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Wish me luck with p test
October 17, 2007
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Well, here goes...
I am 40 no kids (widowed for 2 years after 18 years in a mostly platonic marriage) Have been with bf for almost a year. We are electric together.. I have joked to him that our chemistry is so strong that I was afraid I would get preg ON BC pills. Well, 2 months ago I had to stop BC pills due to medical complications..... and guess what?? 10 days late...... I could kick myself for letting myself get into this situation...

I know I will handle whatever happens, but have been through so much the past 2 years. Neither one of us are that great emotionally - we both have issues we're working on......

Please please please wish me negative luck

Please someone say something positive.

Plus I know all I am going to hear is how stupid I am for allowing this to happen....

October 17, 2007
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first of all - not gonna kick you when you are down - you realize you made a mistake - and you are hurting enough as it is.

Now - good luck and I hope that the results are what you wish for.

I am 36 - I am due with a child after I turn 37 - it's not the most fun thing - but I am looking forward to the new addition - but we also wanted this.

I know how scared you must be - and I hope it all turns out for the best.

Going forward - learn from this and find an alternate means of protection - if you don't want your tubes tied, there is a new thing out that goes in your tubes that blocks them - looks fascinating - and easy - and permanent...if you don't want permanent - then perhaps stocking up on condoms or some other method....but I am sure you have already thought about it.

good luck to you.

October 17, 2007
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good luck with a NEGATIVE result, and yes, take protection down the road, cuz anything can happen.

What did "he" say about you possibly being preggo???

October 17, 2007
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another thought - just throwing this out -

I don't know what your issues are - but sometimes you can still have a family and work thru them.

MAYBE (if you believe in such things) this was meant to be on some kind of level? meaning maybe god or your higher power thinks it is the right time to have a family?

have you EVER wanted kids?

I had my daughter when I was 22 1/2, and she was NOT expected and it wasn't the best situation - I was losing my housing situation - I had no car - I was thousands of miles from hom - and I didn't know too many people.

BUT - it gave me will to live and go on - and I enjoyed it immensely.

I was recently involved in two relationships - for five years I "hoped" to get pregnant with both men - thankfully I didn't.

I was with my current BF for less than a year - when we decided to try (age being a driving force here) and on the first try, it happened.

for five years it didn't, now first time trying, it did.

so, if it's NOT negative - perhaps there is a good reason you did get pregnant?

October 17, 2007
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Rising
congrats to you! The funny thing is I don't feel scared - I don't feel anything... I just am mad at myself because of course I had a drawer full of condoms and am just irresponsible..
PS I am looking into a tubal or that new method regardless

Camer
I wouldnt say he is happy, seems worried. I am pretty sure (u know u can never tell what someone else is going to do) that he will stay, be supportive

October 17, 2007
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well, roll with it...think about the future - no matter what the situation - and start thinking about "what next".

and don't spend too much time kicking yourself for this.

IF you are pregnant - you need to stay stress free - and focus on the wonderful stuff that is happening.

What kinds of issues do you guys deal with that you are worried about bringing a child into?

October 17, 2007
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Rising
I thought about that,too. If I am then it was meant to be. I wanted kids when I was younger, but then when I was married definately didn't want kids with my husband.
Ironically my bf and I talked about kids when we first started dating and I think he was on the fence but I was the one to say NO WAY!
Issues we have are probably like everyone else on this site! Issues - bf is recovering alcoholic - doing good - 2 1/2 yrs sober. goes to AA and really believes in the program. I am "recovering" (but have relapses) anorexic bulimic. We are both unbelievably immature. Neither one of us has had a healthy relationship but are trying really hard not to make same mistakes - I think you get the pic...
I am also concerned that I am on Coumadin and I looked up on the internet and saw there is a 25% chance of birth defects.. also my sister has 2 deaf children...

October 17, 2007
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try not to stress about your sister's children - because their father also plays a part in their genetics.

we all have "risk" factors - being over 35 - I was given this real long lecture about the risks involved - enough to panic anyone.

But we reasoned that if it was meant to be, we'd handle it.

We had some diagnostic tests done - just to make sure baby was physically healthy - but nothing invasive like amnio - since we didn't want ANY risk of miscarriage - and really, didn't want to worry for the last x number of months about having a down syndrome baby...I figured that I would stress too much - so not knowing would be better on me.

baby is fine...my risk factor was dropped WAY down and we sleep easy regarding this.

It sounds like your BF is doing well with the program - and as far as your issues - bulemia will be something you have to be careful of - cuz weight gain IS required during pregnancy and you need to eat for the baby to thrive. Knowing this tho, you could easily just make sure you get some extra support or counseling to make sure you stay healthy.

As far as immaturity - you would be surprised at how quickly you "grow up" when a baby shows up - many people mature in ways they never thought they would...so again, maybe it's a good thing - like a reason to be better?

one day at a time - find out if you are (and you SHOULD be taking folic acid 1 MG DAILY right now, just in case you are)....and get to a doctor to evaluate your health and well being, once you know. Some docs won't see you right away - so get one some good vitamins and folic acid as soon as possible, until you can see the doc.

Whatever the outcome - I wish you luck.

October 17, 2007
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Hey Pinky, We all have some issues in our lives. I am not perfect and neither is my husband. My hubby and I were high school sweethearts and I had my son in 12th grade. From the grace and mercy from God, We've manage to raise three wonderful boys ages, 10,12, and 14! I get the normal stuff; like, not cleaning up their rooms, and I forgot to bring my books home from school etc. I always get great compliments from my boys teachers on how well behave and smart they are. Anyway, I am glad that I did had children, because if I didn't, the Lord only knows where would I be right now. Bascially, what I'm saying to you is maybe it might be a good thing, Who knows! I wish you the best of luck.

~Tuna

October 17, 2007
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Hi Pinky, Although sometimes we don't plan to have our children it can be a very rewarding experience. I would not trade my son for the world (even tho he is being a pain right now). If we all waited until our "issues" were resolved I think the population would drop drastically. In life there is always something that will come up, some issue will present itself, that is one thing you can definately count on.

Good Luck! My prayers are with you.

October 17, 2007
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Amen to that Unforgiven!

October 18, 2007
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WWHEEEWW!!
Thanks for all your support!
I took the test this morning and it was NEGATIVE - what a relief!
I have appt on thursday w/GYN and am definately either getting tubal or essure. NOT going through this again! But thanks to you all I felt better about either way it would have worked.

October 18, 2007
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it is still kind of early - hate to be party pooper here.

make sure the ob/gyn knows you thought you were pregnant...so they can take a blood test to be certain.

October 18, 2007
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Pink....what great news!!! glad all worked out well for you!!!

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