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Wonder never cease....
August 30, 2007
7:10 pm
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I can't wait to be divorced...those are literally words I never EVER thought I would be happy to write. I grew up with divorced parents and I never wanted this for my child...but my alternative, spending the rest of my life or at least then next 15 years until our child is old enough to be on his own...living a life filled with lies. No way....It's sad too, I have always tried to see the good in him, tried to forgive him because I knew in his heart he was a good person. It blows my mind how people sabotage their lives.

I told my soon to be XH that I wanted a divorce on Monday...believe it or not I finally reached my limit...only took almost 18 years...what a waste! The one good thing I did get out of it was our child, thankfully.

So I am allowing him to sleep on the couch right now until he can kind a place to stay....I go to clean up after him.....because I can't leave the mess hanging around and I pour out an empty beer bottle that is in a coozie on the counter....in the sink falls the corner of a plastic bag....hmmm, wonder what that is from?? So my thoughts of him using again are definately validated...he just bought himself a one way ticket out of our house.

Loser!!!! He has the odacity to not only be living up to being a father or a husband but he is going to bring drugs into this house with our child?? Wrong....see ya later.

I can honestly not understand the down and out's of an addict although I have literally been down practically every road with him but it still just blows my mind that nothing else except his own greedy ways matter.

He needs to go, now. I made the choice to take my life back on Monday by stating I wanted the divorce and now I need to take my home back too. I will not be under the control of manipulated emotions anymore. He is a grown man and if he can lie, sneak and manipulate around this world, so be it....goodbye, hope it is worth the ride.

Thanks to anyone that has listened (or rather read) I feel much better getting this stuff off my chest and I know so many of you can relate. I know it certainly helps me to know that I am not the only one that can feel "crazy" from time to time living with an addict or being co-dependent and not putting down healthy boundaries.

Here's to changed ways and living without the weight of all that negative crap!

August 30, 2007
10:20 pm
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(((Readytobefree))) I am so sorry for all that you are going through. I am so happy though that you had the courage to stand up for yourself and do whats best for you and your child.

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