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Zinnie - Depressed and away from home
August 24, 2006
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This has been a hard few weeks and I feel like everything is building up and tumbling down faster than I can deal with.

I am away from my husband due to work travel. I love my job, this is the best job I have ever had in that I am loving what I do, I like the people I work with – as a matter of fact my “work partner” is a woman that I have come to love like a family member. We enjoy doing our jobs. We get tremendous amounts of work done all the while we have gotten to see a lot of new and interesting things and met some wonderful people along the way in our travels. Additionally, I have had the luxury of working with three of my brothers – two older and one of the younger ones, and top it all off with I have been able to spend quite a bit of time with not only one son, but both.

But, suddenly it seems like so much is going on I just cannot comprehend and deal with it all at once. First off, I tripped and fell last week. I have a hairline fracture on my left knee – and for it only being a “hairline” it is hurting like my entire leg was snapped in two. I also broke my left wrist and my middle finger on my right hand. So, typing is slow and that in and of it self is frustrating.

My work partners’ sister passed away yesterday. She had a kidney transplant seven or eight years ago and her body started to reject the organ and she needed another one. That completely flipped me out as I thought if you had an organ transplant and took the anti-rejection meds you were good to go for the remainder of your life. But, apparently this is pretty common. So, she left immediately to go be with her family.

I was fortunate in my youngest boy stepped right up to the plate to help out with the business end of things while she is gone for the next three or four weeks.

My daughter took a fall, and while it was not a bad one, she landed on her leg where she has all of the metal rods and pins. So, she was in the hospital for two days, but her recovery looks good.

I’m thinking “O.K. Zin you need to make today a better day” when my phone rings and it is my husband. His mom had a stroke last night. He said that there are tests being run right now and she seems to be very aware of all that is happening. The Dr.’s have told him that since this is the case the feeling is that there may be only minimal damage to her brain.

Top all of this off with I am being bombarded with personal requests from people I don’t even know wanting “freebies” from my job to relatives that I barely know calling and asking to borrow money.

I know so much of this seems like I should be able to “just deal with it” but I feel like too much is hitting all at once.

I know - that "this too shall pass" but am I selfish for wanting it to pass quickly?

Z.

August 24, 2006
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Z, I'm so sorry to hear all this. Sounds to me like that would be too much for anyone happening like it is. Please take care of yourself, okay. I know how difficult it must be to do things with those fractures. I've had a hairline fracture in my leg, too, and it surely did hurt and I don't know how I worked with it. I hope your daughter is doing okay. Love and Hugs to you!

August 24, 2006
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(((((Zinnie)))))

My gosh it is all hitting you at once. I could use the old addage of "God only gives you as much as you can handle" but sometimes I wonder about that one myself.

All I can say is be strong, as I know you are. Hard when it is us strong ones having to be told to be strong, but who else will if you don't. Take 5 min to yourself each hour, if not more. Be thankful that you have a hubby that loves you and a family as special as yours. Not that I think you don't, but just a little reminder. I know when I get really overwhelmed I forget where my blessings lie sometimes.

And last but definitely not least.... This too shall pass. (I couldn't resist, sorry)

🙂

You hang in there, I'm prayin for you.

August 24, 2006
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PS. I just have to ask. On the finger, did they splint it up? I can just see you having a little fun w/ that. Just had to ask. If you don't laugh at something then you'll just cry. 🙂

August 25, 2006
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(((((((((((((( Zinnie )))))))))))))))

Sending you many warm thoughts & lots of support. I am happy your brothers and sons are with you to help you, glad you are not alone. You can only take so much before needing a little help, comfort, & support too. Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on once in a while ~ even if words can't do too much, it is nice to know you have loving thoughts & support from people who care & don't want to see you hurting. You have that here too...

Is there any way you can set your computer up so that the 'spam' or 'junk' email from people you don't know asking for freebies can be, if not eliminated, at least cut down? Our work computers are programmed to do this & sometime work so well, they remove legit email... all I have to do is remember to check my Junk email folder each day to make sure it didn't capture any legit ones.

Wish I could wave a magic wand and make things better for you. All I can do is send a long distance hug & let you know I keep you in my thoughts. Keep telling yourself better days are ahead (my co-worker ALWAYS says that). Say a prayer for strength & He will be there for you. Keep "Footprints in the Sand" in your mind....

Many hugs, support, love, & warm wishes sent your way.

Juanita

August 25, 2006
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Tumbles,

My dearest friend and companion of LOUD... thank you. You know, what I cannot get over is that I have a hairline fracture, and I'm telling you it hurts far worse than the wrist and finger that are broken. I literally feel like my leg was snapped in two. But, as always thank you for your kind words - and I just know you and LOUD are out there eating tacos, swinging high as can be, doing your famous ball-room dances and having a good time!

So you see - thinking of that makes me feel better already.

Mama,

Thank you - I know that this too shall pass - and you know I can't help at times like this but to think of my Mom (still missing her terribly) and what she would say. "Buck up Zinnie, the world does not revolve around you, and you have to keep going!" It just seems so overwhelming in light of in less than a year, I have also lost my brother and my Mom. Just seems like a lot.

And, YES - they did splint my finger, so that is EXACTLY what it looks like I'm doing!

Juanita,

Thanks for the hug, they are always appreciated. Actually all of these requests are originating from friends who I will most gladly give "freebies" or "cheapies" (new word!) to, I really don't mind. But, here is an example of what I am talking about - I had a sister-in-law that barely ever says two words to me, send me an e-mail and requested 40 free tickets! Can you imagine. Even if someone says "hey, can you get me a ticket or shirt?" Guess what? NO PROBLEM!!!! But, 40 tickets? That is outrageous!

I think the biggest reason I'm feeling so down is because I'm so helpless in the situations. I feel bad for my work partner, I wish there was something I could do for her - she has been such a rock for me over the last few months, and I think to top it all off, I'm a little bit home-sick; only to find out that our contract has now been extended through the end of the year. Which for me means living out of a bus for another three months.

Yes, I'm happy the boys and my sons are all here - it does help. The one cool thing that came out of this, is my youngest son is completely amazing me with his business sense... funny how they can do that to you from time to time!

Thanks for the pep talk everyone, it really helped.

Z.

August 25, 2006
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Talk about Kismet - here I was thinking "what would Mom tell me to do?"

I came across a picture of her I had stuck in a notebook I use from time to time.

Made me a little sad at first, but now happy that I have that photograph.

Z.

August 25, 2006
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Sorry to hear about all you are going through Zinnie. Just know that you have friends on here that care and are always hear to listen.

Hugs to you. (((Zinnie)))

Love, TS

August 25, 2006
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Thanks T/S...

You saying that means a lot.

I spoke to my partner a few minutes ago. She is going to stay in Boston through November to help out with her nieces and nephews - so, I will be on my own.

I'm worried about this as I do not know the business like she does. However, she feels I can do it - which wow? Coming from her is big - but, now I'm stressing over being on my own.

Z.

August 25, 2006
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Hi Zinnie,

This morning I was thinking how we are never really alone. I don't know if you believe in a Power Greater than ourselves but if I ask for guidance, serenity, and listen to my inner guidings then it usually comes out the way that is best for me.

I hope that you heal quickly from your injuries. You have overcome alot of obstacles in your life and I know that you have lots of inner strength and intellect for solving problems. Life is filled with challenges isn't it. Its okay to feel overwhelmed because experience teaches us that it will pass! Love to YOU

August 25, 2006
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Zinnie -

We have never "met" on these threads before, but I have been reading all you have gone through and my heart really goes out to you. I believe it is true that "...God never gives us more than we can bear." God didn't hit you on all sides like this, (and you really have been hit on ALL sides..your health, your daughter, your business, the recent loss of dear ones and separation from your trusted business partners), but He will surely lift you up and see you through it.

I will be praying for you, especially for rapid healing of that painful hairline fracture.

- StrongInHim

August 25, 2006
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Hey Z

Sorry to hear your so down. Remember the recipe you gave me for fruit cake? Thise crazy kids of mine still make me make it. They love it.

How is loud the dog? Hopefully loud as usual.

You keep your chin up sweetie. Things will get better for you. Much love and hugs.

Tink (formally fairy)

August 26, 2006
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Hi All,

Tink - I'm so glad that your family is stil enjoying one of my recipes - it warms my heart.

Yes, MJ, I do believe in a higher power - and I pray many times a day. It does help, it really does. It just seems that it is so much all at once; and top it off with I'm away from home and working 18 to 20 hours a day.

Hi Strong - thank you for your kind words. I have not posted alot for quite a while, so nice to meet you. This site helped me tremendously a few years ago when again I was having a hard time with things that were being thrown my way - all at once it seemed.

I'm feeling better today, just tired.

I will write more later, but for right now? A nap is in order.

Love to all - and thanks!

Z.

August 26, 2006
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Yikes, Zinnie!

Man, right on the knee, too.

Defnitely praying for quick recovery for you.

Hey, there wasn't any Kryptonite involved in this accident, was there?

August 27, 2006
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MAMACINNAMON>LMAO...ANYWAY,ZINNIE,MY THREAD IS CALLED GOING BACK TO PRISON,IF YOU READ IT YOU WILL FEEL BETTER KNOWING ...WELL MY LIFE SUCKS WORSE THAN YOURS DOES!!!WITH TIME YOU AND YOUR FAMILY WILL GET BACK TO NORMAL,MY FAMILY HAS NEVER BEEN NORMAL,OF COURSE ALL ADVICE IS WELCOME.HANG IN THERE...BUTTERFLY.

August 31, 2006
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Well a part of my depression is lifting as I am finally on my way home.

I am looking forward to sleeping in my own bed, or my own sofa - heck, my own floor if I want! Complete with husband, three dogs, their toys and what-not.

Still having some depression, so I think it is chemical - I will go see my Dr. probably Tuesday if I can get in; I e-mailed my husband today to have him make an appointment for me.

In other news, my sister has a speaking engagement in Dallas, and she was going to leave tomorrow to go back home to California. But, since I will be getting back into town she is going to stay for three extra days so we can visit.

So - things are looking up.

Z.

p.s. - WD, there was no Kryptonite involved in my fall, but I was not wearing my cape!

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