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December 29, 2005
9:01 pm
hurt and confused
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December 29, 2005
9:13 pm
hurt and confused
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I hit a wrong button and oops what happened. I sent nothing. Anyway, I have a question. I am working in an office with a bunch of women. I try to stay out of things but it does not seem to work,. I am second in charge and the 1st in charge, I think has a problem with controlling and micromanaging. The other staff say that she has a thing against me because I threaten her. I am not the type of person who lets bad, mean and unnecessary things go by. I like a smooth work place. She also has to be the center of it all. My staff think that she is putting them between us. I talked to our executive to find out what i could do to make things right. I told them that I have to watch my back all the time and that takes away from my mind time. I will make stupid mistakes worring about my back. Granted, I am learning to not sweat the small stuff but my staff and her staff feel it and see it.

I am planning at our next meeting on having a questionaire that we would not be able to trace the answers back to an individual. That way, we could see what we need to do to make a great working enviroment.

I don't care the critiques. I want to make an improvement of our office. Our staff are afraid to speak, and be normal. I see it in their body language. Body language is 70 percent of our communication skills.

Our envoronment is negative anyway.(law enforcement). We don't need to have in in our office.
I strongly beleive that the department head is the reason for the unhappiness. I have reevaluated myself and willing to change to make it work but they are afraid.

What do you think. Hurt

December 29, 2005
11:30 pm
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I can so relate to this "type" f supervisor.. I had a couple like this in the past, and coworkers were too afraid to "rock the boat" or speak up regarding anything that I felt I was looking like a "troublemker" when I only wanted a kinder, less "playground" like work environment because so much of it was totally unneccesary, and out of line.
alot of times some peole let their titles go to their heads, i suppose... Is there an HR person you can suggest that your "higher up" perhaps go to a seminar, or claas type work/morle class.. Lots of companies offer and often require this sort of retraining and regrouping.

It can often be difficult, if the person is so manipulative that their superiors thing they walk on water and can do no wrong.. but ya' can be surprized that some times they end up digging their own employment graves.

I wish you the BEST of luck, as I know how exhausting and distracting this type of environment can be...
Hang in there!!1


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