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You guys! D dog here...
February 21, 2007
6:31 pm
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So the real love of my life finally came over to my house last night. Did crosswrd puzzles,played Scabble, made love (yeah, we're geeks!)and then this nortning I got this email..and sent a reply.

Need help.

BADLY!

Well, really all I intended to do was have dinner, is why I invited you and Raf to dinner with me originally. To say "Hi, Havent seen ya all in a while, hows it going .. et al "

Now I get kinda worried for a couple reasons.
1. No protection.
2. Your feelings.

I enjoyed the evening, thats for certain. The scrabble was definitly fun.
I just dont want to hurt anyones feelings, or find out that protection was needed.

bah, im kinda at a loss for words. yea, thats a first.

sorry, but I just feel like an ass this morning.

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Wow.

Why didn't you just drive to my office and kick me in the face at 10 in the morning? Woulda felt better than getting this email did.

"...or find out protection was needed" - read - "I don't trust you, what if you were trying to get pregnant and trap me?"

"I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings..." - read - "If I have sex with you, you will assume that I care about you. and I don't and you will therefore be devastated, as you are not a strong enough human being to deal with it".

"I just feel like an ass this morning" - read - "Being with you made me feel like shit, and I wish I could take it back".

Close to the mark? If I've misinterpreted any of this, let me know and I will re-reply, but I can't really see what else you could have possibly meant.

Sigh. Yeah, I'm a little bit pissed off, and yeah, I actually am crying at the moment...but ya know what? After knowing you for three years I can't say that I've regretted a single second of it. I'm sorry that I'm not the person you want...but I'm just me, and if that isn't good enough for you, well...

Carry on.

February 21, 2007
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Hi D.....

Okay, first I need to be clear....are we talking about H or the husband?

I'm going to assume for the moment that it is the husband.

It is entirely possible that he was not intending to "kick you in the face"...but instead just telling you how he felt.

It sounds more to me like, he is probably not interested in a relationship, and fears that by having sex with you....you will misunderstand that and think that he does want a relationship. That does not mean that he doesn't "care" about you OR that he thinks you are not a "strong enough human being".

That is your interpretation...but not necessarily what he meant. And probably not what he meant.

As far as the "or find out protection was needed" comment. Again, that doesn't mean that he doesn't trust you or that he thinks you are going to try to trap him. It could mean that he is concerned about STD's...which are SO common these days and is now thinking that is a conversation the two of you should have had BEFORE you had sex.

And as far as "feeling like shit" is concerned. That could very well mean that he fears he may have led you on and now he feels bad about that.

Another way to have handled this could have been to ask him what he meant by those things.....such as....Are you concerned that I have an STD? Why do you feel bad this morning? Do you think that I am reading more into this than perhaps I am?

I"m sure his intentions were not as bad as you think they were.

To me it just sounded like he wasn't sure if you guys did the right thing last night and was probably looking for some feedback from you.

Try not to overanalyze what you think he may have meant and next time you talk to him....just ask him what he meant.

Lolli

February 22, 2007
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Hi (((D-dog)))

Just checking in to see how you're feeling today?

Love,
Lolli

February 22, 2007
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Hi Lolli...

I'm a bit sad and upset still, but hey - been thru enough to know that if someone just isn't into me, there's nothing I can do about it, and I must carry on. Things are really going far too well now for me to take any steps backwards.

The guy isn't the husband...just a dude that I've known for three years, and kind hooked up with on and off...he's a good person, always been honest about not wanting a relationship with me, and not wanting to hurt me...and I've always been in love with him...so I guess I did overreact yesterday...it's just rather eviscerating to have someone regret being with me to the point that they "feel like an ass"...I mean, no one forced him to come over and spend time with me - takes two, ya know?

But anyway, I don't really regret my response, because maybe it will cause him to look at his own feelings a bit more...or perhaps just deem me a psycho and be done with it...

Geez, it never ends, does it???

LOL.

March 3, 2007
11:36 am
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(((((D dog)))))

~love charlie~xx

March 3, 2007
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Hi Hon (((D dog & Charlie)))

March 3, 2007
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How are you d dog? I remember chatting with you in the past. Remember me? We used to talk about drinking.

Jewel

March 3, 2007
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((((((((((D dog)))))))))))
I was sooo wiondering how you were doing when I started my cameo visits back here again about , umm three weeks ago-ish...
HOW ARE YOU!!!!!!
missed you, and was/am hoping things are great???
write more, write more!!!
and.. .was it you who shared that great thai recipe a hundren years ago???

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