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((wthat about when theres feelings for someone you just dont even.....))
July 31, 2007
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so what do you do when you start having feeling for someone you don't even talk to and just to see him make you think about a lots of things...what do you do when you still have someone that lives with you and he don't give you anything just makes you feel like a friend but you do sleep with him you just don't do anything....so you don't even know this guy don't even know if his married or if he has feeling for you to but with the looks he give you he saids a lots what do you? what should I do........

July 31, 2007
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first things first.

if you are in a relationship that is going nowhere - decide if you want out - then get out.

then work on recovering from that situation.

THEN consider dating again.

But don't jump from one situation into another, completely unknown situation...which is what it seems like you are asking about.

get out of your situation first...if that's what you want....THEN, spend ALOT of time getting to know this new man that is intriguing you....before jumping into another new relationship...know what and who you are dealing with before getting too deep with him...which includes knowing if he's married or not.

but first things first - end your relationship if that's what you want to do....by NO means start a new relationship with someone until your old one is done....even just "friends" with this new guy may totally turn your world upsidedown and make a mess of things.

July 31, 2007
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Rising,

I totally agree with you. If this person is intriguing you, then I have to assume that things are not very good in your current relationship - kind of like you have stated. So, the first step is to get out of the relationship you are in. It's not healthy to stay in a relationship just to avoid being alone or scared. Then, focus on moving forward, but slowly. Even if you are not happy with your current relationship, it does take time to heal a break-up. I have found that there are a lot of things that will start to pop up - things you used to do together, simply put, things that many people take for granted in a relationship, and you might start to feel some pain.

So, like Rising said, take your time and do first things first. Take care of yourself - that is above and beyond the most important part.

Good luck!

July 31, 2007
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rising and lisa ann I want to thank you for that you are right about that I need to fix my situation first and then take time for my self not only me but for my daughter to, I know that I can't just think about this cuz I have enough problems already so why look for more.

by the way this is new to me and I don't really know how to send it straight to you so hope you understand and thank you againg..

August 1, 2007
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you did this all right...keep posting...this website is very helpful to many people.

August 1, 2007
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I so understand! If you've never spoke to this person & only have seen him(I'm guessing it's a him!)
Then your just infatuted...AKA LUST!
I'm so there too! It's so hard to be in this postion You must be carefull not to complicate your life. I need to listen to myself ... Hello! I too an infatuated with some one . i've been married for years & never have strade! This man works for us & is in my yard daily. I have a huge crush on him & can not even speak to him..... I'm married to his boss! Real taboo ........ So OK we must be faithfull & not give in to our desires! I know it so hard.... It's driving me nuts! But what wil happen if we act on our desires.... What are the consequence for our behavior. Is it worth it!I can not even speak of my feeling ! I vent here. It has help alot!
Read my post days ago "Walk a thin line alone most of the time" I go into to depth about my desire of this man... It driveing me crazy, because I feel he desires me too & I can not show in any way I care for him. I truly know how you feel!
We shall encourage each other to do the right thing OK!

August 1, 2007
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wasabi thank you for given me the uppertunity to know that your having the same problems I do and thanks for understanding me. is very hard when you just don't have anyone to tell about how you really feel inside cuz you know they won't understand you.

is just so weird cuz yesturday my bf was sending me text and he was been so sweet that is just hard to believe and when I when I got home from work he was been still sweet to me I guess what I told him last helped him cuz I think he is probably worried that I'm serious about living him.

I really want to work thing out with my bf cuz I still love him and don't want to lose him we been thru,and I think that maybe cuz we don't do anything like we use to and we act like friends maybe that why I'm having feelings for this other guy...I just don't really know what to do.....

August 1, 2007
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Yes it's hard when things aren't perfect! When My husband is a jerk...alot! And other men are sweet & kind it's hard not to think .... if I where with that guy it would be different!
NOT!
The grass is not always greener on the other side it still needs mowing & watering...etc.....
I know about the silents....
I have keep my secert for about 2 years.... I have no control about seperating myself either he works for us, I see him almost everyday!
It doesn't help that he is fine to look at too! I found myself looking in his car when no one was around to get a since of him... ok I never told any one that! I tell you it is bad! I have no idea why I can not stop thinking about him & it seems he likes me too........I have to distance myself from him completly!
I do not know how long you have been with your bf but take your time & make a list of pros & cons on staying with this person. Why when what .... an look at it over & over ! Don't stay just because he is nice THIS week!
Take care!
Wasabi

August 1, 2007
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wasabi I think is more hard for you cuz is been 2yrs that you feel this passion for this person, I think that if it would be me in your shoes I would had gone crazy of wanting to hold him and touch him at list is to much danger to be around, if he works for your husband is more difficult for you. I think you should talk to your husband and try to make up if you still care for him I don't really know what is going on but I hope that can fix something with him.

wasabi do you still love your husband?

what do you really want to do what does your heart tell you?

August 2, 2007
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Mariposita*
Well there is no talking to my husband.....he is so hard headed!
We love each other very much & have alot of passion also! My husband is a powerful man & wealthy , handsom etc... I'm like a Quenn JK!
No one can speak to me with out permission.... esp. one of his men!
This is mostly in my mine & I will never act on my desire for this guy!
All though lately I can not get him out of my head! Last winter he spoke to me in spanish he asked me if I was cold... I just stood there for a moment looking at him & finally I said in spainah just a little.... my husband was close by & I'm shocked he spoke to me at all!
So any way it's been lots of little things , looks , smiles , waves , a few words. over many months...
I could never tell my husband...NEVER!
This week my husband & I are ok!
He is doing a great thing for me right now & it's costing him a lot of his money! He even said i must love you alot to be doing this!
He calls it The Tajmahall!
It is pretty awsome too!
My own space/ it's a barn / studio & tack room on our property.
With top of the line materials. Water & electric. Just for me!
I told him I was going to move into it & he could come visit me!
But last week he was mad at the world & stop working on my barn & was a big jerk & said I did not deserve it ..... he is real hot & cold! Narssistic SOB!
But he is also very charming an sexy so I'm his....We have been together 20+ years have 2 kids ...When he is mad he tells me to go be with some other man or go back to wear I came from OK yeah right....
So you see he is real hurtful at times & then awsome .... It real hard when I have some sexy nice guy tring to get my attention... not to take notice!
He is lucky I'm not the kind to test him with his threats!
You know it is easyer to be unfaithful , it's harder to resist!
Esp. if it's in your face!
I'm sure & know women come on to him also.... I would be crushed if he screwed around.... So I would never do that to him. He is controling & a big jerk sometimes but I have it real good here.... So I must weight the pro's & con's too!
For now I stay!

I would love to run my hands thur this guys his hair..... & kiss the back of his neck....BUT I will not can not shall not go there...
But I want to badley!
I'm not going out to bar's & saying oh well he hit on me I could help it!
I'm in my own home in my own yard. mining my own bee's wax!
I hide from this guy & see him from adistance ... it's crazy how powerful lust can be .... I can feel his eyes on me! But I do keep my distance ...It's killing me!
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
What does your name mean isn't that butterfly in spainsh????
Thanks for listening to my crazyness!
WASABI

August 2, 2007
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heay maripocita means butterfly....why do you think it sounds bad? I really didn't know what nickname to put cuz I have very bad memory and that is the only thing nick that I don't forget. what about you what does wasabi mean?

August 2, 2007
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I like it... I thought it meant butterfly!
Wasabi means a lot of things secerctly to me!
But it is a asian paste /horseradish & God only knows what!
Just a tad is very HOT !
if you get too much it will take your breath away... it opens your sences an wow it's powerful.
Just a tad is all you need !
It is deeper for me!
Long story!
Sorry you have bad memories!
I have a very cool memory about butterflies !
I'll never forget it!

I was a teen & riding my hores with a friend down a path we took all the time... Well there where some butterflys then more & more 100's of them flying around us hanging onto each other landing on us & the horses
it was so cool like a dream! I've never again seen anything like it....
They must of been hatcing out there or something!It was very beautifull!
An strange too!
Hope your are doing good!
Wasabi
ps Butterfly represence a new birth.
a new begining a new stage of life!
Freedom to fly about & spread your wings!
Wasabi

August 2, 2007
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have you ever felt that something is going on? like as if you have a feeling and it becomes truth? well yesturday I got home a little bit earlier than my bf and then my heart started betting very fast it was weird like all the times I have that same feeling, anyway I stay in an apartment with my girl and my bf and in front theres a swimming pool so there was a few ladys there and he was looking at them I know that maybe I over reacted but I felt that he just wanted to see them, so I felt very jealous cuz he was like in a hurry to go outside so he gave me an excuse, he said that we should go pick my girl and go get water...and I told him that we should wait for a little bit but than he said that he will wait for me in the car and than I said why are you in such hurry and he said I just want to hurry to rest but he made me belive that it was a lie so I had to say something to him and he got mad with me.
he said that it wasn't truth that it wasn't cuz of that and I said whatever lying all the time....
so he look very unhappy after what I said to him when he was so happy and didn't know how to not show it........

August 3, 2007
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Maripocita
I'm not sure where your going!
What's going on?
Did you catch him wit your friend or just looking at other women?
and what did you say & why is he sad!
More 411?
Wasabi

August 5, 2007
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I don't know what to do anymore with my relationship he seems like he does love me but than he just don't show it.
it seems like he doesn't want to be with me he is always making excuse for him not to be around me...but why? I just don't understand....
we have 2yrs. living together and he doesn't even think about marriage or kids I just don't think he loves me I think his just use to me, but that is it.
today in the morning I asked him if he still love me and he said yeah...but he never shows that he does he doesn't he don't even want to kiss me or hug me or even make love to me, I'm just getting tiered of this relationship I don't know what to think anymore.......

August 5, 2007
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Mary*
My Granny use to say why by mike when you have a cow!
......Not that your a cow but your giving him FREE milk so what's in it for him he has no need to make more comettment when your all ready his!
Maybe you need to take the cow out to the country!
And he will have to buy some milk!
Stop waiting for him live your life like you could care less weather he is with you or not give him a challenge no one like a easy thing!
make him work for your love & attention! Your worth it!
MMMMMoooooooo
NOOOOO MORRRREEEE! Free milk!

August 6, 2007
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well as for the guy that I start to feel something for I don't think I will ever see him not only cuz I won't be working around him anymore and not only that is for the better, and know I feel much about it cuz your right about fixing my problems first.....

I really don't feel so good know I talk to my bf and told him that I want him to move on without me that I'm tiered of the way our relationship and maybe is for the best to go our separate ways and he didn't say anything he just said well fine I will go just give me a month untill I get money by the end of the month.

I felt so bad but maybe it will be for the best but I'm so afraid and it hurts me just to think about him living, and if he does what will I do at first...is so hard as it is......

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