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Advice On Relationship and Marriage
May 30, 2019
5:50 am
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charliserose3
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Hello, I am 21 years old and I'm in my third year of college. My boyfriend is 20 years old and is in his second year. We've been together since Christmas of 2018 until now. Recently we've been talking of marriage and I'm certain I want to marry him but doubting if this is the right time. He is transferring schools and we will no longer be going to the same school. It's about 4 hours away. He wants to propose to me sometime this summer (no surprise lol but he told me since we talked about it). I'm doubting this because for:
1. We'll be apart.
2. We have never lived together in the same place and that's a whole other ordeal.
3. He has very little money and I pay for so much of his stuff, right now it's ok but it bothers me at times. He says he doesn't have to but I know his life and the people around him so if I don't give him money no one will. And with this it feels like I'm taking care of him. He takes care of me of course (but that's more on the mental side). I deal with depression and anxiety from the passing of both my parents. My boyfriend has helped me tremendously with that. However it would be nice to get a little spoiled too. I feel like there's mo point of him giving me money/gifts since he's gonna ask for money later so I feel like it's better if he just keeps it.
4. We are very young. I am certain that I want to spend the rest of my life with him but don't know if it's the right thing to do, things change when you get married.

Is marrying him at now a good idea? At this point I'm leaning towards getting engaged and pushing off actual marriage until we graduate since the issues above have popped off but let me know what you think.
Please be honest because since the lost of my parents I don't really have any adult figure to really talk to about this. Any advice/comment is appreciated! Thanks in advance.

June 15, 2019
12:28 pm
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My girl, if he really loves you, then hold on to him and think only about him, just go through this period and then you will be happy together. Just don't repeat my mistakes. I dated a girl in college, but she moved to another city, and I started hanging out with her less, so she found a new boyfriend. I'm 28 now, and I haven't had a girlfriend since then. Now I even used the services of this dating site Rosebrides review to find a girl who would make me happy... Yes, there are many of cool girls, but I miss my girl ((

November 3, 2020
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I believe in destiny. If you're destined to be together then nothing can stop you. In my case we were teenage sweethearts for 3 years and later we broke up. After I got a job and was having boring life when I saw him again and we started to date. After 2 years we got married. Soon we started having fights and hurting each other. We took the refuge of distancing from each other to not hurt, as we started fighting over every small thing and irrelevant matters; it became worse and worse.
I'm very happy that we went to a relationship counseling. The therapist immediately put an end to our blaming game. She resolved our relationship with a lot of patience, and we both got an insight into our part of the patterns.
Now we can look with mildness and love for each other again. It's worth it!

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