a vehicle to my step son twice a week was supposed to bring it back as soon as work was over and was only supposed to be used to go back and forth to work no where else. I agreed. then the job became full time and was not informed that the step son was going to keep the car. My Daughter one day had asked to Buy the Vehicle and was told no that my step son needed to use it. (let me say this he has no children she has 3.) My Daughter and her kids have to walk in the heat everywhere and stepson will drive past her and laugh at her driving by. 

I have my own income, i pay all the bills and he has his own money doesnt pay any bills and that was how the vehicle was purchased so he says that it is his vehicle.

 

we havent spoken to each other in about a week. he keeps asking me what is wrong and i am afraid to tell him and that he will say im picking on his child and saying it will be my fault. he always says that my 3 kids are mine and his 5 are his like it is Contest over children when we raised them together. 

 

my question is should i say what is bothering me or tell him my issue? or should i just pack my bags til he leaves? Should i let stepson just keep vehicle and just stay out of it? (husband wont leave if i am here step son has a 2 bedroom home his mom is still alive lives alone in 2 bedroom house my 3 other kids all grown up live on thier own with families) What should i do?Frown

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