My husband and I have been married for 13 years, but we started dating 18 years ago. My mother in law has always tried to come between my husband and I. She was the only girl in her family growing up, and has two sons, so she has always been the only girl in the family....until I came along. Before my hubby and I started dating there were some issues she had with HER MIL, and subsequently she managed to convince her husband to cut them out of the family entirely. My husband doesn't even know the real reason behind never seeing them. Whenever I talk to her it seems as if she is trying to find something that I have said that she can turn around and make it seem like I insulted her, or was mean to her. Over the years I have learned to never be alone in a room with her in conversation. She is always telling my hubby lies and playing a pity me card. He hates being in the middle, and it has been so stressful. This past weekend was horrible! She convinced her other son to hack into the wifi at their house to access our cellphone data to see what we were texting to each other. I have not said anything bad about her to anyone except my sister in 2 years! He did find a video on my 15 year old daughters phone that she had sent to her friends about the sheets and bed not being changed from when they spent a couple of days there this summer. My brother in law then wrote a letter to my daughter telling her that she has changed over the past several years, and her video was the last straw. He told her to fess up to her grandma, apologize, and if she didn't he would do it for her. He threatened a minor! I completely freaked out, and I am still not sure how mad my hubby really is. I told him yesterday that I have had enough of this, and that I can't go on being attacked for things I have not done. I love him so much, but we don't know where to go from here. He says he will talk to them and straighten this out, but he hasn't even begun to figure out what to do. Our daughter does not want to have anything to do with them, and I am right there with her. Any advice on how we move forward?