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Z.... miss you .
April 15, 2009
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Hi Z,

Hope you get this post. Just wanted you to know I have been thinking about you. Hope things are going well. I know you were moving and stuff. Your in my thoughts and prayers... Miss you tons.

tb

April 15, 2009
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((((Zebra)))))

April 15, 2009
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Hi TB and RW,

I have been okay. Extermely busy at work and home. Trying to get my thoughts under control.

Remember TB what my X was doing with our house that he was in charge of the rental on...where is is taking the money from the renters and not paying the house payment and paying his income taxes and purchased another house...and I went to my attorney and he filed a motion to the court to make my X pay me damages for intentionally ruining my credit and not be responsible for a house he was order to deal with or sell.

WELL he got served with the papers this morning and of course I have had two phone calls and an email. He wants to talk to me about this...NO i will not talk to him and then his email says: Why do I think I am entitled to anything from that house, when I did not help him with it or his taxes; he wants to know why I can't let it go and that he wants to know why I just can't go away.

TB/RW: I absolutely shook when the phone rang and my stomach hurt for an hour. I am just know getting calmer about it. I have not and will not respond to him.

But I am not second guessing myself. I feel I am entitled because my name is on the house and he has intentionally did things that are harmful to me, so why am I second guessing myself? I feel like I am trying to protect myself from the Mortgage Company and the Renters, but now am I really not letting this go? I want this to be done with and move on with my life. But I can't purchase a house because of this house shit, until if is dealt with.

I can not beleive the fear that came over me when I seen his number on my phone and his email. When is that going to go away. It has been 10 months.

How are you doing TB?

RW: How are you too?

Love, Z

April 15, 2009
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z...stand strong...don't let his manipulation and his feeling sorry for himself now, get the best of you...he dug his grave and now he has dig himself out.

Maybe try "no contact" even if its just for today....it may help.

(((((hugs your way))))

April 15, 2009
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Thanks for the hug. I will stand strong. I have had no contact with him for a month and then only him letting me know what he was doing with the house. I have the printed emails.

Am I doing okay really? I think so, but my doctor put me back on some antidepressant.

with love, Z

April 15, 2009
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(((Z))) !

So glad you responded. I am so proud of you!! Stand strong, and know... he has no power over you anymore. He is dealing with the consequences of his own behavior. He is the one that left you no other choice. You are doing what you need to do for you, and your kids. I am so glad to hear you say, I am not second guessing myself. Hmmmm sound like growth to me 😉 !

I understand, how even though he is no longer physically there he can still frighten you, just by the thought he is making the phone ring. Surround yourself today with people who comfort you. Doing something for Z, today. Take even if it is just a few mins... to take a deep breathe and know you have come a long way baby!! 🙂 Remember, he has no control of you anymore. He can not harm you! Don't engage him. You have made some very strong boundaries, and your sticking to them. So it's natural, he is going to try and see if he can get you all frighten, and shaken. Stand firm, and calm... pray and know GOD is in control.

Have you attended your support group for dv yet ?

Love ya,

tb

April 15, 2009
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ohhhhhhhhhh TB....Thank you so much.

I keep telling myself the words you used...he no longer has control over me or my life. He can not harm me anymore.

I just can't believe how strong my feelings of fear and anxity are still. I haven't attended my dv support group yet. I go on May 7...a few weeks away still.

I called my sister and she knew he would do this and she told me it was coming and she was right. She calmed me down and talked me through my emotions and I will be spending the evening with her.

Yes you are right TB; he left me know choice but to protect me, my finances and my kids future.

I will keep praying and I know God will protect me and guide me.

Love, Z

April 15, 2009
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Z...

I posted a thread on the libs side.. read it when you get the chance.

April 15, 2009
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I am sorry Z. Some people just don't give up in the bad way.

April 15, 2009
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Thanks Billy.

He is just a bad person all the away around. He certainly can't accept responsibility for his behavior no matter what it is. Amazing.

Down right scary at times.

Z

April 15, 2009
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Yea it sucks that there are some out there. But you can take it. You will do fine. What goes around comes around.

April 15, 2009
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I can take it; I am strong. He will have to answer to someone more powerful then me someday. He will certainly have to answer to the Judge if he has the balls to actually show up in Court this time.

Love, Z

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