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January 10, 2011

7:17 am
January 11, 2011

It sounds like a great idea to me - there should probably be more of it! If you love each other enough to still want to get married - despite your differences, then surely it's worth trying to understand each other better. Compatibility doesn't always come naturally. Some religions automatically counsel couples who want to et married into their rites - and not only about the rites of that specific religion, but also about the institution of marriage.
Francine
6:24 pm

January 10, 2011

Thanks for the support Francine. We have the same religion so there is no problem with that. Our differences lies on finances. I'm afraid that if I didn't provide her financial needs then problems will occur. Right now, I earn so much more than her and she often borrows money from me without paying it back. I don't mind about it as I think it is a practice for me when we are already married but what if I become broke or lost my job? God forbid.
7:37 pm

January 10, 2011

4:03 am

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9:05 pm

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12:15 pm

January 10, 2011

I would definitely present the idea to her in a positive way. You don't want to go because there are problems now. You want to go to ensure that you have a long and happy marriage and that should be the first priority for both of you. You can also let her know that if there is anything she wants to get out on the table you'll be willing to listen and discuss it openly with the counselor. Good luck and kudos to you for taking the initiative to protect your future marriage 🙂
5:53 pm

January 10, 2011

9:20 am

January 21, 2011

dtypist said:
Do you think it is alright to have a marriage counseling before getting married? Me and my girlfriend are getting married but we have some differences that we just take for granted. I'm afraid that would result in a bad relationship when that issue is not resolve.
I will support you on your decison to seek out marriage counseling before getting married. How does your girlfriend feel about marriage counseling before getting married? What do you mean by "some differences"? What specific issue are you afraid of?
5:19 pm

January 10, 2011

4:03 pm

January 10, 2011

My wife and I were required to go to counseling before the guy we wanted to perform the ceremony would do it. Actually, I was very surprised that we had as many differences as we did. We talked through a few things before we got married and we haven't had too much trouble when we got married. We've been married going on 30 years and I can safely say, we have worked through a bunch of bad situations with solidarity and to both of our satisfactions.
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6:59 am

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9:44 am

January 21, 2011

dtypist said:
I have already answered your question, hiddenobject. You can check the 3rd post of this thread and my explanation for the differences is written there.
I haven't told her yet but your support is good enough for me to get the courage I need to tell her about this. Hi dytypist. Healthy relationships are based on equality. You described a financial situation where you feel responsible to give$, give$, give$ and your girlfriend feels entitled to take$, take$, take$. Is there any way you two can find a way to change this situation into an equitable one where there is give$ and take$, give$ and take$?
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