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Homelessness, drug addiction and recovery houses, how can the cycle be broken?
September 5, 2012
3:20 pm
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4randi
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I have a daughter in her late twenties. Over the past ten years she has chosen a path of self destruction which has landed her in jail, rehabs and on the street.  In addition to the perpetual homelessness my daughter was diagnosed with Bipolar illness and Borderline personality disorder. We have tried everything within our means to assist me daughter, without intentionally enabling her, to break this cycle. We are now exhausted, defeated, devastated and broke financially and emotionally. However, we are not willing to give up.  

As I sit here writing this post I can openly admit that I have reached a level of frustration that I need help with. More importantly my daughter's life depends on getting help. If anyone reads this and can offer suggestions, options, any direction whatsoever, it would be appreciated beyond belief.

 

Thank you for reading my post.

Sincerely,

4randi

September 6, 2012
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4randi,

Your daughter needs to take responsibility for her own life and her problems.  She either will come to that realization or she never will.  This should no longer be your concern.  You sounds like you have done everything that you can to try and help her & in return all you have received is heartache & pain.

All you can do is pray that your daughter decides that she has a problem and gets the help she deserves.

 

You must stop punishing yourself for her behaviour.

 

If she resides with you, make sure she is respecting house rules, is not a physical danger to others or herself & carry on with your life.

 

The fact that she knows that you are so concerned with her problems does not help at all.  Live your life.  No matter what you say to her, she is not listening.

 

One Day

September 26, 2012
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Oneday is right. It seems you already did everything just to help her and have a good life away from any harm and illegal habits. It's really commendable that as her guardian and mother you have no plans of stopping. BUT the question is, is your daugther willing enough to change her dark path? after all the treatments given to her, has your daughter shown you any or even little progress? It all bounce back to one thing and that is your daughter has already chosen to live that way. Alll those things that are happening to her right now came from the consequences of her actions.

 

I suggest that you let her realize that she needs help. Eventually, in time she will get tired and just wake up one day realizing that her life became miserable. As long as you continue to be with her and support all the way with your unconditional love and care then you have nothing and no one to blame for. Be strong and have faith.

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