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yessienyc -needs a listening ear
February 12, 2004
3:43 pm
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hello everyone...I havent been on for alittle while but am back. I sent two letters to my parents last week my DAD for sure got his today, they explained how I feel and I have abandonment and inner child issues that I want to bring up to the surface because now many relationship I m in now are very co-dependent,but the ones with men are emotionaly witholding. I continued to explain situations that occured in my childhood that hurt me terribly;when I was 8 my dad would arrange Sunday visitsby phone, i would get dressed in my best dress and wait and wait... he would not show on many occasions. I would cry and cry and my grandparents would console me by saying he probably forgot or something came up but yessie he still loves you. I was/am heartbroken till this day. So I poured my feelings onto paper to begin this healing process that I must undergo; thing is I am alittle nervous on how my father might react after reading the letter. I think he might call up very upset, but I KNOW that I am entitled to my feelings, and if I cant express myself in this way then how? I am not sure how to react if he does get upset, though we never really had a realtionship and you cant make ham out of eggs; so I know what i can get and not get (emotionally) from him. When i sent out my mom's copy I was really ok with it, its just my dad I m beginning to get these emotions. if you want to give me some insights or have questions please feel free, thanks......

February 12, 2004
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Good to see you back, y. Sending Hugs for now, okay. Later

February 12, 2004
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Well, according to the second ten commandments someone posted here earlier, thou shalt not worry. Don't worry about it now. Just deal with it when he calls. Speak calmly and let him know that you told him all that out of love, that you want to heal your relationship and this was the only way you knew how.

Just take it as it comes and BREATHE!

(((((((hugs))))))))))

acj

February 12, 2004
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Hi Yessie,,Good thoughts from everyone. At least you let him know how you feel and what it did to you emotionally. You poured your heart out, I'm sure, in that letter.

I hope he responds kindly to you. You know he may be carrying some guilt around by how he treated you.

I hope you get a good response. You took a brave first step, I believe. Keep us posted on it!!! W.

February 12, 2004
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thank you Wantobewell-acj- tumbleweed8 your are all the best.... nite...

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