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Husband has decided to end the marriage
August 22, 2014
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A little background, my husband and I have been together for

nearly ten years and married for seven of those.  I married him because I thought that it was

expected of me to marry my baby’s father. 

As a new mother my feelings for him had changed.  The wedding felt really awkward for me

because at the time I really didn’t feel like he was the one.  I assume he married me because he loved me

very much and had already gotten used to calling me his wife.  The ceremony was a mere formality.  This is his second marriage and he has one

child from that marriage.  This is my

first marriage.

 

I struggled with depression for about 3-4 years after we got

married and bought our first house.  I

had a criminal charge pending against me that took a while to be disposed

of.  I accepted a plea deal and got deferred

adjudication.  Several things led to me

becoming deeply depressed and the criminal case was humiliating and scary

because I had a new baby.  My husband

claims this time in our marriage is too hard for him to get over.

 

I finally started getting on anti-depressants and getting my

hypothyroidism properly treated a few years ago.  I think I have gotten much better with

depression.  However my anxiety is still

a problem, more or less.  My husband will

admit he sees changes but then when we’re fighting, he says I still do the same

stuff I used to do.

 

Since we bought and moved into a house 7 years ago, we have

had a cycle of fighting.  He had

threatened divorce many times over about a 5 year period.  Finally, last week, he made his final

decision, that he was done being married. 

He told me that he settled when he married me and that I am not what he

wants anymore in a marriage counseling appointment.  When I made the appointment, I think he was

almost ready to call it quits and the two or three days of fighting after that

made up his mind.  I also snooped the day

before the appointment and found out he was already talking to another woman,

someone he dated and had sex with in high school.  The conversations were heavy on the flirting.  Knowing I did not have enough self control to

keep it contained how upset I was that he lied to me about talking to another

woman (because I asked him about it) I took our daughter to spend the night

somewhere else and left him a note.  He

texted me and was very angry wanting to know why I took her.  I tried to cryptically reassure him that this

was not permanent, but in hindsight, that was a stupid thing to do.  By the time we got to the marriage counseling

appointment, it was not a marriage counseling appointment anymore.  He was ready to announce he was done with

me.  He no longer wanted a sexual

relationship with me, I wasn’t what he wanted, he settled, he was unhappy the

entire marriage and he cannot be happy being married  He said I’m never there for him and he feels

lonely.  He said he still wants to be

best friends and wanted to schedule another appointment for “friendship”

counseling.

 

In the parking lot, I kept up the catharsis.  I told him I was really in love with him and can't believe the marriage is over.  He said something along the lines of that

there still might be a possibility we could get back together one day.  I told him no way we were getting back together.  He said okay, he understood.  I told him the rejection was too much for me to ever even consider me getting with him again.

 

That night, I went into an emotional tailspin.  When I got home I started taking pictures off

the walls and quickly moving his stuff out of the bedroom.  I told him I didn't want him in our master bathroom anymore and removed all his stuff.  We plan to stay in the same house for the

time being for financial necessity, so he can see our daughter as much as

possible, and so I can home school our daughter and still have two incomes.  He kept asking me to stop moving things so

fast.  Then later, I messaged him on

Facebook asking him to delete any pictures of me in his uploads and untag

himself from my posts.  He objected to

that saying that he didn’t want to be erased from my life.  The next morning he was ready to talk to me

about why I am so quick to push him out of my space and out of my life.  I felt betrayed that he would tell me so many

times he loved me, sometimes while making passionate love, talk about growing

old together and how he wanted to try for a son with me, then at this

appointment with the therapist, he says that he was only holding onto me for

survival, that our marriage wasn’t real. 

That made me feel used.  How could

I trust someone like that ever again?  I

told him that I could not give him the best friendship he wanted.  Tears started to run down his face (he rarely

cries).  I kept being cavalier as I ran

around the house, doing tasks.  At the time I felt vindicated that he finally hurt as much as I did.  I know feel bad that I took any joy in his pain.  I offered

him a hug for the crying but he basically told me to eff off.  I also asked him about when we were going to

file and make the divorce final.  He

seemed irritated that I wanted to file and he said in a aggravated voice “yeah, we might as well GET IT

OVER with.” Later, he left the house to go do something, I don’t remember

what.  I talked to my aunt and my male

friend of 18 years on the phone trying to get help for this complex and confusing issue.  My aunt

reminded me of a recent event that really shook him up.  He was recently declined for a job for failing a mental fitness screening.  Then in the conversation with my friend, he explained what

kind of person he is vs. what kind of person I am.  He doesn’t really know the source of his

unhappiness.  That I can’t make him happy

in a relationship, that his unhappiness is not because of me.  I collected my thoughts and realized what he’s

going through and felt compassion for him. 

The compassion grew and grew to the point that the anger went away and I

felt at peace.  Then I started realizing

that this is not the right time to divorce. 

I feel his decision to divorce is an emotional one and his life just got

to be too much to handle and something had to be kicked off his overflowing

plate, and that it had to be me.  I

started thinking about my histrionic facebook posts, blasting my breakup all

over the place for all my connections to see. 

I really sat down any thought about what I had been doing all these

years.  Why we fought, how I had treated

him, how I had been so uptight all the time. 

I felt such remorse that I had pushed him to the point where it made his

decision to end the marriage easier.  I

didn’t like who I’d become, and to think he put up with this and forgave this

behavior so long.  I decided I wanted to

change.

 

He had always said he wanted me to work out with him and I

always shot him down.  So I sent him a

message telling him that I wanted to start working out with him.  He didn’t respond.  That night I thought I had heard him go out

the back door.  I went to go check and

see if he was leaving.  I thought maybe

he was going to go meet that girl.  He

was outside for another reason.  We ended

up in the kitchen together where I got myself a glass of wine and pointed to it

and said that I have to cut alcohol out when I start exercising.  Then I asked if he saw my message about

wanting to work out.  I asked him again

if he wanted to.  He said okay.  Then he got a big smile on his face and asked

what brought on this desire to start working out.  I said I wanted to look better, manage my moods

better and to get him on a routine for exercise.  He then invited me into the office (where he’s

been sleeping) to look at his workout book. 

We started talking about stuff. 

He didn’t ask me to leave so I stuck around.  I said I was glad we were talking again.  Then he said how much it hurt when I said I

didn’t want to be friends with him anymore. 

I said I didn’t mean it, I was angry, that I’m not angry anymore and

that I can’t imagine my life without him in it. 

He said the same thing back to me that he could not imagine his life

without me either.  He opened up to me

some and said that he doesn’t know what he’s doing and he feels lost.  He struggled to say more.  We looked into each other’s eyes and I told

him I missed him, he told me he missed me too. 

He asked me to come over and sit on the bed with him.  We started hugging, then kissing.  I told him that I was worried I would never

have sex with him again.  He said he’d

fix that.  We made love three times

before sunrise and cuddled all night.  We’ve

never cuddled that long after sex ever, our entire marriage. 

 

So Tuesday at the therapist’s appointment he said he no

longer wants a physically intimate relationship with me, that night I am trying

to get him as far removed from me as possible. 

Next day I tell him we’re just roommates now and I don’t want to be

close friends, and by late night, we are back to having sex again.

 

Next day after our night of lovemaking, I text him to tell

him that I understand that the sex doesn’t mean we’re back together and that he

still needs his space and time to figure things out.  He didn't reply to the text.  Well, as I expected, he still wants to sleep

in the office.  He still does not want to

have sex anywhere else but his office. 

He talks about this being a temporary arrangement indicating that to him

we are still separated.

 

I don’t know how he can move on and be single with the strong

emotional attachment to me and how he still wants me physically.  I don’t know how he can start a romantic

relationship with someone new while still calling me his best friend and

wanting to help me be successful in life. 

I am trying to correct my behaviors but not just because I want him back.  This separation devastated me, but it’s

turned out to be a really good thing because it showed me who I don’t want to be

anymore. 

 

I still want to reconcile and stay married because I feel

like this decision is being made based on things that can be fixed.  I would hate to break up our family over something that would have been overcome and conquered if we as a couple had just kept looking for answers and solutions.  I think he is going through a crisis (he's deallt with employment issues/work injury stufff, parental alienation from his son) and that

he doesn’t realize that this decision could make his life worse and will not

give him the happy single life he thinks he’s going to get.  Does it sound like this will blow over and he

will want to stay married later while we are still separated and living together?  I

think the changes I am making will make it possible for us to rebuild a good

relationship.  He said in the appointment

that he doesn’t want to spend another seven years being in an unhappy

marriage.  I don’t think divorce is the

right decision for him either because of the timing of it.  I think he’s conflicted right now (that’s

what my friend said).  Since we are still

going to live together, I may as well do what I can to salvage what might be left, wait for him to figure out why he's unhappy, and see what happens.  I'm not despondent and crying over break up songs.  Right now I am

trying to display my happiness and and be sweet around him as much as possible.  I am

choosing my words and tone carefully.  I hope I have the opportunity to share what I learned about myself, that he was right about the things he said about me (being a dark cloud, hard to get along with, high strung, there not being any room for his problems and feelings), and that I don't want to be that person anymore.  Those things I held onto so tightly to, thinking that if I changed like he asked me to I would be betraying who I am, I now realized served no purpose, did nothing to make my life better.  He has his issues that have hurt the marriage too, but for now, I am focused only on what I have done and what I can change.  I am waiting for the right opportunity to tell him.  The advice I have come across is to avoid letting conversations get too heavy, so I am waiting to tell him all of this and apologize for putting him through this for so many years.  It's not like we never had good times, we did.  

 

Please help me make sense of all of this

I guess I will end this before it gets any longer.

August 23, 2014
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Thank you for posting & please forgive me because I found it entirely difficult to understand the dynamics of your current relationship.  You are getting separated or divorced because you want to or he wants to?

You are still having a sexual relationship as friends but only in his office & he is pursuing other women?

You and him are living together for financial reasons?

You are no longer documenting your personal matters on Facebook?

You wish to stay married & you are thinking about what his reasoning is for not wanting to stay married & you feel that it's all about your issues & that if you work harder to overcome your issues that your husband will change his mind?

I have little to no advice for you.  I am sorry.

 

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