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yearning to be loved
February 19, 2001
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flaggirl
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I know this is weird, but i'm not quite sure what to do about it. Since I was a child, I've felt that something has been missing from my life. I was adopted and I'm not sure if it's my bmom or not. I have this deep yearning to be loved. I know that my adopted mom loves me, but for some reason it just isn't enough. When I was in school I would attach myself to teachers or other people, always female. Sometimes it gets so bad that I lay in bed imagining that somebody is loving me, somebody is holding me. It makes haveing normal female to female relationships very hard. Please give me any suggestions you may have.

February 19, 2001
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Is it possibly a fantasy, the bio mom comming to the rescue, the imaginary lost piece? What is it that you think you are looking for that you don't have? Women naturally bond, and if you expect more out of a relationship with mentor's or friends, what do you expect that they might contribute? You are complete, you are loved, you might consider that you have all you need, look at the love around you, start a gratitude journal, you'll be surprised.

February 19, 2001
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Just the fact that you are considering it might be the loss of your birthmom, makes me suspect that in your heart, it just might be that.

If you've felt this since you were a child, and known you were adopted since you were a child, seen movies, heard stories, watched reunions on tv, you may be imagining a love-loss that doesn't really exist. Do you know what I'm trying to say?

You may feel that because you're adopted, you automatically aren't loved as much as you should be, someone out there gave you up, which in your mind means you are missing something. Which is not the case at all. You KNOW your ad-mom loves you. How forunate you are. Someone who did not give birth to you, cherishes you probably more than some women who give birth one after the other and can't appreciate the miracle of a child.

This sound possible?

February 19, 2001
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Flaggirl,

I know how you feel. That's probably why I have had so many break ups. Everytime I lose a girlfriend, I go and search for another one because I need love. But, we must both remember is that God can provide us all of the love we need and then some. So just pray for God to step in and manifest his love to you. I know it hurts and the root of your need I am convvinced is the fact that yo long to know mor about your birth mom. But, God has a purpose for everything. Maybe not one that we can always see, none the less a purpose which becomes clearer as time goes on. Be strong flaggirl! It's going to be all right. You will find the love that you need and then some with God.

God Bless U,

PG Lova

PS If you ever need to talk or would like prayer, just e-mail me [email protected] and remember Jesus loves you and so do I.

February 19, 2001
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I'm in total agreement with Alena. Think of children who are STILL in foster homes with no home, no parents and just with other children who are in the same predicament. Appreciate the love that your ad-mom has given you over the years. And it is OK to feel that missing piece of the puzzle. BUT!.. believe me..if there's anyone who would understand you better is your ad-mom. Befriend her and tell her how you feel about this yearning you have for love. She may be your best friend in the end with invaluable advice. And it might bring you EVEN CLOSER than you imagine to her and vice versa. I wish you luck with finding that peace of mind..and heart.

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