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Disabled and He don't understand
January 24, 2011
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I have a number of disabling conditions that are keeping me from being able to work a full time job or even work outside of my home. The problem is my husband doesn't seem to understand and is always complaining because I don't feel like doing things. I am trying hard to pull myself from a slump I feel like I am in. I have gotten depressed over all of this. What should I do to help him understand?

January 24, 2011
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I completely understand how you feel. I have fibromyalgia and it makes it so hard to do all I have to. Mostly I just push myself to do what I know has to be done because I know in the end it is helping me to become independent. I do work from home, maybe you can try looking for work at home and only part time. As for your husband it seems to me most men think women have to all be superwomen and not have anything wrong or take time when they don't feel well.

January 24, 2011
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Maybe you should read to him (or let him read) about The Spoons Theory (see http://www.butyoudontlooksick......randino/ ) - it is an excellent explanation about how different conditions limit the activity of the people who suffer with them.

January 26, 2011
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I'm sorry to hear about that. I have problems with my family understanding my mental illness. It was tough not getting any support from them. I hope that you will be able to have different results with your husband. Perhaps he could speak with your doctor to get a better understanding?

January 26, 2011
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I would say try to sit him down and explain what you are feeling and what you are going through.  It is making it worse when he does not understand and gives you grief over it.  Just keep talking to him and tell him what you are feeling and hopefully he will understand.

January 27, 2011
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purplesaber said:

I'm sorry to hear about that. I have problems with my family understanding my mental illness. It was tough not getting any support from them. I hope that you will be able to have different results with your husband. Perhaps he could speak with your doctor to get a better understanding?


That's exactly what I was thinking. If he hears it from a professional maybe he will take it more seriously. Regardless, something has to give because his lack of support is only going to continue to make things worse for you.

January 27, 2011
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I agree with sitting down with the doc, but you also need to have a heart to heart talk with him. Explain to him what is going on and how seriously you WANT to do things but are unable to do. I have disabilities too but I have talked to my wife and she knows exactly what is going on with me. It does help that she goes with me to doctor's appointments. She actually gets to see what is going on and understands much better.

January 28, 2011
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BabblingIdiot said:

I have a number of disabling conditions that are keeping me from being able to work a full time job or even work outside of my home. The problem is my husband doesn't seem to understand and is always complaining because I don't feel like doing things. I am trying hard to pull myself from a slump I feel like I am in. I have gotten depressed over all of this. What should I do to help him understand?

Your health care providers would be an excellent source of information. With your consent they might be able to explain to your husband your type of disability and how it affects you. The information they provide can help your husband gain a better understanding.


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It has always been difficult for us to take an opportunity to work outside the house. It's become more problematic when we are suffering from some disability but if you want to earn some money for your family then you have to take this decision that you want to do this job or not. May be this sound unsympathetic to you but frankly speaking no person on this earth is perfect .Every person is suffering from some visible or invisible disability which surely affect their performance.

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