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Blended family blow up!
September 29, 2014
8:23 pm
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I married my husband knowing that his children didnt exactly embrace me but at the time, he supported me completely and promised that we would face it together, always. Well, after we married it all changed. The kids were continually disrespectful and just plain rude. Often not speaking to me or my children at all except to ask "what's for dinner?" Constant phone calls or texts from their mother even sometimes askng for pictures of our home?!? Why do we have to eat this? Yuck, this is gross! I have a headache, I want my Mom. My stomach hurts, I need to go back to Mom's. What are we doing fun this weekend? My friend invited me to a party, do I have to come to your house? Every weekend it was the same unending drama. It consumed our weekends until I said, no more! I work every other weekend so I told my husband to visit with his kids then, we agreed that this would be best for everyone. 

Well, here we are years later and this has effected every aspect of our marriage. He resents me because his kids have never accepted me...even after hearing his daughter admit that "it didnt matter what you did or didnt do. I was the only female in my Dad's life and you took that away from me and I didn't like it". He keeps everything about them a secret, until its too late. He has repeatedly lied to me about financial concerns, we pay a substantial amount of child support. He wont even talk to the kids or their mother while in the same room as me...he walks outside. Then he holds over my head that he wants me to have a relationship with his kids- or else!

It doesnt matter what dilemma we may be facing, every thing ALWAYS comes back to this. He tells me that I cant let go, that I regress, but this is something that continues to go on and on. EVERYDAY. 

How can I be blamed because his children never welcomed our marriage? I cant spend the rest of my life defending myself.

September 30, 2014
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I am so sorry to hear this, This is really rough. I think you bought need marriage counselling. For your marriage to last I think he really needs to work it out. This is really not a healthy relationship based on your post.

September 30, 2014
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I read your post & it troubles me, so I can only just imagine how horrid your life must be.  I do not know the age of these children of your husband, but at some point, things will need to change.  Your husband needs to show you more respect around his children & decide if you are worth that respect.  You must decide if he continually forces you to try to do cartwheels around his children & still feel inferior somehow as a human being.  Finally, you must perhaps make a decision if this man & his very rude children deserve your efforts.  What are you getting in return for your attempts to comply with requests that are quite simply unreasonable?  Think about the underlying abuse here.  Either all of you work out your differences & decide to respect one another with grace, or some real changes need to be made.

 

One day

October 6, 2014
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In theses situations, you need to become stronger for leading your
life.  Just once shared your problem with your husband and attend the
marriage counseling centers. Mostly you can get the solution for your
problem.

 

 


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