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December 16, 2003
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Hi all - the following is something that was written by a man on my job that was dying of cancer. He has since passed away but his words live on---
"As someone living with cancer, who by necessity has faced my own mortality, let me gently suggest to you that you work your life backward from that final scene. Know now what you want your life to mean, what you want your lagacy to be, and imbue those thousands of days between now and then with the actions and the values that will reap what you seek to harvest in your life".

I intend to read this everyday to remind myself of what should be priorities in my life and how I want to be remembered when I am gone. That might be an interesting thread - What would you like your legacy to be? Me - someone who loved life and lived it to the fullest - who never intentionally hurt anyone - who gave for the pure joy of giving and who was loved for exactly who and what I am. Me.

December 16, 2003
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Hi Deehmah,

Cancer is a funny thing - as I guess any possibly terminal illness is. Makes us take stock of things.

When I was going through treatment, it was hard for the adults to see the kids going through the treatments, yet, the kids seemed to have a better handle on things.

My decision at that time, and still is that when I die I want the following:

1. My collections of knick knacks - donate them to the Children's Cancer Center.

2. Jewelry, I have selected my kids, and some really good friends, nieces to have various pieces.

3. Everything else, goes to my husband.

4. Anyone starts a fuss over anything of mine immediately forfiets what I might have left them.

5. I do NOT want a funeral. I'm still considered a Catholic, so a private Mass for only my husband, kids, any of my family that might want to attend (they will probably not want to spend the plane fare), and some close friends. Then, put me in the ground and call it a day. Plain casket, no flowers.

When my husband's Aunt died a few months back to me it just hit so suddenly. The entire time he and I have been married which is over 13 years, I have always heard how much everyone hated this Aunt. Then, at her funeral they are all sitting there crying and what were they going to do now that she was gone? They never made time to see her while she was alive. Made me really look at things differently. Why have a $20,000 funeral when you are gone?

He was right... leave a legacy for those whom you love.

I hope mine is:

1. Was a good person

2. Kind to others

3. Kind to animals

4. Loving wife and mother



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